At first, it seems a little off-kilter that three men would co-author a book called What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Sex. However, once into this book by Dr. Ryan Howes, Dr. Stephen Simpson, and Richard Rupp, you discover that the authors have conducted extensive interviews and amassed large amounts of research with respect to what a Christian marriage should provide for both spouses. This book is the result, making men aware of areas in sexual matters where they are poorly educated, misinformed, or just totally clueless.
The book has three goals. First, starting from ground zero, it explains to men what God's plan is for sexual satisfaction. Quoting and interpreting Scripture leads to very, very frank discussions about everything from sexual positions to specific functions of various body parts during sex. Often, since the authors are men speaking to men, the jargon drops into locker room phrases and street talk that is blunt, realistic, and very much in your face. This is not material that is off-color or crude, but it also is not a book for youngsters to find lying around the house.
The second goal is to bring scientific research into this talk. The authors explain reasons for sexual dysfunction, erotic fantasies, emotional shame about sex, and carryover sex myths handed down on the school yard. The material is current, revealing, and informative. The third and final goal is for the authors to talk about their own strengths and weaknesses as husbands and lovers. By sharing honestly as "guys" rather than as therapists, they appeal as friends, helpers, and mentors for the readers, not lecturers.
There are a lot of sex manuals on the market these days. Some are too psychological to make sense; others are too secular to reflect God's intentions for married couples. This book is written by credible therapists with years of experience, and is biblically sound and presented in an open and honest, easy-to-understand style of writing. Married men of all ages can pick up knowledge here, and engaged men can get a proper start to a godly marriage. Dr. Dennis E. Hensley, Christian Book Previews.com
