The secret to friendship: being a woman who helps other women flourish
April 4, 2017
At the heart of Never Unfriended is the call to BE a friend: by letting our greatest Friend, Jesus, define our worth and allowing His faithful love to shape the way we pursue friendships with other women.
In Part 1, "What are We Afraid Of?", Baker looks at some of the fears we as women have about friendship and addresses head-on the lies women often believe about their own worth and encourages us to place our trust in God's truth: "that we were always planned and wanted and included from before the beginning of time."
Part 2, "What Can't We Do About It?", addresses many of our expectations around friendship and how we need to acknowledge our limitations as friends.
Part 3, the longest section, is "What Can We Do About It?" Here Baker discusses concrete ways we can be better friends: Going first. Choosing not to be "fine." Giving the benefit of the doubt. Listening well ... and so on. Baker gives many moving and often hilarious examples from her own experience of how these principles have strengthened her relationships and helped her be a better friend to other women.
The two short chapters in Part 4, "Where Do We Start?", urge us to practice being a friend to ourselves as well as to someone else -- today. Women often have a very hard time making friends with ourselves: we focus on our shortcomings and make long lists of should's. But she encourages us to remember that (as Romans 8 emphasizes) nothing can separate us from the love -- and friendship -- of God.
Baker's style is warm, intimate, and engaging. I enjoyed her humour and vulnerability; she draws you close, just like a friend having a chat over coffee. But there is also a great deal of substance here: the book touches on some very real areas of hurt and woundedness in our personal lives and relationships, and explores many concrete, practical aspects of friendship-building and maintenance.I would unreservedly recommend Never Unfriended to any woman who wants to be a better friend to the other women in her life and who wants her relationships to be defined by the example of Jesus.
I received an Advance Reader Copy of this book and was asked to provide an honest review.
We all could use work on being a true friend. This book shows us the way, with grace and kindness.
April 4, 2017
Lisa-Jos writing is so engaging and fun. Shes light hearted and funny, but no less substantial in her words. Shes able to tell a story, share hard things, without feeling like shes beating you over the head with a should-do list. Her heart is for friendship, that women would come alongside each other in community and love each other as Christ would have us do.
After reading this book, you will know that you can be brave and risk friendship again.
April 4, 2017
I love reading Lisa-Jo's writing. She is always fun and engaging and encouraging, and this new book about friendship is sure to be helpful to many women. In Never Unfriended, Lisa-Jo shares many stories from her real life, both the good and the painful. The reader knows that the author is someone who "gets it." She understands the difficulties women face in friendship, and she has the encouragement we need to press on in friendship. After reading this book, you will know that you can be brave and risk friendship again. Because of Jesus, the One who will never unfriend you, you can be courageous and love others lavishly.
I received an advance reader's copy from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.
Lisa-Jo Baker says, "Friends are hard work. Heck, people are hard work. There's no getting around it. The only way through is through. Through the knowing and the showing up and the forgiving and the laughing and the folding laundry together and the walking kids to school and the daring to do the ugly cry in front of each other." Friendship is work. But when we put that work into it, when we do those hard times together, when we believe the best in our friends, when we commit our friends to daily prayer, the friendship is so worth it.
This book has spoken to my heart. Who hasnt been unfriended before in real life? Most of us know how it feels to sit alone at the lunch table or be excluded from the girl's night out group at church. But there is one who will never unfriend us, one who gave His life for us. Lets all start being the friend we want others to be to us.
I would recommend this book to women who have felt left out, but also to women who are comfortable in life-long relationships. There is something we can all learn from this book.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for this honest review