The key concept is to take a sabbatical from Facebook. The author says: "This book is designed to be read over a weekend though you don't have to do it that way, I'd really encourage it. The book is also designed to be read while you are taking three days off from your favorite social network probably Facebook. It's a time to detox. It's time for a weekendand maybe longer to unfriend yourself from your favorite social media. So true. You can read it in a weekend. It's not to take you off Facebook permanently. It has three short chapters. The chapters are 1) Detox, 2) Discern, 3) Decide, 4) Conclusion. The book is about how to unfriend yourself from Facebook for approximately three days. The biggest thing is reconnecting with family and friends off Facebook.
We spend so much time on the computer through Facebook. Take time off from there. Life doesn't evolved around on line. You need human contact. In chapter 1 Detox, the author says "In other words, this is not a book about how Facebook is evil; it is a book about thinking. So true. There is a place on line called meetup, its connecting people to people with similar things they like and getting together of line. In Chapter 2 Discern. The author says: "Discerning Desires Discernment is an act of the heart and the mind in which we uncover hidden motives in ourselves and in the world around us, and in so doing, begin to see the ways in which we need to change our behavior. Discernment happens when we reflect on those things that are most true, and then think critically and Christianity about one thing or another and, in view of these truths, live differently. The heart pays a lot in this, we do need to keep an open mind when it comes all the hidden motives. Chapter 3 Decide: The author is saying make you own decision, don't let people decide for you. You have to make you decision on whether Facebook is for you. In addition, life on Facebook is different than in person. People need to interact.
In each of the chapters the author says to DO SOMETHING --- take time to walk around the bench, get off the computer, go see a movie, hug someone, and talk to someone you know either in person or even on the phone.
In conclusion, Facebook, twitter, or any kind of social media is good, but in moderation. Did I enjoy the book, and would I recommend the book? Yes I enjoy the book, and would recommended it! In addition, when I was writing the review, I did it longer because I was on cruise. Finally spending time with family or friends over triumph of being on the computer a lot.
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I thought this book was well worth reading. Lots of food for thought and ultimately it is up to each individual to decide if and how much time they want to spend on social media. As Christians we have a responsibility for how we use our time and what we put out there for everyone to read so this book may help some to use their time more wisely.
I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. I love being in touch with people I normally would not be able to talk to. I love having access to make plans with people easily. But I hate the time it sucks away from my life, and from the real relationships inside my own home. I hate the addictive quality of it.
So when Moody Publishers sent me Unfriend Yourself, I was intrigued. It is a short little book designed to be read over a weekend, and coincidentally, I received it on a Friday afternoon.
This little book hit on all my loves and hates of Facebook (though it was about social media in general, I refrain from using Twitter, or anything other than Facebook), and the best part about it, was it offered solutions for the problems (other than delete your account and never use it again, which is what I usually hear, and is not an option for me).
I recommend this quick little book, to get you thinking and evaluating what place Facebook is playing in your life.
Unfriend Yourself: Three Days to Detox, Discern and Decide about Social Media is a book I really wanted to read. The premise of this book is the effects of social media on our relationships. I had been thinking about this topic for awhile, on how much I rely on social media to maintain contact with friends as opposed to getting together in person.
Kyle Tennant makes an excellent argument on this subject throughout this short, but meaty book. I agreed with much of what he accurately describes as flaws that exist with social media. His findings were thoroughly researched and biblical. What I also appreciated was that he never tells you to delete your Facebook or Twitter accounts, on the contrary. However, what he does convey is the need for awareness in the utilization of any social medium.
In our fast paced society, it is very tempting to rely solely on electronic means of communication. We hardly pick up a phone or even get together with friends anymore. I can admit that this has been the case in my life. I am guilty of relying heavily on emailing, texting or interacting on Facebook, rather than getting together with friends. However, after reading this book, I am fully convinced that social media should be supplemental to real relationships.
I admit, I actually started to see how social media is just a cheap substitute for the real thing; relationships, communication and community. I really identified and agreed with Kyle Tennant's points. One point that stood out for me in his book is this, "Here is the linchpin of why we must not seek community online: when we venture there, we miss the most important part of community, which is experiencing God as we experience one another." What a true statement.
Kyle Tennant also references the apostle John preferring in-the-flesh communication over writing letters. "Though I have much to write to you, I would rather not use paper and ink. Instead I hope to come to you and talk face to face, so that our joy may be complete." (2 John 12) Later he writes, "I had much to write to you, but I would rather not write with pen and ink. I hope to see you soon, and we will talk face to face." (3 John 13-14)
I never quite saw that before. When I read those Scriptures it just jumped off the page and pierced my heart. I bore witness that social media can never replace an in person friendship, communication or community. Kyle Tennant writes that social media is a great tool - a tool we must subdue, and not be subdued by.
All in all, I thought it was a very good, informative and helpful book. I highly recommend it.
In conclusion, I want to personally thank Janis Backing of Moody Publishers for sending me a complimentary copy of this book to review.