Sometimes marriages get "stuck" but with God's power, couples can break free from their bad habits and experience freedom and abundance like never before! Comparing each couple's journey to the Exodus, Smalley offers "wilderness lessons" to help them move past the slavery of destructive patterns toward the promised land of marital bliss that God intends.
The Marriage You've Always Dreamed Of offers couples usable, practical tools that, when applied, will help them break away from discouraging patterns and significantly increase the level of satisfaction in their marriages. Often, in an attempt to get one to do what the other wants, couples play on each other's core fears, which results in responses that injure the relationship. Greg Smalley helps couples identify their repetitive negative patterns of relating, which he calls the fear dance. His profound relationship insight is taught through helpful lessons about honor, respect, and caregiving.
You made an innocent comment, but your husband or wife took it in a way you never considered. Then you became defensive and tried to explain what you meant, but your innocent conversation turned into a heated argument. Your spouse reacted as always, and so did you. Sometimes you wonder why you ever married this person. Is there any hope for your marriage?
Dr. Greg Smalley says, "Yes!" in The Marriage You've Always Dreamed Of. He describes the scenario above as the "Fear Dance," then teaches you how to recognize your and your spouse's fear dance, and how to overcome it. He provides seven steps to achieve the marriage you've dreamed of. These steps are practical and doable: taking personal responsibility, forgiving, honoring each other, caring for yourself, looking for the good things in difficulties, communicating well, and depending on God. Each step occupies a chapter with suggestions in developing that skill in your life.
The statistics describing marriage failure are appalling. Unless the situation in this country changes, between 40 and 50 percent of marriages begun today will fail. Smalley believes that God has called him to begin a "marriage revival" to save the 2700 new children each day who face a broken home due to divorce.
Using the theme of Israel's journey to the Promised Land to unite the book, Smalley utilizes personal anecdotes, stories of couples that he has counseled at the Smalley Marriage Institute in Branson, Missouri, and counseling wisdom. This book is engaging and thought provoking.. -- Debbie W. Wilson, Christian Book Previews.com