I really enjoyed the challenge that this book presented me. To consider marriage as an earthly reflection of the spiritual relationship between Christ and his Church has empowered me to raise my view of marriage to a much higher level than we see played out in the world around us. He is not scared of writing about tough topics and I admire him for stressing that his views are his views and that not everyone will sit comfortably with them
my spouse and I continue to recommend this book to couples before they get married. It is short, and to the point without lacking content. This book, paired with some practical conversations about expectations, finance, and family backgrounds makes for a complete premarital course.
John Piper and his marriage views turn a blind eye to the reality of domestic abuse present within the church. As much as it seems he would like to pretend otherwise,there are wicked, abusive, mentally disturbed people who find a comfortable environment within the church, largely because of teachers like him. Piper's insistence that someone should be bound by vows that their spouse unrepentently and continuously breaks is unreasonable. Certianly, he requires that couples take vows in the marriage ceremonies at his church. I ask WHY? If one party to the covenant unrepentantly breaks the vows, the other is still bound to them. He doesn't allow divorce for adultery, either. In a violent marriage,a person is subjected to violence by the very one who vowed to love and protect them. How is this a picture of Christ's love for his church? It is a perversion and grieves God. I would like to ask readers, how would you feel if this abuse was to happen to one of your loved ones? Shouldn't we have the same empathy for all of Christ's people that we have for our own flesh and blood?
His books are widely distributed in the church and used to furthur guilt and oppress Christ's people. A theology with no empathy towards the suffering of others cannot be from God, no matter how fancy the cover looks.
I would recommend David Instone Brewer's Book, Divorce and Remarriage in the Church, Barbara Roberts book, Not Under Bondage and Jeff Crippen's book, A Cry For Justice:How the Evil of Domestic Abuse Hides in Your Church. If you are not aware of what domestic violence is, try Lundy Bancroft's book,Why Does He Do That. A quick internet search will turn up many results, so the people of God have no excuse to not address this issue. Neither does John Piper.