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Publication Date: 2015
Not entitled to get angry? Really?
Its a radical, provocative idea: Were not entitled to get offended or stay angry. The idea of our own "righteous anger" is a myth. It is the number one problem in our societies today and, as Dallas Willard says, Christians have not been taught out of it.
As it turns out, giving up our "right" to be offended can be one of the most freeing, healthy, simplifying, relaxing, refreshing, stress-relieving, encouraging things we can do.
In Unoffendable readers will find something of immeasurable valuea concrete, practical way to live life with less stress. Theyll adjust their expectations to fit human nature and replace perpetual anger with refreshing humility and gratitude.
The book offers a unique viewpoint, challenging the idea that Christians can ever harbor "righteous anger" or that there evenis such a thing for believers.
Few other books exist with such a radical, provocative proposal to consider. We have no right to anger. We are to get rid of it, period. Completely. And it is possible to choose to be "unoffendable."
Through the authors winsome, humorous, and conversational style, this book doesnt add another thing to do on a stressed-out persons ever-growing list. Better, it actually seeks to lift religious burdens from readers backs and allow them to experience the joy of gratitude, perhaps for the first time, every single day of their lives.
Brant Hansen is a radio host who has won multiple National Personality of the Year awards. He also works with CURE International, a worldwide network of hospitals that brings life-changing medical care and the good news of Gods love to children with treatable conditions. Brant currently lives in Northern California with his wife, Carolyn; his son, Justice; and his daughter, Julia. He can be found at branthansen.com and @branthansen on Twitter.
James RubergAge: 45-54Gender: male5 Stars Out Of 5UnoffendableMarch 24, 2018James RubergAge: 45-54Gender: maleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Unoffendable is an excellent book. It held my attention all the way through. Brant Hansen has a good sense of humor. He presents truth that cuts to the core. I found the Lord using this book to convict me in areas of my life. Everybody thinks they have rights + their anger is justified. Brant portrays a different side to this issue. The Lord Jesus surrendered His rights when He came to earth and went to the cross. According to Hansen, Jesus is the only one who's anger is justified because He has all the facts regarding a situation. Anger is a God given emotion. But, we have to learn to control it. There are many things that offend us. Hansen says we need to learn to forgive.
Luci5 Stars Out Of 5Amazing book! So glad I saw it on someone's reading list!August 21, 2017LuciQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Seriously, I saw the title of this book on a Goodreads reading list a friend set up and I decided that I had to read it. So I ordered a copy and stayed up most of the night reading it. Then I told my friends about it and loaned it out. Then I re-read it. Then I ordered more copies so I can share it with my Bible study group - we will use it as our springboard for our study time this autumn!
It is an amazing book. I have always had trouble with my temper. As I grew older and raised my kids I got more and more control over my temper but I was still pretty sure that it was OK to be angry at "stupid drivers" on the road with me and "crazy people" who posted their lunacy on Facebook. But God kept nudging me with the idea that I might be wrong. But how to change? This wonderful, funny, gentle book titled "Unoffendable" has worked wonders in teaching me how to change. I highly recommend it. Buy several copies so you can loan them out!
I have absolutely no affiliation with the author or publishers of this book. I just really like it.
db505 Stars Out Of 5Very HelpfulJanuary 6, 2017db50Quality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5I found this book to be very helpful and really recommend this to everyone.
CliffymaniaMichiganAge: 35-44Gender: male4 Stars Out Of 5Really needed in our modern thin-skinned-don't-disagree-that's-mean churchJune 11, 2015CliffymaniaMichiganAge: 35-44Gender: maleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 4Brant Hansen is a closet Lutheran. What I mean is that his view of grace, scripture, and even his view of humanity are all Lutheran.
I hope that isnt offensive.
I was first introduced to Brant Hansen through the Brant and Sherri podcast. A friend sent me one of those, Hey, I think youll like this notes and told me to listen. My friend was right; I do like them. I like them for their sincerity, for their humor, and for their humility when it comes to talking about Christianity.
When I saw the book I had to read it and I wasnt disappointed.
