"What Are You Waiting For?" - Yada, Yada, Yada....
March 19, 2011
When I first received this book, my first reaction was one of excitement. (I LOVE NEW BOOKS!) My second reaction was "Oh snap! Now everyone is going to know I read this!" But I am reviewing it nonetheless and I hope you stick around to hear what I have to say about this book.
Back in 2007 I went to one of Dannah Gresh's Pure Freedom events and ever since then, when I would hear the word "yada" my mind would instantly take me back to that event where I learned the true meaning of the word. It's not the equivalent of "blah, blah, blah" as I had initially thought, but it's real meaning is "to know, to be known, to be deeply respected." This is something that I have held onto ever since the Pure Freedom conference all those years ago.
In What Are You Waiting For? Dannah takes this word, "yada" and traces it from Genesis to Revelation shedding light on God's view and purpose of sex. (Oh I just said S-E-X. Are you feeing uncomfortable yet?) Well, if you are this book will be a hard read for you.
This world has turned sex into something that is no big deal and something that "everyone is doing" and has completely disregarded the sacredness of it that God had intended.
What Are You Waiting For? also brings in several other topics including
-"Friends with Benefits"
And other topics as well. In short:
Friends with Benefits - Not only is this a sin, but it's also impossible for both parties NOT to be hurt in the process. With the way God made us and because this is not in His plan for us, it leaves you broken, confused, and having "benefits" in there is a complete lie! There are no benefits.
Masturbation - This is addressed directly and as the sin that it is.
Pornography - To quote a friend of mine, "Pornography cheapens sexuality, objectifies the human body, reducing it to an object of gratification. " Dannah expands on this topic more in her book.
Other topics include homosexuality and other difficult sexual issues.
What Are You Waiting For? Is written in a blunt manner and could be an uncomfortable book to read. That much Dannah writes to you on the first page. As this is written to an older audience (mainly senior high and college girls) I would recommend it for the audience to which it is written and no younger than that. The direct style in which it is written is much needed in the world today. The main message in this book is abstinence.
Before you might have been thinking "yada, yada, yada" as in "blah, blah, blah" but after reading this book, I know that when you hear "yada, yada, yada" it will have a whole new meaning to you!
"What Are You Waiting For? The One Thing No One Ever Tells You About Sex" by Dannah Gresh is the perfect book for any single woman curious about sex; so any single woman could benefit from reading this book. Dannah's approach is to be totally honest about how awesome sex is within the confines of marriage as God intended it to be. Being a college sophomore who didn't wait until marriage I found healing in the "Starting Over" chapter and with much prayer have found freedom from my past. God's will for sex is beautiful. Sex is not just a physical act but a spiritual connection as well, Dannah emphasizes the difference between sex within marriage (yada) and sex outside marriage (shakab). Dannah does a great job providing insight on topics most people shy away from when encouraging singles to wait until marriage. She confronts porn, masturbation, and confusion about sexuality by digging through God's word and presenting His opinion and direction. Throughout the book I found comfort in knowing God's word is always at the forefront of Dannah's discussion. Dannah looks to God's word to provide true guidance for girls who choose to remain pure for the one who is God's best for them. I will definitely be passing this book around to every girl I know!
Disclaimer: I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.