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Number of Pages: 240
Publication Date: 2017
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Life as a pastor's wife offers meaningful opportunities to play a significant part in God's work, to witness and participate in the beauty of changed lives. Yet it also carries the potential for deep wounds and great conflict that can drain the joy out of service. Is it worth it?
Kay Warren, Saddleback Church co-founder and wife of Pastor Rick Warren, answers with a resounding, "Yes!" Being a pastor's wife is more than worth the riskit's a sacred privilege. In Sacred Privilege, Warren draws on more than forty years in ministry to provide encouraging principles and life lessons, along with intimate personal stories, that will give readers the confidence needed to lead and live well. She encourages pastor's wives to accept who they are, adapt to change, help their children survive and thrive, protect their privates lives, deal with the inevitable criticism, live with integrity, and develop an eternal perspective.
Whether she is excited, struggling, or feeling broken and tired, every pastor's wife will find hope and encouragement for their calling in Kay's warm and wise words.
Helen MAge: 55-65Gender: Female4 Stars Out Of 5Encouraging and informativeJune 19, 2017Helen MAge: 55-65Gender: FemaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Sacred Privilege, by Kay Warren, is written mainly for pastor's wives. It gives encouragement, and tips for other wives in ministry. She goes into detail explaining how as a pastor's wife, you will lose your privacy, you will be criticized, there will be complaints and conflicts. With these she tells the reader to leave it to God. She explains not to get caught up in trying to please every body.
The author explains that you will not be in ministry very long before you realize you have said yes to God in a way that will challenge every part of you. The author explains you need to accept who you are and know that be open to change. She also explains that you need to take care of yourself and your needs. And if there are children involved in the family, you need to help them . Ministry couples raising children have the normal stress of raising children. But they also have the additional stress of know everyone in their congregation will be watching them as they raise their children as well as what their children do.
I found this to be a very interesting book to read. I am not a minister's wife, nor am I a minister's daughter. I do, however, have family members in the ministry field and this book helped me to see the stress and sacrifices that minister wives deal with. I appreciate how the author uses her life experiences to help other wives. I think this book should be recommended reading for spouses of those in training for ministry as well as for family and close friends.
I received this book from Revell Publishing. I have written an honest review.
Michele MorinWarren, MaineAge: 45-54Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Women in Ministry: What God Want You to KnowJune 6, 2017Michele MorinWarren, MaineAge: 45-54Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5We were greeted with warm handshakes and pleasantries, an outline of the morning service, and then a startling announcement: We assumed that your wife would want to take the children. In the early days of our marriage when my husband was the area director of a childrens ministry, I used to travel with him to his weekend engagements. However, in those days, I had a full-time job, no children yet, and no I did not carry a Bible lesson around in my back pocket. (Given the same situation today? Id probably go for it! Why not?)
Ministry wives are often subject to assumptions and misconceptions, and it is with this audience in mind that Kay Warren has written Sacred Privilege. However, her words are relevant to all women in ministry, with or without husbands. She writes from the perspective of a life-long church girl, the daughter of a pastor, wife to Rick Warren of Saddleback Church and Purpose Driven Life fame, and also as the mother to a pastors wife. The book is a distillation of wisdom gained from an entire life lived in the fish bowl of ministry not from the viewpoint of perfect wife, but as messenger and strong survivor, as one who has taken strength from God for a very specific calling and now wants to pass that encouragement on to others who share that call.
If you are a woman in ministry, heres what God wants you to know:
1. You need to embrace your own story all of it for the glory of God and the good of His kingdom. (31)
Kays story includes a brush with a porn addition and a rocky start to her marriage. It includes a struggle with depression and the mental illness and ultimate suicide of her son. She assesses this terrain and concludes that the life she has lived is the exact price required for becoming who she is today.
2. There is no greater heritage than for children to see that ministry is not just for dads but also for moms and brothers and sisters. (50)
Sharing a ministry focus as a couple and also as a family protects everyone from resentment and eases the claustrophobia of the glass house that can plague ministry families. Kay defines thriving over the long haul as the ability to share a God-given dream and points to Ephesians 2:10 to affirm that God is the architect of that dream.
3. Success in ministry is not about numerical results or recognition but about thriving, flourishing, and growing strong in ones calling and in ones character. (58)
This does not mean that women in ministry will meet everyones expectations. On the flip side, it also does not mean that we will always be free to do the thing we love the most. When it comes to defining success in ministry, the most important voice in the room is Gods.
4. You have a story that is worth telling. (125)
Sharing Gods redemption process in your life is risky because your weaknesses come out of hiding. However, in the process, others are drawn into the Light, and true friendships can be formed that will endure for the long haul. Life in community knowing others and being known is so much safer and more comfortable than life on a pedestal.
