Why do so many of our churches feel like a safe place for sexual offenders, but an unsafe place for survivors of abuse? The wall of silence regarding sexual abuse in our churches must be torn down. Christians must hear.Tear Down This Wall of Silence
answers questions such as:
- Who are the Enablers who help keep a system of abuse in place?
- Wrong thinking has kept this sin covered in our churches for decades. What are the truths that need to be proclaimed instead?
- Churches, families, and friends must not turn away. How do we properly grieve such a tragedy? How can we offer hope?
- The offender must show fruits of repentance. How can he begin to make restitution?
- How can the abuse survivor find true safety in Jesus Christ?
Through personal memoir, voices of authoritative professionals, and the words of abuse survivors themselves, Tear Down This Wall of Silence
provides a foundational explanation of the problem of sexual abuse in our churches and its aftermath, and offers hope for real change.
Tear Down This Wall of Silence is a shout to slumbering, complacent Christians living in denial to wake up and see what is lurking among them.
-from the foreword by Jeff Crippen,
pastor and author
Dale's love for our great and gracious God and his precious little ones has propelled him to walk toward the church with a message that it must hear and embrace. A message that says the days of silence and secrecy surrounding sexual abuse are over, and the days of light and transparency have begun.
-from the foreword by Boz Tchvidjian
It's difficult to think of any Christian who does not need to read this book. To become a church where the lion can lie down with the lamb and not hurt or destroy, we must first face the hurting and destroying that is a daily part of pretending that we will not eat lambs. Having spent my professional career helping those who have been sexually abused by their mothers and other women, I have to say that the problem is even larger than what this book has addressed, but Ingraham and Davis set forth the clear road we must follow to see lives transformed.
-E. James Wilder, Ph.D.,
pastor, clinical psychologist, founder of Shepherd's House
Dale Ingraham and Rebecca Davis have written a well researched resource for believers navigating sexual abuse in their churches or ministries. Proverbs 17:15 says that those who justify the wicked and condemn the just are both abominations to the Lord. It is of utmost importance that the Church reflect God's heart for justice on this issue. This book is a readable, accessible tool for educating our congregations to that end.
author and founder, Practical Theology for Women and The Gospel-Centered Woman
Tear Down This Wall of Silence is both a command and a comfort. Those tempted to cloak the crimes of sexual abuse in a shroud of secrecy will be convinced there's no other way to stop this awful epidemic than to tear down the wall of silence behind which abusers and enablers hide. For victims of sexual abuse, it serves as a balm to the wounded soul. It's a book I wish I didn't have to recommend, but after reading it I know that I must and that I will.
pastor, blogger, and author
As one who has witnessed first hand the devastation of the mishandling of sexual abuse in a church context, I'm elated to see this much needed resource for the Church. I pray it gets into the hands of every pastor and church leader, so that the safety and well-being of the vulnerable and the wounded can be given the same priority that Christ Himself gave.
OAASIS: Oregon Abuse Advocates & Survivors in Service
Compassionate, biblical, and hopeful . . . Tear Down This Wall of Silence is a passionate cry on behalf of those who have lost their voices.
pastor and Chair of Committee on Child Protection, Communion of Reformed Evangelical Churches
Dale Ingraham, a pastor for over thirty years, is also the husband of Faith, a survivor of nine years of incest. Together they founded Speaking Truth in Love Ministries, awakening churches and other ministries to the realities of sexual abuse within our Christian communities and helping them understand how to deal with it.
Rebecca Davis is an author and editor with a passion to help the oppressed. She is on the advisory board of Speaking Truth in Love Ministries.