5 Stars Out Of 5
A Gift for your Marriage
September 9, 2016
Have you ever felt as if your marriage is a battle, or that you dont understand your spouse? Love at First Fight by Carey and Dena Dyer is a unique, Christ-centered devotional for couples that can help bring them closer together or help one spouse if the other isnt ready for it. There are many beneficial things that this real-life married-almost-20-years team share. It is a must-read for Christian couples, whether newly-wed or together for years. The authors are transparent with their feelings and struggles and how they learned to work through them not in their own strength but in the Lords. They share humor, showing how to laugh at oneself or the situation. Each devotion is a starting place for couples to converse with each other.
One thing they demonstrate is that, while each person and couple is unique, there are many ways we are alike. Many husbands and wives are complete opposites. Many spouses are afraid to share their feelings, fears or failures with anyone, much less their spouse. Carey and Dena are blessed examples that others might have had the same struggles. Learning to speak with and listen to ones spouse can bring positive changes over time, especially when each begins to have empathy for each other, also allowing a couple to seek a solution together in a way pleasing to the Lord.
The authors address challenges common to many couples, and challenges that effect some couples and not others. The devotions begin with the early days of marriage and go through various life stages such as having children, raising children, or looking at aging situations. These include if one of the spouses has a chronic illness and the other spouse has to step up in ways that neither anticipated, if a spouse has lost a job and struggles to find a new one, or if a spouse is dealing with depression. A topic not addressed, probably since the authors did not personally experience it, would be one or both spouses having children from prior marriages and the variety of challenges that can result. I do feel that using this couples pattern of devotions, these and other challenges can be peacefully discussed and worked through.
Each devotion begins with a scripture apropos to the conversational, story-based devotion, then each spouse writes from their point of view and what they learned. They include a prayer, then a section aptly called Taking off the Gloves where suggestions are made, based on the authors experience through the Lords direction. These suggestions are a starting place for a couple to discuss their challenge while seeking a solution. The last part of each devotion is Tips from the Pros, literally a tip from someone who has been married for various numbers of years sharing something they learned in their marriage.
Included is a list of ministries that address couples situations (such as Focus on the Family), a list of authors who write on marriage relationships (such as Gary Smalley), and a list of scriptures used.
There is something for every couple at in this valuable book! I highly recommend Love at First Fight to every couple (or even one spouse if the other isnt ready). Couples preparing for marriage may also find some suggested discussions helpful, especially if guided by their pastor before the big day.
With a grateful heart, I received a copy of this book from the publisher, Barbour Publishing, in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own, and no monetary compensation was received.