Unoffendable has a simple premise: stop getting angry. He doesnt leave it in such crude terms as if you can just turn off your anger and the rest of your life will be sunshine and cupcakes. Instead, without talking about steps, or lists, or some made up leadership buzz word, he surreptitiously takes you through several scenarios where we typically get angry and offended. Often using his own life experience he will ask why this so offensive, what does the Bible say about it, and what would be a better approach?
Whats our natural reaction to someone telling us not to get angry? Immediately we conjure up scenarios of things we have every right to be angry about. Hansens answer; of course, there are things that are going to make us angry and rightly so, but anger isnt constructive. Are you angry about the homeless? Then dont get angry about people who arent doing anything, find a way to help.
Hansen has been a host on Christian radio for years and came to a realization: he offends a lot of people, and they all have phones. Leading him to ask; why do we get so offended by whats on the internet? Why do we feel we have to answer every idiot and their bad theology? Why do we feel like we need to correct every last word? The answers, in the beginning, are simple; Jesus says not to be angry; give up your right to get angry; stop thinking everyone but you is an idiot; stop seeing Satan everywhere.
The book shifts at chapter 8: Aint You Tired? The simple answers stop and the introspection begins. Can you love those who hate you? He means really love them. Not just say you love them and go on hating everything about them, but actually love them? If we are going to be unoffendable it means forgiving others and extending the grace that we hope is extended to us.
Our answer to forgiveness is often the same as our answer to anger; we invent a scenario where the person were forgiving still has a lot of work to do to really earn that forgiveness because we dont want them to get any inclination that sin doesnt matter. This is where Hansen comes back to grace; of course there is sin and right and wrong, but thats why grace is grace. Its unfair. God is unfair in forgiving us so we can be unfair in forgiving others.
There is one sticky point in the book about the Law, but the correction only helps make Hansens point clearer. We are often offended because we are trying to be good Christians; keeping the rules and making sure others do the same. The problem is we cant keep the rules. In the Bible, the Pharisees thought they were keeping the Law and looked down on everyone who didnt. Keeping the Law and keeping the rules is impossible which is why good Christians dont exist.
Heres the sticky point. Hansen adds that Jesus ended the law as a means to righteousness taking away our supposed path to earning grace. Heres where Hansens point could be all the clearer; the law was never a means to righteousness. It only shows our unrighteousness. Righteousness comes by faith and it always has according to Pauls letter to the Galatians. So, we need not think that keeping the rules earns grace and neither do we lose grace when we fail to keep them.
Being unoffendable, Hansen says, is dying to self and this is where he goes all Lutheran. We are, many of us, insecure in our position with God. We get offended to feel justified and for a moment this alleviates our insecurities. Grace, however, is God granting us security in Him. Its His way of saying youre free to fail without fear of losing your position. Not that we seek to justify our sin, but rather, whatever we do or leave undone doesnt change the fact that Christ is still going to save those who trust in His grace.
Grace means we are free to please God out of love and not worry about the offenses of our fellow humans.
If youre tired of being offended and want to hear about the assurance of Gods grace, this book is for you. What sets it apart is that Hansen isnt offering a 5 step process, or suggesting youll receive greater blessings for doing this, or that. He writes like a guy who has been confronted with his own anger, his ease at taking offense, or offending others, and started looking through the Bible to make sense out of it. It isnt lofty, it isnt patronizing, its just Brant.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookLook Bloggers book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commissions 16 CFR, Part 255 : Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.
Klassy TotsNigeriaAge: 25-34Gender: Female5 Stars Out Of 5UNOFFENDABLEApril 28, 2015Klassy TotsNigeriaAge: 25-34Gender: FemaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5I struggle with anger-- when I am angered by somebody, I just ignore them and behave as if they don't exists, meanwhile I struggle with the hurt in my mind whether to let it go or confront them (which i always don't do). Give me a few hours or days (depending on the gravity of the offense) and I'll just push it aside. Not because I have forgiven (which I actually do) or forgotten, but because I just decide to lay it to rest-- for peace sake.
I am always in between getting angry and not getting angry. While a lot of people believe that anger is right and shows how strong you are, and expects me to be angry and probably explode; others simply think that Christians are not supposed or do not have the right to be angry, and so they tend to question our Christian faith when they see you angry or act out of anger.
Well, I just believe that whether one is a Christian or not, we can decide to either be offended at everything or be unoffendable (be it righteous or unrighteous anger).
