Making Marriage Beautiful: Lifelong Love, Joy, and Intimacy Start with You - eBook
Making Marriage Beautiful: Lifelong Love, Joy, and Intimacy Start with You - eBook  -     By: Dorothy Greco
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Vendor: David C Cook
Publication Date: 2017
ISBN: 9781434710000
ISBN-13: 9781434710000

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What makes a marriage beautiful? Honesty? Compatibility? Physical and emotional intimacy? All of these are important, but there’s one component that determines the quality and longevity of a marriage more than anything else: a willingness to grow.

Because a wedding joins together two imperfect people, all couples experience disappointment, conflict, and pain. How husbands and wives respond to these challenges determines the kind of people they will become and the kind of marriage they will have.

Making Marriage Beautiful reveals how the pursuit of Christ results in profound transformation for both the individual and the marriage. Rather than offering clichés and formulas, Greco relies on candor, humor, and real life stories to bring encouragement and wisdom to all couples, regardless of whether they have been married four weeks or forty years.

Author Bio

Dorothy Greco and her husband, Christopher, have spent their entire twenty-five-year marriage helping men and women create and sustain healthy marriages. They have served numerous churches in the Greater Boston area for thirty years. Dorothy's writing has been featured in Relevant MagazineChristianity TodaySojourners, and Her.meneutics. She is a regular contributor for Gifted for LeadershipToday's Christian Woman, and Start Marriage Right. The Grecos have three sons and live near Boston.

Editorial Review

A few months ago, an acquaintance confided that her marriage is in trouble. She asked about egalitarian marriage resources, and I enthusiastically recommended Dorothy Greco’s new book, Making Marriage Beautiful.

The book’s eleven chapters survey a range of topics, from managing expectations to navigating in-laws, gender roles, communication, conflict, abuse, addiction, community (outside of marriage) and healthy response to external challenges and crises.

Drawing upon twenty-five years of marriage to her husband Christopher, Greco offers full disclosure of the struggles, failures, successes, and transformation they have seen. With refreshing self-awareness and humor, Greco serves less as an instructor and more as a fellow traveler. Gary Chapman explains this in the book’s forward: “In Making Marriage Beautiful, Dorothy Greco vulnerably shares the journey she and her husband have traveled from brokenness to beauty.”

A variety of readers will find helpful wisdom in Greco’s work. Those considering engagement will find a realistic view of what a healthy marriage requires. Couples at all stages of relationship—whether newlyweds or those facing rough patches—will find a wealth of suggestions and encouragement. Those in mature stages of marriage will find resources for cultivating continued depth and growth. Greco shares stories of multiethnic couples, highlighting the unique challenges of marriage in different cultures and in inter-cultural marriage. Those looking for a book to study as a couple or small group will benefit from the discussion questions at the end of each chapter.

Like any marriage book should, Greco’s work deals with expectations, communication, and conflict.

Greco challenges men and women to “ferret out unhelpful expectations” at the heart of disappointment. She writes, “What if rather than blaming each other for our disappointments, we confessed our failures and owned our areas of weakness? What if we looked under the disappointments to discern if they revealed any egocentric expectations, disordered attachments, or misplaced hope?” (p. 79). Instead of letting go of expectations, she encourages us to shift from blame to self-awareness. Greco reveals the painful process she went through of learning to let go of an unrealistic expectation harming her marriage. She models the difficult and messy process of “holy resignation.” As we live and move and have our being in Jesus, it’s possible to love our spouse without demanding change. 

Greco urges couples to deal squarely with anger. She encourages us to give up toxic behaviors that harm a relationship (defensiveness, moralizing, manipulating, withdrawing, and lashing out). An emotionally healthy practice of anger requires keeping reactions in check as we balance self-control with self-expression. Greco explains how to change this dynamic, allowing us to appreciate each other more fully and give of ourselves more freely.

To those wrestling to forgive a spouse, Greco offers healthy perspectives of confession and forgiveness—what they are and aren’t. She reminds us the stakes are high when we fail to confess our sins or forgive one another. She encourages us to look to the One who brings us together and remember that Jesus makes us one. Only in that place will we see the goodness God is able to call out on the other side of suffering.

On the topic of communication, Greco reminds us of the profound human need for meaningful connection. She urges us not to allow technology (cell phones, Skype, email, etc.) to encroach on couples’ time alone. Setting aside distractions opens the way for deepening relational and sexual intimacy. “Good listeners,” she writes, “make better lovers.” Couples will benefit from practical suggestions for building a deeper, stronger relationship.

More than a few marriage books fall short in their treatment (or lack thereof) of gender stereotyping, addiction, and abuse. Greco provides a much-needed correction.

Greco unpacks cultural stereotypes and expectations that society and faith communities so often place on men and women. At the same time, she acknowledges that sex-related variables often play into marriage dynamics—for better or for worse. She shares how she and Christopher learned to embrace their unique designs rather than suffering shame for failing to conform to pink or blue expectations. Rather than buying into simplistic gender roles, Greco encourages couples to navigate the mysterious waters as different genders and unique people. She urges readers to consider how gender expectations may be harming their marriages.

For spouses navigating the thorny ground of addictions, Greco explains the source of disordered attachments and addictions that so often devastate marriages. Vulnerably, she and Christopher share the ups and downs of their journey to freedom. To those who feel isolated, ashamed, and hopeless, they extend wise encouragement without sugar coating the process. Change is possible as we lean into the One who lived and died and rose again. No matter how discouraging or hopeless our circumstances, no matter the condition of our relationship, Jesus is with us, ready to make all things new.

Far from giving tidy answers, Greco addresses the tragic issue of intimate partner abuse and violence. She reminds us that safety is tantamount. Jesus lived and died and rose again for all things to be new; but enduring abuse is never part of God’s plan. Knowing that issues of power and control drive abuse and violence, Greco wisely points victims to professional abuse counselors.

Throughout her work, Greco reminds us of the importance of choosing joy, and the beauty of journeying that road together in the One who makes marriage beautiful.

---Amy R. Buckley
---Used with permission from Christians for Biblical Equality

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