Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires, the Respect He Desperately NeedsDr. Emerson EggerichsThomas Nelson / 2004 / Hardcover$12.49 Retail:4.5 Stars Out Of 5 229 Reviews Video
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kstarohioAge: 45-54Gender: Female1 Stars Out Of 5Good Crazy Cycle Advice, but flawedApril 6, 2015kstarohioAge: 45-54Gender: FemaleQuality: 2Value: 2Meets Expectations: 1I am truly glad many people pulled what is good about this book. He has a great mental visual with his "crazy cycle" that can be helpful to any marriage. And his COUPLE section showed some very good insights for men about women and his CHAIRS section also showed great advice for women toward their husbands but was more harsh toned than needed and than the male section. But his basic premise is that if the wife will show unconditional respect then this will "trigger" unconditional love. If she meets a condition he will "love". Christlike love does not come from a condition someone meets but from Christ Himself. Meeting a condition negates that it is unconditional. It may inspire and spur on and bring affection, but not unconditional love. He reinforces this," ...the best way to keep the Crazy Cycle contained is by having wives show husbands respect and then having husbands show wives their loves." He consistently slants that the husbands "just can't" love their wives until they 'feel' respected. He repeats this and admits he truly believes that is THE key. It is her that needs to move first. A good Christian book should not slant to one side but lift up and encourage both. All need to learn to understand the opposite sex and learn to unselfishly meet the needs of the other as we grow in Christ. It does a few times state the more mature one should follow Christ and love and/or respect. Yes, if he kept that as the focus it would have been a good book. He doe not follow his own statements here throughout the book. Also he says a man is "first among equals" but they just can't love their wives because they are disrespected. I could push this easily that a man as the leader should follow Christ and be a spiritual leader and love as the Lord commanded no matter what others or his wife do. The husband represents Christ and did make the first move towards a sinful church. But equal treatment of husbands/wives would have been wonderful. He also in a few places makes insulting remarks about women. For instance statements like" all men have had to read their wives minds" and that most fat women have skinny husbands when discussing not listening to husbands. If he wants to discuss ladies respecting husbands but insults and disrespects women at all in his book it harms his work. Perhaps many a young wife has done this mind reading, but certainly not all and I have felt that way about my husband at times especially when newly married. Take the good out of it but I would not recommend it as a great marriage book.
kmhibbeQuincy, ILAge: 18-24Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Best Retlational BookMarch 18, 2015kmhibbeQuincy, ILAge: 18-24Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5This book is relevant to every and all relationships in your life - not just romantic ones. It has helped me with all male relationships in my life, including my dad and brother. There are so meaning "ahh-ha" and "so that's why..." moments as you read the book. It's a must have for anyone! Unless, you live in a cave with no human contact.
gmalynch5 Stars Out Of 5excellent bookDecember 12, 2014gmalynchour Pastor taught a sermon series based on this book 3 years which encouraged us to purchase the book. although the concept of unconditional love is universally taught, the concept of unconditional respect was new to me and every lady I share it with. this is the 6th copy of this book I have purchased to give to a female friend who is married or engaged. i think it gives them a better shot at "happily ever after".
kmc5 Stars Out Of 5Love and RespectAugust 28, 2014kmcQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Absolutely the best book about relationships. A must have for everyone.
eaglema55SAN JOSE, CAAge: 55-655 Stars Out Of 5LOVE & RESPECTMarch 10, 2014eaglema55SAN JOSE, CAAge: 55-65Quality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5I PURCHASED THIS BOOK IN JANUARY 2014 THROUGH THE RECOMMENDATION OF A CLOSE FRIEND. THE SUNDAY AFTER I ORDERED IT, OUR PASTOR ANNOUNCED THEY WERE DOING THE CLASS ON THIS BOOK "LOVE & RESPECT" BY DR EGGERICHS. I TOLD MY HUSBAND WE WERE GOING TO SIGN UP @ THE END OF THE SERVICE. I WISH I WOULD HAVE KNOWN ALL THE INFO MANY YEARS AGO. IT REALLY WOULD HAVE HELPED THROUGH OUR ALMOST 33 YEARS OF MARRIAGE! BOTH MY HUSBAND & I HAVE & ARE MAKING CHANGES TO BETTER OUR MARRIAGE. IF YOU ARE LIKE ME, READY TO THROW IN THE TOWEL, PLEASE GET THIS BOOK & READ IT AS A NIGHTLY DEVOTIONAL! BLESSINGS!