You want to raise respectful kids - and YOU CAN. Jill Rigby offers advice for how to succeed by modeling respect, helping your kids find purpose and learn perseverance, setting and maintaining healthy boundaries and other useful tips that will help you succeed in raising respectful kids in a disrespectful world.
Author and speaker Jill Rigby maintains that our society has substituted self-esteem for self-respect, and in the process, we’ve lost our manners. In this inspirational and practical book, she tells parents how to instill character and purpose in their children without erecting walls of rebellion.
In an effort to raise children with a healthy view of themselves, parents have focused on self-esteem rather than self-respect. And author Jill Rigby says there’s a big difference. It’s the difference between self-centered and others-centered children, the difference between performance-driven and purpose-focused teenagers.
This book also examines three different styles of parenting—parent-centered, child-centered and character-centered. Parent-centered parents are more concerned with their own agenda than their child’s best interest. Child-centered parents are more concerned with their child’s approval than their child’s well-being. Character-centered parents are more concerned with their child’s character than their child’s comfort.
A chapter on the School of Respect gives guidance for tots to teens and what the goal for each age group is and what training is necessary to reach that goal. This chapter also includes thirty-six ways to cultivate a house of respect.
Drawing a distinction between performance and purpose, this book maintains that rather than asking what you want your child to do, you ask what you want your child to become. In delineating the difference between being a coach to your child vs being a cheerleader, the author teaches parents the difference in offering false and genuine praise and applauding mediocrity vs engendering excellence. With wisdom and insight, Jill Rigby shares age-appropriate ways to set boundaries with children without building walls of separation. Finally, she calls for parents to discipline (teach) their children rather than punish them.
Jill Rigby is an accomplished speaker, columnist, television personality, family advocate, and founder of Manners of the Heart Community Fund, a nonprofit organization bringing a return of civility and respect to our society. Whether equipping parents to raise responsible children, encouraging the education of the heart, or training executives in effective communication skills, Jill’s definition of manners remains the same—an attitude of the heart that is self-giving, not self-serving. She is the proud mother of twin sons who testify to her contagious passion.
“Jill Rigby tells us in practical words what we all need to not only hear but do. This book should be required reading for all parents.”
"Our Midday Connection listeners love listening to Jill! They appreciate hearing her share principles and practical tools to raise children who will become responsible and respectable adults. What parent today doesn’t want those things for their child or for our society?"
“In this age of overindulgence and underparenting, Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World gives sound advice that will transform your family. With courage and conviction, Jill Rigby debunks many of the conventional beliefs in child rearing, replacing them with the wisdom of experience.”
“If you’re concerned about the negative effect popular culture is having on America’s children, and you want to know what you can do to prevent your child from falling under its sway, then you need to read this book and you need to do what Jill Rigby says, because she’s right and that’s all there is to it.”
“In a world where permissive misbehavior is more the rule than the exception—at a time when so many parents have opted out—Jill Rigby comes along with a marvelous ray of hope for all who have accepted the responsibility of guiding those who will lead the next generation.”
“Jill explains what it means to raise children of purpose as she shares practical, how-to, godly principles to help parents teach their children to have self-respect and to respect others.”
“This book is a must-read for parents who want to raise moral, responsible, spiritually healthy children with wisdom, grace, and practicality.”
“With a kindness unlike anyone I’ve ever known, Jill urges children to live lives they can be proud of, lives that will make a difference for the kingdom of God. Parents can now experience the blessing from her years of work and vast knowledge in how to raise respectful children in the disrespectful world they must grow up in.”