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Publication Date: 2016
Ruth Tucker recounts a harrowing story of abuse at the hands of her husbanda well-educated, charming preacher no lessin hope that her story would help other women caught in a cycle of domestic violence and offer a balanced biblical approach to counter such abuse for pastors and counselors.
Weaving together her shocking story, stories of other women, and powerful stories of husbands who truly have demonstrated Christs love to their wives, with reflection on biblical, theological, historical, and contemporary issues surrounding domestic violence, she makes a compelling case for mutuality in marriage and helps women and men become more aware of potential dangers in a doctrine of male headship.
Ruth A. Tucker (PhD, Northern Illinois University) has taught mission studies and church history at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School and Calvin Theological Seminary. She is the author of dozens of articles and eighteen books, including the award-winning From Jerusalem to Irian Jaya. Visit her website at www.RuthTucker.com.
HeidiMarie4 Stars Out Of 5A Must-ReadMay 4, 2016HeidiMarieQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Ruth Tucker suffered years of domestic abuse at the hands of her preacher husband, who justified the abuse under the pretense of male headship. The issue of male headship versus equality in marriage is a heavily argued topic among Christians and Biblical scholars. Ruth Tucker uses her own experiences and her own work as a Biblical scholar to prove her point that it is more Godly to have mutuality in marriage. She does this by providing Biblical proof in examination of original texts and translation of those texts. In male headship, where do we draw the line? What about when a woman is abused? This is especially important in the face of the fact that 30% of all women murdered in the United States are killed by their husbands, ex-husbands, or lovers.
Tucker also points out that Biblical interpretation is subject to personal and cultural bias, and the vast majority of Biblical scholars and interpreters are male. This isn't to say that these interpreters are intentionally misinterpreting the Bible to suit their own preferences. It is unavoidable that our cultural and personal biases influence the way we view things. However, the fact that the bias exists is still there. She goes on to say that mutuality in marriage is the best and most secure foundation for a family. Doesn't it make sense that a husband and wife who both respect the other would have the most solid foundation? Also, only listening to verses that can be interpreted to restrict women and ignoring verses that promotes mutuality is an example of humans choosing which parts of the Bible are important and which aren't, which is a sinful human endeavor. Finally, masculinity and femininity are cultural constructs, not Biblical issues. There are so many more fantastic points made in this book in support of mutuality!
I would recommend this book to everyone, especially anyone who may have dealt with abuse in their lives. This book was incredibly impactful and important for everyone to read. Too many times I have seen Christian women use the concept of male headship as an excuse for men to treat them poorly, which just isn't right. Everyone needs to read this book! I gave it 4/5 stars.
*I received a copy of this book from the publisher through BookLook Bloggers in exchange for an honest review.
comfyreading1 Stars Out Of 5Hard to understand.April 22, 2016comfyreadingQuality: 1Value: 1Meets Expectations: 1Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife by Ruth A. Tucker is the courageous story of a woman who found her way out of a abusive marriage. When I first picked up this book, I thought it was going to be a chronological story, explaining what happened to the woman, and taking us from the beginning of her marriage through to the end. What I read was more of a hopping around between what she learned from being in an abusive marriage, to other peoples stories, to scripture, and some of her own personal accounts.
I found this to be incredibly hard to read, and not because of the violent parts of the book. It was hard to read because it jumped around from different person to different person, and half the time I had no idea who the narrator was talking about. I really wanted to read this book because I thought it would be a really great learning point and talking point for when I become a counselor after I finish school, but what I learned from this book is that I dont know what I just read. Unfortunately, I feel as if this book isnt really a story of finding hope after domestic abuse, and more a tale of other people telling the author that she should have stuck it out, and her pushing against that advice.
There are other books out there that have much better content than this book. Unfortunately even though this book has some really dark parts, and I am very sorry that this woman had to go through the things that she did, its just not a good book. Theres just nothing in it that made me feel like I wanted to pass it on to a friend, or tell anyone about it. I give this book 1 out of 5 stars. I received this book from Booklook Bloggers.
