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Through a Man's Eyes is a book for half the population that has no clue about something that is a daily reality for the other half of the population. This book equips and encourages every woman to understand and support her husband, boyfriend or son in today's visually-challenging culture. It will show how God intended man's visual nature to be good, will show how He wired the male brain, and will help women navigate the many challenging situations that arise today.

Dealing directly but carefully with a fascinating but awkward subject, this book will come alongside concerned women - and yet also challenge them to not overreact.

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Format: Paperback
Number of Pages: 192
Vendor: Multnomah Books
Publication Date: 2015
Dimensions: 8.00 X 5.19 (inches)
ISBN: 1601425112
ISBN-13: 9781601425119

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Publisher's Description

What Happens When Women See What Men See?
You already know that your husband, boyfriend, or son is wired differently from you, but do you know what that really means? It means, among other things, that he’s been given the gift of a unique visual wiring—and the challenges that come with it.
In Through a Man’s Eyes, Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross team up to help open our eyes to something we are often blind to. They address questions like:
·         "Why are guys so visual—and what does that mean, anyway?"
·         "How do I help my son navigate this sex-crazed culture?"
·         "How dare someone tell a woman to watch what she wears! Isn’t it a man’s responsibility not to look?"
·         "If he’s tempted by visual images, is there something wrong with him? With me?"
·         "My husband is an honorable guy, so why would he be tempted by porn?"
·         "How can I talk to my husband or son about this? What can I do to support him?"
Through the compassion and candor in this book, we can learn what men have long wished we knew (but didn’t know how to explain)—and see the difference it makes when we do!

Author Bio

Shaunti Feldhahn is a social researcher, popular speaker, and the best-selling author of such books as For Women Only, which have sold more than two million copies in twenty-three languages. Her groundbreaking relationship findings are featured in media around the world. Shaunti and her husband and two kids are based out of Atlanta.

Craig Gross is a pastor and the founder of, which is the most recognized voice on the planet on the issues of pornography and sex. Craig is the author of eleven books and has been featured in GQ, Newsweek, Wired, the New York Times, and on Good Morning America, Nightline, CNN, Fox News, and The Daily Show with Jon Stewart. He lives in Pasadena, California, with his wife, Jeanette, and their two children.

Publisher Description

Through a Man's Eyes is a conversation for women that brings expert insight and practical helps on a man's visual "wiring" when it comes to porn and sexual temptation.

In today's culture, men are bombarded with visual images that are difficult to ignore and often draw them into sexually destructive choices. Unfortunately, most women and girls have no idea what men and boys confront, or how easy it is - because of the way they're 'wired' - to be not just tempted but trapped.

Trusted experts Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Goss team up to bring insight, practical guidance and hope for healing for women who are suffering as a result of their man's choices and vulnerabilities in an arena they simply don't understand.

Book Features

In their co-written book, Through a Man's Eyes, the authors will:

  • clearly explain the visual wiring of all men and boys in a way that opens eyes and helps women empathize
  • help women understand the broad spectrum of ramifications for men in today's culture (from "doing okay(but always visual)" to "struggling" to "addicted to porn")
  • help women come to terms with their new knowledge (some women are fine with learning this information, but others find it emotionally devastating and relationship-wrecking)
  • provide specific advice to moms on how to help their son live with his visual wiring in a God-honoring way
  • provide general advice and encouragement to all women regardless of what their specific situation is
  • provide ultra-practical help, support, hope and (where necessary) a road to healing for any woman whose husband, boyfriend or son is currently struggling to a significant degree

Editorial Reviews

Praise for Through a Man’s Eyes

"I’ve spoken at hundreds of events for women on the topic of marriage, and I can honestly not think of a more needed book. Is it possible (please!) that we can finally have an honest conversation in the church about the visual nature of men without guys being called creeps and women being called frigid? My deepest prayer is that couples will read this book and be able to talk without judgment about this reality for men in our modern society and for their marriages. For many couples, this will be the most important book they read this year—and maybe in their entire relationship."
—Kathi Lipp, author of The Husband Project, Happy Habits for Couples, and Hot Mamas

