Oops ... I thought this was going to be about faith and facebook or other new media. Nope. Its about porn. Oopps! My bad. Anyways. I guess it would be a good book for a man to read. I didn't really like it.
"Every time a man knocks on a brothel door, he is really searching for God." -- G.K. Chesterton
Could the growing struggles with pornography and fantasy really be reminding us of our heart's deepest desire, something greater and more fulfilling than sexual gratification?
According to counselor and ministry leader Michael John Cusick, the answer is a resounding "yes." Through personal examples, lively illustrations from Scripture, and twenty years of counseling experience, Michael helps readers to understand how porn struggles begin, what to do to prevent them, and most importantly, how to overcome them once compulsive behavior presents itself.
Freedom is not an easy, how-to process:
* 25% of search engine requests are for pornography - 68 million per day * 70% of the hits on Internet sex sites occur between 9-5 on business computers * Over 50 percent of evangelical pastors report they viewed pornography last year * Over 70% of Christian men report viewing pornography in the last year
Surfing for God leads readers down a clear path toward understanding how porn struggles develop, how to distinguish between sexual gratification and intimacy, and how to break free from the shackles of this pleasurable prison.
Disclaimer: I received this book from the publisher in exchange for this review.
Michael Cusick tells about his struggle with pornography and where it led him in his life. He explains how deep the problem is with so many men.
He tells why pornography is so addicting and how it changes brain patterns. He explains why just trying harder to stay away from it, accountability partners (the wrong type), and just praying harder won't help men to be successful in overcoming this addiction.
Mr. Cusick explains how those struggling to overcome sexual addictions can still have a good heart, and that surfing for porn is a deep longing for something that only God can fill.
This book is also useful for those who want to understand addictions in general.
It also teaches the deeper spiritual meaning of circumcision and how it relates to the circumcision of the heart that the Bible teaches.
The book covers many deep theological ideas, but it is written in clear language.
The author is the founder and president of Restoring the Soul which provides counseling for individuals, couples, and workshops according to the book. I mention this to let you know that the author has a lot of experience. The book includes resources, quotes, and book recommendations.
The author speaks from experience in his own life and how he overcame his addiction to porn.
One quote to consider:
"One of the main reasons the gospel is good news is that God has a unique way of taking the very struggles that have become barriers to knowing Him more intimately--like struggles with pornography--and turning them into bridges. Are you ready to take this barrier of porn and let it become a bridge to life?"
If your answer to the above question is "Yes!" then I suggest you should purchase and read this book.
Disclaimer: I received this book from the publisher in exchange for this review. I chose this book because of a friend, a woman, who has problems with this issue. The book, however, did not address the fact that men are not the only ones who have this issue. The book, however, helped me to understand my friend even though it was written for men specifically.
Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle
Written by: Michael John Cusick
Published by Thomas Nelson 2012
"Every man who knocks on the door of a brothel is looking for God"- G.K. Chesterton
Ministry leader and writer Michael John Cusick attempts to write on a topic much engrained in our society today but often not discussed and even less often connected to spirituality, Cusick is talking about sex.
His premise is that every man who struggles with sexual and porn addicition are ultimately searching for a connection to the divine. I was skeptical when I first began reading Surfing for God.
Cusick picks up where other's attempting to write on the connection between sexuality and religion leave off. I was very hesitant in reading this work, but I quickly found out that Cusick does not write from a stance of judgement and condemnation. Instead Cusick takes an approach to try help the reader understand that this isn't an issue of right or wrong. Instead the increase in pornography in our society marks a deeper problem in our society. People longing for a connection to the divine, and at some point they come off the track and into the sea of pornography.
So what do we do? How can we as a society get back on track?
Cusick uses his own story to highlight the problem and he writes in a compelling manner.
I do however find that Cusick oversimplifies the problem, as pornography and sexual addiction also have an effect on the women involved. The book is written by a Christian Man for Christian Men, so this isn't a book for everyone.
I will chose to keep this book on my bookshelf, as I never know who may step into my office door looking for some direction and I think that Surfing for God could help someone learn that they are not alone.
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For the most part I really enjoyed this book. It was an easy read and I read it in 2 days just chilling on my couch. This book is about people who struggle with pornography and how to help yourself get out of it.
I especially like the quote on page 4 which reads " a bible that's falling apart is usually owned by someone who isn't." I like this quote because to have a fulfilling life we have to focus on what's important and that is GOD and his ministry and that GOD is real and you just have to call on him and depend on him to see that.
I like the quote on page 15 which says " When a husband and wife enjoy a healthy emotional, relational, and spiritual connection, most of the time good sex follows. " Spiritual needs should always come first in a relationship and the other stuff will come later once GOD sees we are putting him first and he blesses our efforts in many different aspects of our life.I also like the part on weakness which reads on page 45 " but no actual man, including Jesus, has ever lived without significant weakness. So what do we do? We fake it 'til we make it. We turn on the bravado. Develop a persona" . Often times we do our best to please everyone but people get hurt in the process and so we want everything to think we are ok and have it all together when in reality we are weak and hurting and sometimes need a shoulder to cry on.
I also like the quote on pate 76 which reads " sometimes we are all smoke and mirrors. Our shame can only be healed when we pull back the curtain and allow ourselves to be seen for who we really are." I like this quote because sometimes only GOD sees who we truly are and other people don't really know us and in order for us to be know by people we have to let our guard down. And see GOD knows us better than any one because we go to him in prayer and he can read our heart condition.
I really like the quote on page 85 which reads " We, too, can be oblivious to the danger of living with an ever-increasing accumulation of stress or conflict-until the temperature of lie puts us in danger". I just had another seizure and I think stress honestly caused it. I also like the quote on page 98 which reads " Jesus was asking us to be radical-do whatever it takes to avoid sin. Take drastic measures. If your computer is causing you to sin, get rid of it and son on. "
I like the chapter on rebooting on page 131. Sometimes our body and our brain needs to be rebooted and started over. Both times I had my seizure I was unware the entire time of what was going on. My husband later told me but I had no recollection of anything. I think my body was so full of stress it had to reboot itself. My only complaint about this book was how the author said that Jesus and GOD are the same person and talked about the trinity which is false and not true at all. A good scripture to prove that is John 14:28 which reads " Jesus said if you loved me, you would have rejoiced, because I go to the Father; for the Father is greater than I. Anyway there are more good scriptures but this a long review and I am done for now.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 : "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."