I have read this book 3 times on my own and now I am using it for a ladies Bible study. It is not only applicable for the parent, but for the grandparent and any person working with youth. Tedd Tripp brings the process of raising children back to basics...a matter of the heart. I highly recommend this book.
As the mother of 10 living children and 2 in heaven I have to say that I have found the counsel of this book to be unwise. There are many who would say 'take the meat and leave the bones'. That is not Biblical. The Word of God tells us that the leaven of false teaching leavens the whole lump. While some pages contained sound advice for particular circumstances, the whole of the book contained an overall attitude of ruling children by fear of punishment. I was deeply saddened by the advice in the earlier versions of the book to take a baby's diaper off to spank his bare bottom. That is cruelty in the extreme. The idea that spanking is the only form of discipline that brings a child back into a right relationship with God and family is just plain wrong. That's like saying that God uses the same form of discipline for all His children. If that were true I suppose we'd all be swallowed by a great fish when we disobeyed as was Jonah. :-) The author condemns parents for using other methods such as 'time outs'. There are definitely times when we all benefit from a time of being still and reflecting on the wrong we have done. Once we come to the realization of our wrong led by the convicting power of Holy Spirit, we are free to repent and call out to God for forgiveness. Then we are forgiven by God's grace. We get to skip the 'being swallowed by a great fish' incident. :-) All joking aside, I feel that this book contains so many errors that its good points are overshadowed. Parents, especially young and inexperienced parents, should skip this book.
I was desperate to know more on how to relate with my kids especially when it comes to discipline without ruining the relationship i have with them. After reading the reviews from others on this page, i decided to go for it and i do not regret it one bit. I have ordered four more for friends in church.
It was from a lady that I greatly respect that I first heard of this book,and was very excited to read it for myself.But from the very first chapter it was clear that the Lord in His goodness had directed me to the wise instruction that can be found in it's pages.I found confidence,hope and an encouragement that has deepened my faith.My three young sons and I are thankful to Christianbook.com for providing such great material!
I recently purchased this book and it is like having a personal reference/friend that I go to when I have parenting questions. We have a 2 1/2 year old and an 11 months old. When I bought this book, my husband and I needed guidance on how to implement effective discipline in a loving manner, and this book gave us exactly that and more. I wish that we bought this book before our 2 1/2 year old turned one because this would have helped us prevent some discipline issues. One very important thing I learned from this book is to consciously guide/shepherd my children instead of waiting to correct them when they make mistakes. This book also affirms that my husband and I are on the right track in our parenting style. Thank you for writing this book. Excellent work!