My husband is a pastor and I'm a therapist. Worked pregnancy centers for 15 years, taught sex ed in public schools...we have all the qualifications to teach others this information but when it came to our kids it was incredibly difficult! We found this years ago with our first child when it was on cassette tapes and have updated for our other children as each came of age. They have all said that it is one of their most precious memories about growing up. Our son in particular was benefited in that he started to have testicular pain not long after the passport weekend. He needed surgery and it was because of our conversations on this issue that he felt he could share so easily and not be embarrassed. We recommend to all young families for their kids. Please don't miss out on this resource.
This was so helpful for me. We all get nervous introducing the subject of puberty and sex with our children. It made something difficult and awkward, fun and so rewarding!!! It is narrated (on CDs) in a very kid friendly way that is engaging, yet serious. It was so worth it! I wish I had use this with my older two girls. This is ideal for ages 10-13.
I have used this before, and this updated version really address today's issues. I love this product, simply because it is put together will a lot of thought, love and framed with a strong Biblical background. The demonstrations really are fundamental to getting the idea across, because it is so important that they understand the concept. Dont put it off such an important discussion, and keep talking with them throughout their teen years.
Wow! What an incredible weekend! What an incredible resource!
P2P is a resource that helps you go deeper in some of the tougher topics that parents and children need to discuss. Don't get me wrong. As a parent, I began discussing these topics long before I knew they would be an issue...but the teen years come upon us before we know it...and they are fraught with dangers and pitfalls. As parents it is our responsibility (and privilege) TO PREPARE OUR KIDS before they know they need it.
There is incredible peer pressure out there; peer pressure for our kids to step outside of what they know and are familiar with to go into the unknown. IF we don't prepare them ahead of time for how they will respond, who will?
I bought the P2P and the Project Kit on the suggestion of a dear friend of mine. She had done this with 4 of her 5 kids and thought it would be good for me to do with my 15 year old son.
It is set up for fathers/sons and mother/daughters - but don't let that stop you from mixing it up.
The directions are easy to follow and FamilyLife provides everything you need.. I ordered the package early and got familiar with the information beforehand. You DEFINITELY want to read the Parent's Guide (AHEAD OF TIME). It lays out the agenda for each day and helps you prepare and have all the supplies you will need for your weekend away. This is hands-on and interactive weekend...but there are many opportunities for you to impress upon your child how invested you are in them, including your chance to write a handwritten note to your son/daughter telling them how much you appreciate them -- truly a keepsake (and FamilyLife even guides you in how to write your letter and what to include). IF you have time, I highly suggest listening to the CDS ahead of time as well (not required - but will prove beneficial, for sure).
We got the package, packed up everything we would need for a mother/son weekend away and headed down to the beach (mid-winter). I can assure you this was impressive to him; as we have never gone away together alone.
The P2P weekend was a powerful, intense, and thrilling adventure (especially the midnight walk on the sandbar with the pounding surf in the dark!). While I have been having these discussions here and there throughout the years, this was an opportunity to get away for an intentional time (36 hours or so) to hit on key issues your child is, or will be, dealing with and do some fun interactive projects that creatively allow your child to open up and candidly discuss where their heart is. For us, it was incredible. He thoroughly engaged and was able to think about how he would handle various sticky situations before they happen (and they WILL come his way sooner or later).
As a mom, I was honored to do this with my son. I think he knew how meaningful this was because he was not tuning me out one bit! But we made it fun, too! We walked on the beach, ate at some cool restaurants, did the boardwalk...all interspersed with engaging in these incredibly pointed discussions on topics that probably are more crucial to our kids than many of us imagine or realize.
PLEASE! Don't miss this opportunity. Do tt with your child. I truly believe that this weekend will be one they always remember. In fact, mid-way through the weekend, when I told him FamilyLife was coming out with another Get Away Package for older teens, he immediately said, "We can do that one next year," which confirmed he was enjoying himself. Another time he said, "When you do this with my brother...." Both of those statements told me this was worth the investment of my time, money and effort.
The CDs give you the benefit of not being the one delivering the message...you are not the messenger :-)...and that makes it feel less of a lecture to your child (if you know what I mean). The information is presented as a "right of passage"; your child is being brought into the inner circle and given tools to attack these issues head on. FamilyLife sets the entire stage in a serious, fun, mature way that changes the dynamics of your relationship and creates an atmosphere of "we are in this together," "I am your guide," and, "I want the best for you."
As a parent, I will never regret the time, the investment or the seeds that were sown on this weekend away; they are priceless. I hope that my child assumes that, "This is what parents do with their kids at this age...and when I have kids, I will do the same thing." This truly is your opportunity to change/affect the trajectory of your child's life, and the lives of their children as well, for generations to come. Trust me when I say, "You will be glad you did this one thing...perhaps more than the many others you have done as a parent..."