This book biblically defines one-flesh covenant marriage as an example of Christ's love for the church (Eph 5:31-32) and then perverts that definition once Piper offers his personal and unbiblical opinions of the "elephant in the pews"of divorce and remarriage.
"But I do not think that a person who remarries against God's will, and thus commits adultery in this way, should later break the second marriage. The marriage should not have been done, but now that it is done, it should not be undone by man. It is a real marriage. Real covenant vows have been made." John Piper Page 170-This Momentary Marriage
Dr. Piper would have us believe that something against God's will is good. If something like making vows to enter an adulterous union is "good", then why was this excluded from what God commanded from the beginning? (Gen 2:24) Dr. Piper must first convince us that a vow to enter sin is something God winks at. Scripture has this to say to those who would make such vows...
John 9:31 Now we know that God heareth not sinners: but if any man be a worshipper of God, and doeth his will, him he heareth.
Job 35:13 Surely God will not hear vanity, neither will the Almighty regard it.
Proverbs 15:29 The LORD is far from the wicked: but he heareth the prayer of the righteous.
Proverbs 28:9 He who turns away his ear from listening to the law, Even his prayer is an abomination.
As you can see, Piper has no foundation to make the claim that God hears the vows of wickedness and honors these vows of wickedness. For Piper to make such claim, he makes himself to be higher than God.
"The marriage should not have been done, but now that it is done, it should not be undone by man"- John Piper
The reasoning behind this is very flawed and so simple to see that a child can understand it. The "remarriage" Piper calls it a "marriage" was done by man, not by God. If the marriage was done by man, it is not a marriage in the Lord. Piper says, "It is a real marriage". No, it is an adulterous union with adulterous vows from adulterous hearts. Piper cannot deny this. What does he have to hide? What is he afraid of. We shall see.
In other words, I don't think that a couple who repents and seeks God's forgiveness and receives his cleansing should think of their lives as ongoing adultery, even though, in the eyes of Jesus, that's how the relationship started. -John Piper
What are they repenting of? What does repentance look like, John? If we read Matthew 14, John the Baptist was murdered because he dared call Herod to repentance. Did that repentance include Herod remaining with Herodias? No, it did not. It seems the Lord calls us to beware of the leaven of Herod. (Mk 8:15)
Here is the deciding factor on why John Piper teaches what he teaches on marriage, divorce and remarriage.
There are marriages in the church I serve that are second marriages for one or both partners, which, in my view, should not have happened, but are today godly marriagesmarriages that are clean and holy, and in which forgiven, justified husbands and wives please God by the way they relate to each other. As forgiven, cleansed, Spirit-led followers of Jesus, they are not committing adultery in their marriages. These mar riages began as they should not have but have become holy. -John Piper
In the church I serve...Gal 1:10 For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.
John Piper will forsake the Kingdom of God (1 Cor 6:9-10) to please men and women who are living in disobedience. He is not pro-marriage, he is pro-divorce and pro-remarriage. His whole position is rooted into believing that marriage is a contract, and not a covenant. He would rather please those who are in rebellion then please God. Here are the verses for John Piper and all the justified adulterers that agree with his erroneous, hell-bound position on marriage, divorce and remarriage.
Matthew 7:21-23 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.
I really enjoyed the challenge that this book presented me. To consider marriage as an earthly reflection of the spiritual relationship between Christ and his Church has empowered me to raise my view of marriage to a much higher level than we see played out in the world around us. He is not scared of writing about tough topics and I admire him for stressing that his views are his views and that not everyone will sit comfortably with them
my spouse and I continue to recommend this book to couples before they get married. It is short, and to the point without lacking content. This book, paired with some practical conversations about expectations, finance, and family backgrounds makes for a complete premarital course.
John Piper and his marriage views turn a blind eye to the reality of domestic abuse present within the church. As much as it seems he would like to pretend otherwise,there are wicked, abusive, mentally disturbed people who find a comfortable environment within the church, largely because of teachers like him. Piper's insistence that someone should be bound by vows that their spouse unrepentently and continuously breaks is unreasonable. Certianly, he requires that couples take vows in the marriage ceremonies at his church. I ask WHY? If one party to the covenant unrepentantly breaks the vows, the other is still bound to them. He doesn't allow divorce for adultery, either. In a violent marriage,a person is subjected to violence by the very one who vowed to love and protect them. How is this a picture of Christ's love for his church? It is a perversion and grieves God. I would like to ask readers, how would you feel if this abuse was to happen to one of your loved ones? Shouldn't we have the same empathy for all of Christ's people that we have for our own flesh and blood?
His books are widely distributed in the church and used to furthur guilt and oppress Christ's people. A theology with no empathy towards the suffering of others cannot be from God, no matter how fancy the cover looks.
I would recommend David Instone Brewer's Book, Divorce and Remarriage in the Church, Barbara Roberts book, Not Under Bondage and Jeff Crippen's book, A Cry For Justice:How the Evil of Domestic Abuse Hides in Your Church. If you are not aware of what domestic violence is, try Lundy Bancroft's book,Why Does He Do That. A quick internet search will turn up many results, so the people of God have no excuse to not address this issue. Neither does John Piper.