 "Women, be brave. This is all the stuff your man has been trying to tell you about how he’s wired, but didn’t know how to say. This is the stuff every mom of a boy needs to know. Whether you have an issue you need to address, are curious about how to support a man or guide a son, or simply need reassurance that the male wiring was intended to be a good thing, this resource will help. This eye-opening book is the go-to resource for a whole new generation of women who care about men."
—Shannon Ethridge, MA, relationship coach, speaker, and author of many books including the best-selling Every Woman’s Battle series, The Sexually Confident Wife, and The Passion Principles

 "The visual nature of men is an unchangeable reality of life, love, and marriage. And it is an issue few women understand. That lack of knowledge creates a lot of relational problems and barriers to experiencing intimacy. Finally, here is a book that will empower women with the truth about how God made men and how to relate to them with understanding. I love this book and am so thankful to Craig and Shaunti for writing it."
—Jimmy and Karen Evans, co-hosts of the syndicated the syndicated television program MarriageToday with Jimmy and Karen

"Finally a book to help women understand what even the most honorable man or boy faces today! Many wives personalize a man’s visual nature as evidence that her good-willed husband does not love her. Of course, all he can say is, ’Well, I do love you’ as he battles to avoid the swimming areas, Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition, or stay accountable with his Internet viewing. And when men have given in to those temptations, and don’t understand the pain they inflict on their wives, their wives don’t know how to handle it. In Through a Man’s Eyes, every wife, mom, counselor, and pastor has the resource we’ve been waiting for."
—Emerson Eggerichs, bestselling author of Love and Respect

"This is a home-run title on such a desperately needed topic! Through a Man’s Eyes opened my eyes to so many things that men struggle with and served as the springboard for some very helpful and healthy conversations with my husband. I appreciate the courage Shaunti and Craig had to address this subject and the grace with which they did so. Highly recommended for any woman who wants to understand her husband, son, boyfriend, or other men in her life better."
—Crystal Paine, founder of and New York Times best-selling author
 "Oh how I wish I’d had this resource thirty-two years ago when I was a new wife. Even though I’ve been married for many years, I learned so much on the pages of this book. If you have a man in your life, you need this resource! Thank you, Shaunti and Craig, for giving women the gift of understanding."
—Jill Savage, CEO of Hearts at Home and author of No More Perfect Moms

 "Reading this book made me think Craig and Shaunti had somehow installed a hidden camera in my brain! Their insights into the male thought process are incredibly accurate. This book will help women develop a deeper understanding of men, and consequently will create deeper levels of intimacy in their relationships."
—Dave Willis, founder of and author of iVow: Secrets to a Stronger Marriage

 "Through a Man’s Eyes picks up where For Women Only left off in giving me (Barb) insight into understanding the visual nature of men. For years we’ve told couples around the world to make sure they bought a copy of the book. This new book is excellent! So compelling we couldn’t put it down! Thank you, Shaunti and Craig, for writing more on these crucial differences between men and women! It gives couples everywhere the capacity to talk about them." 
—Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg, America’s Family Coaches

 "Any woman (or man!) who reads this book will have a much better understanding of the visual nature of men and boys. As I read this book, words like refreshing, challenging, insightful, grace, practical and helpful kept popping into my head. Shaunti and Craig are two of my favorite authors, researchers, and friends, and I respect and admire both of them. Putting these two people together to write this book makes it not only a stroke of genius but a resource that will bring health and understanding to thousands of women who needed to comprehend how men think and react to visual stimulation. The answers to the questions about the effect of pornography on men and boys could save many a relationship."
—Jim Burns, PhD, president of HomeWord and author of Teaching Your Kids Healthy Sexuality and The Purity Code (for teens and preteens) 

"Men have long needed their hidden sexual ’wiring’ exposed along with the challenges it brings. And women have long needed this enlightenment and the compassion for their men that surely comes with it. Clearly, a must read!"
—Dr. Robert Lewis, founder of Men’s Fraternity and producer of Marriage Oneness

