When a marriage is devastated by infidelity, it is extremely difficult for both partners to hang on to hope. Trust has been broken and where can you go from here? In Staying Together, author Stephen Judah helps couples survive the affair and put their marriage back together by offering practical and hopeful advice for husbands and wives as they navigate their way back to one another.
Affairs happen, and when a marriage is threatened by infidelity, all parties involved can become desperate. The air gets pretty thin, and our ability to look past our immediate needs is compromised. We're tempted to look out only for ourselves, and the marital relationship is left hanging on for dear life. How did we get here? Where do we go from here? Can this relationship survive? Steve Judah explores the phenomenon of infidelity, considering both the push of marital discord and the pull of sexual temptation. With clear and helpful analysis of the relational science behind infidelity, he delivers a tested way back toward a meaningful marriage. Your marriage can survive and even thrive after infidelity has been confronted. This book provides a savvy, practical and hopeful guide for couples to navigate this turbulent terrain and find their way back to one another.
Stephen M. Judah (1950-2008) was a psychologist in private practice, a workshop presenter and an advanced clinician in Imago marriage therapy. He also served as executive director of the Columbus Marriage Coalition (Columbus, Ohio). He wrote .
In his book Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart, Stephen M. Judah, Ph.D. sets on a journey to show couples how to do just thatstay together, that iswhen an adulterous affair could yank them apart. Judah claims that infidelity often stems back to patterns of insecurity in early childhood. The adulterous affair is the end result of moral disaster, leaving the parties involved gasping for breath.
Marriages werent meant to survive in such thin air, so this author/psychologist stands ready to help couples in this state make an excruciating rise into wholeness.
While the author does not mince words when it comes to describing how broken vows shatter a marriage, he spends a good portion of his book providing spiritual and emotional medicine for healing marriages: Being honest with your spouse about infidelity represents a turning point in (restoring) intimacy. As an advanced clinician in Imago marriage therapy, Stephen Judahs aim is to assist couples in rebuilding beauty out of brokenness.
The fact that the author maps out a systematic plan definitely can offer hope to a couple staggering to survive the blow of an affair. However, I was not a little disappointed to have to wait until the Epilogue to find his biblical signposts for such a rigorous journey as recovering from a fractured marriage. Cheryl A. Cecil, Christian Book Previews.com
"This book reflects a deep understanding of the anatomy of affairs and how to survive them. Judah is a good writer, detailed and clear. Clinicians will find much to assist them in working with couples, and sophisticated readers will find excellent guidance in repairing their relationship."
Judah offers very practical advice in bringing healing and reconciliation to everyone involved, including the third party in the affair.
In Staying Together, Stephen M. Judah provides very helpful information about what kind of affairs exist, what causes affairs, and how affairs affect the offending party. The major contribution of this book is found in the authors practical steps he offers couples who seek to reunite after experience infidelity.
"This wonderful book provides hope--the most important ingredient for recovery after infidelity. The hope rests on five essential disciplines: practical, step-by-step guidelines that help couples navigate the broken terrain and rebuild trust. I highly recommend it."
"Dr. Judah's experience and training reveal the need for high character to inform our marriages when infidelity breaches have occurred. This book can and will help those who desire to reconcile with their spouse and be restored to their family."
"Stephen M. Judah could have become a distinguished research scholar and settled down in the academy as a teacher. Instead, he writes as a lieutenant wrestling in the frontlines of marriages coming unglued. His persistent, careful observation of human experience and his dedication to establish a model of triage for the wounded have given him visible wisdom and an authority unlike anyone I know who writes on healing for broken relationships. Look no further: this is the premier treatment of 'the affair,' and all of us will find ways to incorporate the wisdom the author offers."