There are 10 women in our Bible Study and we are lovin' "The Best Yes"! We bought the video to go along with the books. WE are entering into our third we of study. Starting Chapter 7. I personally really appreciate Lysa's wisdom and insight. But, what I really feel the whole group appreciates is how she uses vivid examples; helping us to gather and hold on to knowledge, insight and discernment. Anchoring the wisdom in each of us! Thanks Lysa!
TerKeurst paints a picture of the everyday world, yet her painting is as messy and unkempt as my world. What I love most is that she doesnt stand on her soapbox for all to hear how great her life has been and how we should all be perfect, Proverbs 31 following women, but rather she tells (humorous at times) her tales of when she has not been perfect, yet how these situations have molded her as a woman of God.
The meat of the book, perhaps I should say overall theme, is how and when to say Yes and how to graciously say No without hurting feelings or feeling guilty. Since reading this book and something else is being added to my plate, I honestly sit back and reflect on if I can handle what is being given to me without stressing myself and my family. Because really, what good is it to take on something like the Angel tree at school if it is only going to cause conflict within my life? This thought goes great with one of my favorite quotes from the book, The woman who lives the stress of an overwhelmed schedule will often ache with the sadness of an underwhelmed soul. Wow what a great truth. Now, dont get me wrong. I firmly believe that such acts are noble, and we need people to fulfill such duties, but it doesnt have to be the same person to do everything!
This book is an easy read, mostly because I felt like I was sitting with a dear friend over coffee. At times, I could hear myself mentally saying things like, Oh, no she didnt! when she shared stories of being judged by her peers for dressing frumpy or not having time to volunteer for another church event. All in all, this book gives easy solutions to over committing yourself while in an attractive format. This book is a MUST for all the people pleasers out there
We make scores of decisions every day. TerKeurst wants to help us change our approach to decision making. She wants us to honor God with our time. "How we spend our souls matters." (62)
She asks us to identify that soul thing, that God honoring thing that keeps slipping away because we are so pressed for time. She helps us understand what "discerning what it best" (Phil. 1:9-10) means, involving knowledge, insight and wisdom. She asks us to assess our day and encourages scheduling.
She helps us with decision making in general, the fears, why there are no perfect decisions, dealing with our expectations, saying "no", having a growth mind-set instead of a fixed one, and what to do when the decision doesn't seem to be working for you (do the next right thing right in front of you).
"We will steer where we stare," she writes. (91) So stare at God.
At the end of the book is a sort of Appendix, a decision tool, that helps the reader form a method of making the Best Yes decisions.
This is a great book for women who feel overwhelmed by all to which they have said yes. It is a very timely book as Christians are being distracted by so many "good" possibilities. Choosing the best takes discernment and TerKeurst's book helps the reader understand how to make those necessary decisions without feeling guilty. A very readable and recommended book.
Food for thought:
"Wisdom is either displayed or betrayed by our actions." (230)
"There is a big difference between saying yes to everything and saying yes to God." (163)