"This is a book that all husbands should want their wives to read. Through a Man’s Eyes takes women on a journey into the minds of men, and shows them how even nice guys struggle with the onslaught of visual temptation they face every day. Thankfully, it also shows women how to be compassionate, wise, and encouraging in dealing with this aspect of their husband’s life."
—Mark and Susan Merrill, Founders of Family First, All Pro Dad, and iMOM

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  1. grammaelaine
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    Must read for all mothers of young boys, and wives also
    April 17, 2017
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    Excellent book!!! I never knew how differently men think [from women] about sex and temptation until I read this book. This book explains how God designed men, and how we women can be the cause of their sexual temptation downfall if we are not careful. Ladies, do you want to be a stumbling block in the life of men? This book will help you NOT cause a man to lust when he looks at you.
  2. Scotty
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    Every female should read this book ...
    September 5, 2015
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    I dont know if it would be possible to count all the jokes that have been made about how men dont understand women.

    However, there is something of great significance about men that women might think they understand, but most really dont.

    What is this big secret that women dont get about men?

    Well, its actually not a secret. What so many women often dont really understand about men is this:


    To that statement, many women are probably laughing and saying with a rolling of the eyes, Oh, I already knew that!

    You may have known that as a stated fact, but do you really understand what that means for men?

    Men were designed by God to be visual creatures, and that fact deeply impacts the lives of every male on the planet. Women will be able to better understand the men and boys (husbands, sons, brothers, co-workers, etc.) in their lives if they gain a real understanding about what being visual means for the male species.

    Thats why I suggest that all females need to read the new book, Through a Mans Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross (published by Mulnomah Books).

    Shaunti Feldhahn is a Harvard-trained Christian researcher whose writing Im quickly becoming a fan of. Many people may know Craig Gross as a pastor and founder of, a ministry which helps those struggling with pornography. These two sharp minds and effective writers teamed up to write this book to specifically help women gain a truly insightful understanding about the visual nature of men.

    They succeeded!

    Feldhanhn and Gross help their readers understand the science and biology behind what it means for a man to be a visual creature. Achieving that task made this book very valuable in my estimation since, after providing clinical counseling for nearly three decades, Ive seen up close and personal the difficulties that can arise in relationships over the reality of men being visual, and women not really understanding how that impacts the men in their lives.

    By reading this book, many women will be shaken with what it really means that guys are visual, and the writers were ready for that shock to hit their readers. After helping women peel back the curtain and gain a look at the world through a mans visual nature, they address how being visual is a blessing to men, but also some significant problems it often causes and how women can address those problems (such as men being susceptible to the visual lure of pornography). In fact, the book includes a FAQ section to help women with the questions that may arise from a deeper understanding of how being visual can impact the men in their lives.

    You dont have to tell a guy that men are visual, we ALL understand that! But even though the authors specifically target women as their audience for this book, I would also encourage men to read this book because I believe it can help men better understand the source of their visual nature (and youll know what the authors are telling the women in your life!).

    Ladies, if you really want to understand the guys in your life, you need the insights this book can equip you with, so go get it!

    I received this book free from the publisher in exchange for this review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commissions 16 CFR, Part 255: Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.
  3. Jennie
    Ripley, OH
    Age: 18-24
    Gender: female
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    Very informative and enriching
    August 18, 2015
    Ripley, OH
    Age: 18-24
    Gender: female
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    This book is a must-read for ALL women who want to better understand their husbands, or simply men in general. I knew men and women think differently, but I had no idea to what extent. This books opens our eyes as to how difficult and exhausting it can be for a man to live honorably in this sinful world. It made me appreciate and adore my husband for his efforts and purity! Please read it with an open and non-judgmental heart!! Instead of being disturbed at the temptations your husband faces, adore and thank him for the wise choices he makes every single day, sometimes hourly, just to honor YOU, his wife. Your husband NEEDS your encouragement and support!
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