The idea of being unoffendable has always been a topic of interest to me. I have always wanted to be that person that is unoffendable, even when I have the right to. So I read a lot of self help books on anger and how to deal with it, but I didn't seem to find a strong reason to make me decide to be unoffendable. Then I found this book:Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better and requested for a review copy.
Though I kept the book for weeks without actually reading it because I felt like it would be like other books I have read on the same matter.
But it wasn't. This book is different from any self-help book you've ever read.
It is not a self-help book. It is more like a memoir. It contains personal stories, experiences and scriptural references. It doesn't tell you how to do or not do anything. You just read and learn and decide.
This book is fun, easy to read, simple and conversational. It's a book you can easily relate to-- whether you are a Christian or not.
I like how the author presents the truth in a simple logical manner. I like how he admits his own struggles and sometimes makes fun of himself. He doesn't sound preachy, judgmental or self-righteous.
This book is challenging and absolutely worth reading. It is a must read for everyone.
Do you have a right to be angry? Is it true that we cannot do anything meaningful without anger?
Brant Hansen answers this question with personal stories and Scriptural references giving us reasons to drop anger and chose instead to be Unoffendable .
This book has helped me immensely. I have finally been able to move from being in between being angry or not to choosing to be unoffendable.
Anger feels right and powerful. It feels like it can change things when nothing else can.
But after the reaction, or explosion, or yelling, or cursing, or ordering, or silent treatment, every other thing we do in the name of anger, people are left friendless, convicted, guilty, sinful or even worse than they were (including the one who was angry)... Does it change anything? I mean make things better? No! I think it doesn't always make things or people better.
We may try to rationalize it, give reasons why we are right-- to make ourselves feel better or rather justified;-- and in that way we change our anger from a sin against God to a virtue that we have for God, even when we know deep down that we didn't do right.
That's the message Brant Hansen has in this book Unoffendable. We have bought a lie that anger is Okay for Christians, and in believing this lie, we've placed ourselves on par with God Himself.
So Whats the solution? Read this book!!
Let me share some thoughts I took home from this book:
"The thing that you think makes your anger 'righteous' is the very thing you were called to forgive" This is for those Christians who get angry and tag it 'holy' or 'righteous anger'.
"Only God God has the right to be angry. Only God is allowed anger and vengeance." "Vengeance is mine, says the Lord"...
Yes, only God is allowed anger. Because we stand as guilty as whoever is the target of our anger. God is everything that we are not-- Perfect... We can trust Him with anger. His character allows it.
"The world is broken... people are selfish, self-centered, perverse, wicked, rude, and everything we can think of, and will always do things that will get you offended. But don't offended by what people do or say to you or offended at the corrupt and declining state of the world. Instead, thank God that He's intervened in it, and He's going to restore it.--- Gratitude and anger can't co-exist.
When we love people where they are, and love them boldly, it will be difficult for us to be offended by them.
Refusing to be angry about others views or acts or cruelty isn't conflict avoidance or happy -talk. It's the very nature of serving people.
Loving others, forgiving others, and being Unoffendable shows humility, our sense and level of maturity, strength and how Christlike we are.
The Bible recommend that we be childlike. Because It takes a childlike heart and humility to embrace the love of God, to realize how "unfair" it is, and then add, quickly, but "it's OK!', "I'll take care of it!", "I forgive you (even before the offender ever thinks of apologizing)!"
Being Unoffendable , people might think you are stupid, never mind, you can be the Christian they know.
We can't be believers, and remain angry with the people who hurt or offend us. These are simply incompatible.
Read this book; If you have ever stayed up at night stewing over an offense or recounting what Mr B said that got you angry or how he embarrassed you in front of that girl or guy you've been eying or in front of your fans or general public.
Read this book, if you have ever lost your temper, throw things around, destroy things, wound people, curse, or refused to do certain things because of anger.
Read this book; If you have ever lost a sweet relationship or friendship, lost a job, missed an opportunity to love, care for or help someone because of offense.
If you have ever wondered how to respond to those nasty emails, annoying critics or comments on your facebook wall and blog, this book is for you.
This book is an ideal read for everyone.
I encourage you to buy this book and read it.
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