Joe Beam in his new book "The Art of Falling in Love" published by Howard Books gives us 4 steps to Falling in love, Staying in love, Renewing lost love.
From the back cover: The Book of Love
This is a book about love--how to fall in love, stay in love, and renew lost love.
The Art of Falling in Love is the culmination of years of research by marriage and love expert Joe Beam. In these pages, Beam reveals a tried-and-true process for finding genuine, lasting love. In fact, this process--or "LovePath"--consists of four concrete steps that anyone can follow. Those who walk this path will fall in love whether they intend to or not, and those who stray from it won't find true love no matter how hard they try.
This book describes, in a way you won't find anywhere else, what love is, how to find it, how to keep from losing it, and how to get it back if you've already lost it. Insightful, revealing, and practical, yet full of gentle humor, this book leads you through the process that will keep you in love for the rest of your life.
Joe Beam founded LovePath International in 2008 because he wanted to do more than just educate couples; he also wanted to benefit singles and change the way both married couples and singles live and love so that their relationships can be all they can be. Mr. Beam has keen insight into the dynamics of a relationship built on love and he calls it the Lovepath. "The Art of Falling in Love" is broken down into four steps: Step One: "Attraction". Step Two: "Acceptance". Step Three: "Attachment" and Step Four: Aspiration". Then there is the final chapter: "Using The Steps: Awakening". This chapter is devoted to those who have lost their love for each other that is based on his 75 percent success rate at working with couples who are on the verge of divorce - some, already divorced - and bringing them back to a committed, loving, passionate relationship. Why do we need this book? Marriage isn't easy. We all could use some help in keeping us focused on what really matters and Joe Beam provides the help in the book. It is a wonderful gift to give to your single and married friends and they will thank you for it. This is one book that will make a lasting impression on your relationship.
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Joe Beam helps people fall in love. He has learned how to do this through personal experience, by studying social and medical science, and from the tens of thousands of couples he has guided through the love process. He calls that process the Love Path. "On this path, anyone can find and experience love, relationships can be built to last, and relationships can be rescued if they fail." (9) This includes physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual aspects.
Joe gives us the tools to understand the path we have already walked. This includes great insights about projecting an image, causing doting couples to not be who they really are individually. Understanding limerence and how it differs from love is essential. He also shows how temperaments affect relationships.
He also helps us learn how to get what we want and need from love. This requires not only a relationship with another person but also a deeper understanding and appreciation for life itself.
He gives us tools to learn how to overcome the past. He says and marriage can be saved. Each must quit doing what is destroying the marriage. They they must do again the things that lead in the right direction on the Love Path. He admits that it is not easy and both must be willing to give and take.
He also helps us to fall in love the "right" way. He helps us understand how love works and how it can be built to last. He covers the bonds of respect, fulfillment, spirituality and passion. He also addresses topics like control, cooperation, dreams, and compromise.
Joe wrote this book from his own heart and personal experience. He ought to know. After fifteen years of marriage, Joe and his wife divorced. Three years later they married again. It wasn't easy, he says. It took personal growth, understanding, perseverance - and a few swift kicks to his backside.
I was impressed with this book. Joe delivers. His insights into why marriages go the wrong way are excellent. A pastor or other individual who counsels would certainly benefit from this book. But the book is really aimed at anyone interested in establishing a loving and lasting marriage. Joe includes great summaries at the end of each chapter. He has also provided an extensive Group Discussion Guide at the end of the book so this would be a good choice for a small group or Sunday School class.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher for the purpose of this review. The opinions expressed here are my own.