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debhgrtyPlymouth MAAge: Over 65Gender: Female5 Stars Out Of 5Team Us - Tips for Marriage HarmonyJuly 4, 2014debhgrtyPlymouth MAAge: Over 65Gender: FemaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5When a couple promises Ã¢â¬Å¸I do," they agree to more than just a shared last name, a joint bank account, and no more dateless nights. This husband and wife duo forms a new team. Ã¢â¬Å¸Life together" becomes their mantra. Nothing can come between them. At least, that's the plan.
But then real life sets in. With it come disappointments and frustrations. If the couple isn't intentional in their day-to-day interactions, that once enthusiastic Ã¢â¬Å¸we" can slowly revert to Ã¢â¬Å¸you" and Ã¢â¬Å¸me." Before long, the couple's left wondering what happened to their team spirit.
Team Us: Marriage Together offers couples practical ways to cultivate and strengthen unity in their marriages. Ashleigh Slater shares from her own marriage as she presents couples with realistic ideas on how to foster cooperation, deepen commitment, and exercise grace on a daily basis.(1)
Ashleigh, with dry witty asides by her husband, Ted, tells the whole truth about marriage - the struggle we all face day to day as we try to function with this "new being" in our household. We endeavor to subdue our "me-ness" to be an "us," yet we forever find ourselves facing the truth that we've become self-centered yet again. It takes real effort to put the marriage ahead of our own needs - to consider the marriage more important than what we feel we need at that point in time. We learn to pick our battles - and let the small stuff go.
As Ashleigh so engagingly explains, we need to practice grace and forgiveness on a daily basis. Practicing grace - the concept of doing rather than receiving grace - affected me deeply. So many times I've let me take over and forgotten the "us." I've held onto grudges instead of offering grace and forgiveness. And yet the times when I've followed Ashleigh's advice, our marriage has grown and strengthened.
Ashleigh and Ted Slater are a delightful young couple I had the pleasure of interviewing during ICRS (International Christian Retail Show). Such a young couple writing a marriage "how to" book intrigued me. They related that they wanted to be viewed more as mentors and friends than as "experts." Ashleigh told me that she learns from stories and wanted to share stories from their marriage that could help others perhaps a couple of years younger to not make some of the same mistakes that they had made - to be able to give practical ideas rather than untried theories.
Ashleigh and Ted have been married for 11 ÃÂ½ -years and have four girls. Ted relates in the book and told me that he had been engaged twice before he met Ashleigh. Because he felt himself a walking disaster with relationships, they did not hold hands until they were engaged and did not so much as kiss until the minister said, "You may kiss the bride." Ashleigh says this make her feel like Ted respected her so much more. Ted is 12 years older than Ashleigh - one of her friends told her this (she was only 23 when they were married), but Ted had to have one of his friends ask her in front of him to find out her age - asking her himself seemed to him a bad move - they both chuckle about that.
Ashleigh got her start writing music reviews - her mom was very supportive and sent one of her reviews in when Ashleigh was 16 - and it was published. Ted says she brought 1000s of CDs to their marriage. They both studied communication in college and grad school and know that the ability to communicate is of paramount importance in marriage. They both view life as a narrative empowered by the grace of God. Ted says he is the "wild card" and Ashleigh has told him in return that he's not allowed to have a mid-life crisis - that she is that crisis. More chuckles from both of them ensued.
I am 31 years married and learned some new things and new tips from Team Us. Regardless of how long you've been married, or if you're planning on being married, you'll enjoy reading Team Us: Marriage Together.
I was given a copy of this book by Moody Publishers for my unbiased review.
SuzanneGosselinColorado Springs, COAge: 35-44Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Required Reading for Young MarriedsJune 1, 2014SuzanneGosselinColorado Springs, COAge: 35-44Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 4So often young couples are warned that marriage is "hard work." I remember feeling a little daunted by the prospect, at 31, when my husband and I tied the knot. But along with the work comes so many amazing benefits: the love and support of another person, the funny misunderstandings and lifelong memories, the meaningful talks about hopes and dreams. In Team Us: Marriage Together, author Ashleigh Slater paints a balanced picture of the joys and challenges of marriage. Instead of viewing the less appealing parts of marriage (such as conflict and loss) as cons, Slater encourages couples to embrace all aspects of marriage as an adventure to become the incredible team God designed you and your spouse to be. Refreshingly candid with insightful side notes from the author's husband, Ted, Team Us is an encouraging read that should be required reading for young married couples!
HeatherMinnesotaAge: 35-44Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Great about on marriage being a TEAM effort!!June 1, 2014HeatherMinnesotaAge: 35-44Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Team Us is written in a way that is easy to read & apply to your marriage. It encourages discussion on important topics with great questions at the end of each chapter. This would be a great book to read with your spouse or even small group. I found myself laughing out loud as Ashleigh compares marriage to curling. There are TOO many great examples, stories & quotes that I highlighted to share. But I really appreciated the chapter about friendships, we just moved to a new community & need to build a new circle of friends. I can't say enough about Team Us - just buy the book you won't be disappointed!!
salinabeasleyAge: 25-34Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5It's About TIME!May 31, 2014salinabeasleyAge: 25-34Gender: femaleChristian couples, I regret to say, aren't always all that honest about their marital woes. Major rifts or minor squabbles are usually not the topic of chatter in the church lobby. Which is why Ashleigh's book is so refreshing! She so bravely tells her and Ted's story and the stories of other couples who have had to muscle through the stuff of marital oneness (which anyone who has been married longer than 5 minutes knows is no easy feat). It's about TIME someone piped in with honesty, transparency, and depth. Most married readers will be able to say, "I've SO done that" or "I've SO said that". Prepare to relate.
JessmadeitAge: 25-34Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5A Must read! Highly recommend!May 29, 2014JessmadeitAge: 25-34Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5I Loved this book! I usually read fiction, but got totally hooked on the author's conversational style of writing! I came away with the same connected feeling with Ashleigh as I do when I sink into a fictional character. Making personal connections with everyday real life and the transparency into her marriage has really helped me to translate the suggestions from the pages to my own relationship with my husband. I have already recommended this book to several couples and will be including this as a wedding present in the near future for young couples. The team approach and sports analogies make it easy for men to relate. Highly recommend for newlyweds or those that have been in trenches together for many years!!