Itss countercultural to refuse to utter those three words we say without even thinking, Im too busy. I dont want to be too busy. I want to be available.
We all know that life is busy and chaotic and we know that friendship like most relationships takes work. But in the world we live in today, friendships seem to have taken a back seat to other more enjoyable things and we are quickly becoming unfriended with the push of a button. Being a friend is one of the greatest gifts God has provided us and also one of the most heartbreaking things we can endure when they end. Navigating the culture of friendship is one of the most rewarding yet sometimes difficult things we will ever experience. Lisa Jo Baker has written a book that addresses all these topics and more. She has shared her own personal journey in being the odd girl out and coming full circle to being a woman who helps other women flourish. Never Unfriended tackles the daunting effects of lost friendship while helping us learn how to be more compassionate and available friends with the greatest examples from Jesus. This is a book you will want to read again and again and is definitely one to share with other women. Lisas book has already started a revolution of women who are changing the culture of friendship. If you want to be a part of that revival this book is for you!!
Lisa-Jo Baker's latest book, Never Unfriended, is the book on friendship every women needs to read. All of us. It's not a formula for friendship, it's more, it's an invitation to be vulnerable and messy and willing. Most of all, willing.
Maybe, though, you just aren't sure how to get there. Or maybe you've been deeply hurt by women. Maybe you've been betrayed or mocked or left out. Maybe you've given up on ever having that kind of friend. Lisa-Jo's book is for you ... an invitation to open the doors of your heart and your home, to give friendship another try.
If you've been wondering how to find those friendships where you can be yourself and people love you anyway, get this book! (But, spoiler alert, be prepared to find out the best way to find those friends is to be that friend!) Let's get messy and real! What if we became the generation of women who NEVER UNFRIENDED?!
Let's be struck by the beauty of friendship all over again, the wonder of women who aren't competing or comparing but just want to see each other thrive in the Lord. Women who don't just hope the best for each otherbut actively look for ways to equip and encourage each other.
This book is one of the best I've ever read on friendships!
April 3, 2017
This book, hands down, is the ABSOLUTE best book I have ever read about friendships. I heard the author speak once at a conference but other than that I do not know her personally, but after reading this book, I have to keep reminding myself that we aren't actually best friends - but it is written so well that I honestly feel like she is! Lisa-Jo Baker is real, raw, vulnerable and it honestly seems like she decided to be willing to go where not many people are... those past areas that may have healed over a bit but are painful to open up. She did that, and crafted something absolutely beautiful and powerful that I believe has the ability to launch every person that reads this to higher ground and a deeper and better place in their relationships than he/ she ever dreamed possible. It is filled with help, hope and a lot of wisdom and how-to's. READ THIS BOOK!!!
When I began reading this book I expected to be reading the normal rhetoric that Jesus will always be our friend. This book was so much more than that. Lisa-Jo gave heart-felt examples of the struggles we have making and keeping friendships. I laughed, I cried, I made my husband listen to me read sections so I could talk to him about it. This book touched parts of my soul, that I didn't know were even hurting. I am an introvert, so friendships have always been difficult for me, but it was refreshing to see that I am not alone in this struggle. Never Unfriended made me think deeply about the friends I have! It made me realize how blessed I am to have friends who see through my curtain of "fine" and call me out on it! But don't think this is just a book with anecdotal observations about friendships. Lisa-Jo shows us what the Bible says about friendships and how we show Jesus' light in our friendships!
I suffer from all three of the categories Lisa Jo Baker describes for the reasons we fear fully committing to friendships: the fear of being hurt, the fear of missing out and the fear of being the new girl. "Turns out, every woman has days or years when she feels like the new girl." It isn't just me! By the end of the book, I was so encouraged and so blessed that I want to face those fears head on --with Jesus -- and be the kind of friend other women really need. It isn't so much about me after all!