Has a busy lifestyle, personal baggage, or loss of a loved one come between you and your spouse? Restore your passionate connection with this encouraging handbook! Offering practical advice born of experience counseling couples, Smalley and Stoever help you overcome the struggles of a loveless marriage to build a happy and fulfilling partnership. Paperback. A Focus on the Family Recommendation.
The Wholehearted Marriage offers practical tools for helping couples keep a passionate connection with one another and understand the role their hearts play in their lives. Drs. Smalley and Stoever maintain that circumstances, such as busy lifestyles, differences between spouses, personal baggage, the loss of a loved one, childhood trauma, etc., trigger reactions that condition us to close up our hearts for protection, blocking the flow of love. A disengaged, protected heart makes it impossible to experience an intimate, connected marriage. As a result, couples drift apart, trying to find some version of contentment, or they give up altogether and look for love somewhere else.
Through their experiences in marriage counseling, Drs. Smalley and Stoever discovered that the commonly heard phrase "I don't love him/her anymore" is merely a camouflaged misunderstanding about what true love is and God's design for it. They affirm that love is more than just a feeling, and that to have true, lasting intimacy, couples need to learn to love wholeheartedly.
Dr. Greg Smalley
serves as Executive Director of Marriage and Family Formation at Focus on the Family. Prior to joining Focus, Smalley worked for the Center for Relationship Enrichment at John Brown University and as president of the National Institute of Marriage. He is the author of eleven books, including The DNA of Relationships
, The DNA of Parent and Teen Relationships
, and The Wholehearted Marriage
. Greg lives in Colorado with his wife Erin and their four children.
Dr. Shawn Stoever currently serves as a senior director for the WinShape Foundation (a nonprofit ministry of Chick-fil-A), overseeing Marriage, Retreat, and Experiential Learning ministries. Prior to his role at WinShape,
he served as the director of training for the Smalley Relationship Center
in Branson, Missouri.
Whether he's leading retreats, writing, or appearing on television and radio broadcasts, Shawn's humor, enthusiasm, and wisdom help him connect with his audience. Despite extensive schooling, Shawn says he really did not know anything about relationships until he met his wife Christina. They have four wonderful children: Taylor, Cade, Avery (with the Lord), and Cody.
"Unleash the heart of your marriage! Greg and Shawn have made it easy.... You'll want to read this book with your whole heart." -- Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, founders of RealRelationships.com and authors of Love Talk
"Every now and then a great book on marriage comes along. This book ranks in that category!" -- Dr. Tim Clinton, president of the American Association of Christian Counselors
"Greg and Shawn share their hearts, as well as their years of professional experience, in hopes that you would be equipped and encouraged. Their practical insights are based on sound studies, which will help you excel in your marriage. I heartily recommend their book." -- Ken Canfield , PhD, author of They Call Me Dad and executive director of Boone Center for the Family, Pepperdine University