Michele MorinWarren, MaineAge: 45-54Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5No Sanction for Domestic AbuseApril 13, 2016Michele MorinWarren, MaineAge: 45-54Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Ruth A. Tucker is a story teller.
I have vivid and fond memories from my experience of reading her Dynamic Women of the Bible when it was released in 2014. As she unfurled and then analyzed the story of each Biblical woman, tiny shards of her own story would poke through the narrative fabric: an abusive husband, the humiliation of his ministry gaffes and trail of deceit, an unwanted but life-saving divorce. All of this contributed to Ruths sensitivity in sharing the ancient tales, and I closed that book with an enriched understanding of Gods female protagonists but there was a nagging curiosity, a sense that there was so much more story-behind-the- story that had contributed to Ruth A. Tuckers strong voice and convictions about the importance of every womans story.
Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife tells Ruths frightening tale: an intelligent, well-educated young woman marries a charming but deeply dysfunctional man who, almost from the very beginning of their marriage, uses the Bibles teaching on marriage as a club with which to beat her (and all women) into submission. Alongside this personal memoir, Ruth steps back to provide historical and theological perspectives that she has gained, and to ask startling questions about how and why she and other women in her position and with her resources would have hidden their husbands abuse beneath long sleeves and lies.
Statistics show that more than 30% of all women murdered in America are killed by their husbands, ex-husbands, or lovers, and yet women continue to receive counsel that they should submit to their abusers or hints that the abuse they are experiencing may be the result of their own lack of submission.
Careful research probes case studies as diverse as Catherine Dickens (wife of Charles) and Meredith Vieira (television personality). Actual accounts of court cases and stories of battered wives reveal that present-day unhelpful thinking is built on a history of weakness in defending women from domestic abuse. Even some of todays most discerning leaders and thinkers are finally realizing that they have missed the boat.
Ephesians 5 provides a blueprint for family life that is frequently distorted by abusive males or controlling and fearful church leaders. A careful reading will reveal the truth that:
Patriarchy is not about power.
Leadership does not involve domination.
Truly Biblical teaching will not silence a wife who cries for help, and it will not sanction inappropriate behavior by men who use Scripture as a cloak for their sin. The issue that hangs like a barbed question mark over the entirety of Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife is whether a complementarian reading of Scripture actually leads to abuse of women, or whether the theological abuse and misinterpretation of legitimate Scriptural guidelines are merely a convenient cover for men who would abuse women within (or without) any faith context. Having been on the receiving end of this misuse of Scripture, Ruth Tucker is understandably leery about the s word. My own experience of Ephesians 5:21 mutual submission within marriage from day one has formed my thinking about and reading of Scripture in a different direction, so while I may not agree with Ruth on every point, at the same time, Ive never had to defend myself against an enraged, Scripture-spewing, out-of-control husband.
Balancing the Biblical scrapbook of family dysfunction, Ruth shares examples from Scripture of strong and decisive women and of men who, like the Apostle Paul, much-maligned misogynist, who actually praised his female co-workers for their faithfulness.
Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife is a call to grapple with and to evaluate motives behind theological positions on the family, to provide support to women who are experiencing abuse, and to speak out publicly against domestic violence. Upheld by a high view of the sovereignty of God, Ruth found hope, and her strong voice rings out with the tough questions that will spark conversation and challenge leadership to look squarely at the issue of the respect and safety of women. I applaud Ruth for reliving the painful years in order to share in and hopefully to dispel the shame and humiliation of other women who are enduring the often silent epidemic of domestic abuse and its aftermath. Whatever conclusion one reaches about roles and relationships within the family, there is no Scriptural sanction for domestic abuse.
1 Follow Gods example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God . . . 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. (Ephesians 5:1,2,and 21)
This book was provided by Zondervan through the BookLookBloggers program in exchange for my review. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commissions 16 CFR, Part 255 : Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.
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