In the search of the ideal blueprint for raising their children, many Christians have seized hold of mistaken notions about parenting. They believe, for example, that having children should bring happiness, that happy children are a sign of good parenting, and that following the right set of parenting principles guarantees their children will become godly adults. But a closer look at what the Bible says about parenting exposes these beliefs as guilt-inducing myths and replaces them with the fresh hope of truth. The entire Old Testament is a narrative of God's own fathering of the nation Israel, whom he calls "my first-born son." Other stories of families in the Old Testament and Jesus's redefinition of family in the New Testament also reveal startling truths about parenting that move the focus from imperfect human efforts to God's holy purposes.
Why am I not a more joyful parent? Why aren’t my kids turning out as I expected? Why do I always feel as if I’m not doing enough for my children?
Is Parenting Supposed to Be This Difficult?
As a mother of six, author Leslie Leyland Fields knows firsthand the insecurities and questions that come with rearing children. In this provocative book, she explores with refreshing honesty the myths that can lead to unrealistic expectations and distract us from God’s purposes for our children and for us. These nine myths include:
• Children make you happy and bring great fulfillment.
• You will always feel love for your child.
• Your success as a parent can be measured by your child’s behavior.
• There is one “right” biblical model for family life.
• Good parenting will result in happy children.
Through a close look at God’s own life as a parent as well as stories from real-life families, Fields highlights the transforming biblical truths that release parents from the grip of mistaken assumptions. Fresh, provocative insights will lead you to a deeper understanding of God and yourself–an understanding that lifts the weight of guilt and fear and frees you to love your children as God intended.
Includes “going deeper” questions for individuals, couples, or groups.
Leslie Leyland Fields is the author of six books, including Surprise Child: Finding Hope in Unexpected Pregnancy. She has received the Virginia Faulkner Award for Excellence in Writing and nominations for the Pushcart Prize and has written for journals such as Christianity Today, The Atlantic Monthly, and Today’s Christian Woman. The mother of six children, Leslie divides her time among parenting, writing, commercial fishing, and teaching in Seattle Pacific University’s master of fine arts program. She and her family on Kodiak Island, Alaska.