5. No one will take care of you but you. (139)
That sounds cynical, doesnt it? And its not to say that God, your husband, and/or your loving church family are all out to exploit you and suck you dry, but there are some aspects of self-care that are completely in your court: eating, sleeping, and moving every day are your responsibility. My favorite of Kays aphorisms applies here:
Control the controllable and leave the uncontrollable to God.
Nourishing the inner life and stepping away from ministry for Sabbath rest may require some adjusting. Cultivating this flexibility is a discipline that is well worth it in the end.
6. Accept the loss of privacy with Gods grace. (180)
Gail MacDonald and Edith Schaeffer have blazed a gracious trail for ministry wives (and all women) with their writing, and Edith is eloquently accurate on this subject of boundaries:
A family is a door that has hinges and a lock. The hinges should be well-oiled to swing the door open during certain times, but the lock should be firm enough to let people know that the family needs to be alone part of the time, just to be a family. (183)
7. Live with transparency and work hard to do what is right in the sight of God and others. (194)
Because ministry is a sacred privilege, God-honoring integrity is key, particularly in the crucial areas of sex, money, and power. Kay and her husband maintain a warnings file with details about well-known pastors who have left the ministry because of moral failure just to remind them of their own vulnerability.
8. Maintain an eternal perspective.
Practicing radical forgiveness will make the battle scars earned in church conflict more bearable and will even speed healing! Franois Fnelon offers wise counsel:
Dont be so upset when things are said about you. Let the world talk; just seek to do the will of God. You will never be able to entirely satisfy people and it isnt worth the painful effort. (215)
The shared dreams and plans, the sacrifices and the adjustments required of women in ministry can be viewed alongside Pauls metaphor of the Christian life as a race. We run toward a finish line that is difficult to see, and the noise of the crowd whether cheering or jeering can be a distraction. Making it our aim to please God is the mindset that will foster self-acceptance, a thriving family, and the ability to live out Gods calling on our lives with integrity and joy.
This book was provided by Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group, in exchange for my review. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commissions 16 CFR, Part 255 : Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.
AmyL5 Stars Out Of 5Sacred PrivilegeMay 29, 2017AmyLQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Sacred Privilege: Your Life and Ministry as a Pastor's Wife speaks the freedom to lead your family your way. To learn how to come alongside your husband as you begin to share the dream of a pastoring at a church. And to help care for yourself and your family while still living the dream.
I'm glad I'm reading this book while Eric is in seminary. In fact, it's something I think anyone involved in ministry would benefit from. Warren reminds us how to build our friendship boundaries. How to keep perspective when others think you are parenting incorrectly. (side note: I totally don't believe there is a perfect way to parent. We all get something wrong somewhere along the way!) How to build those boundaries, share what is pertinent without doing damage to yourself, your family and immediate relationships.
Whether I always keep it in mind or remember it, I have been given a sacred privilege. Whether or not Eric ever becomes a pastor, I know I will be a better wife because of reading this book. It's helped me to consider how I approach things through the blog as a whole.
I received a copy of this book from Revell books. This review is my own, honest opinion.
JanetBelton, TXAge: 45-54Gender: Female5 Stars Out Of 5Encouraging and InsightfulMay 26, 2017JanetBelton, TXAge: 45-54Gender: FemaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Kay Warren's new book is written especially for ministry wives, and I found it a privilege to read. Within its pages Warren shares her life stories, stories of childhood, marriage, motherhood, friendship, and ministry, along with all the wisdom she's gleaned. She's as honest as she needs to be in order to make her points to encourage and bless fellow ministry wives.
Chapters cover all the essentials: sharing the dream with your spouse, accepting who you are, adapting to change, helping your children in their unique role, conflict, privacy, friendship, your personal spiritual growth, and more. I especially appreciated her personal testimony presented in stages throughout the book; it reminded me I'm not the only one facing some of these challenges and gave me fresh ideas for handling them well.
I recommend Sacred Privilege to all ministry wives and thank Revell for sending me a complimentary copy in exchange for this honest review.
Mrs. W.2 Stars Out Of 5Not What I ExpectedMay 15, 2017Mrs. W.Quality: 5Value: 2Meets Expectations: 1I was expecting this book to be a guide to how to be a good wife to a husband in the ministry. I thought it would be like a cheerleader to the readers for doing good work in the home and in the church. But I could not get past the first chapter.
The author explains in the preface that she is going to be "raw" and "transparent." I didn't realize she was going to describe some of the sins and terrible experiences in her own life. This is not what I thought the book was going to be about. Perhaps others will find help in reading this, but I found it discouraging and depressing. I was looking for rest and peace and sweet holiness. There was none of that in the first chapter. I cannot get past that. The title is a bit misleading.
* Disclosure - This book was provided for review purposes. *