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Number of Pages: 288
Publication Date: 2008
|Dimensions: 9.00 X 6.00 (inches)|
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exactly what you can do about it!
Tired of arguing with your spouse over the same old issues?
Longing for a marriage with less conflict and more intimacy?
Struggling under a load of resentment?
In How We Love, relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich draw on the powerful tool of attachment theory to show how your early life experiences created an "intimacy imprint"an underlying blueprint that shapes your behavior, beliefs, and expectations of all relationships, especially your marriage. They identify four types of injured imprints that combine in marriage to trap couples in a repetitive dance of pain.
The groundbreaking principles and practical, solution-focused tools in this book will equip you to…
·identify the imprints disrupting your marriage,
·understand how your love style impacts your mate,
·break free of negative patterns that hinder your relationship,
·enhance your sexual intimacy, and
·create the deeper, richer marriage of your dreams.
Discover the truths that have transformed countless relationships including the authors marriageso you can stop stepping on each others toes and instead be swept along by the music of a richer, more passionate relationship.
Includes a study guide for individual or group discussion.
Kay Yerkovich is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a master’s degree in counseling. She has been using attachment theory in her professional counseling of couples and families for more than thirteen years.
The Yerkoviches have been married thirty-three years and are the parents of four adult children. They make their home in Southern California.
The key to creating a deeper bond in your marriage may lie buried in your childhood.
Your early life experiences create an "intimacy imprint"an underlying blueprint that shapes your behavior, beliefs, and expectations of all future relationships, especially your marriage. In How We Love, relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich help you pinpoint the reason your marriage is strugglingand they reveal exactly what you can do about it.
Drawing on the powerful tool of attachment theory, the Yerkoviches identify four types of injured imprints that combine in marriage to trap couples in a repetitive dance of pain. As you discover how your relationship has been guided by these imprints, youll gain the insights you need to stop stepping on each others toes and instead allow yourselves to be swept along by the music of a richer, deeper relationship.
“How We Love has the capacity to change not only your marriage but every relationship that’s important in your life.”
–JOSH MCDOWELL, Christian apologist, evangelist, and author of more than seventy-five books including More Than a Carpenter and Evidence that Demands a Verdict
“The authors have translated the complexity of how we love into a highly readable and clearly written book. Couples will easily be able to identify their love styles and how to transform them into genuine love. I recommend it to all couples.”
–HARVILLE HENDRIX, PHD, therapist and educator with over twenty-five years of experience, cofounder and president of the Institute for Imago Relationship Therapy, and author of Getting the Love You Want
“Milan and Kay bring us a fresh look at intimacy and how we learn to love. Their practical and personal approach will enrich anyone’s marriage.”
–DAVID STOOP, PHD, psychologist and author of When Couples Pray Together
“I found How We Love to be extremely enlightening: a discovery of how best to love my wife, how to nurture her through a better understanding of our love styles, and how to implement change.”
–PHILWAUGH, executive director of Covenant Marriage Movement
“I have had the joy and privilege of working with Milan and Kay on a professional level and have been amazed at the success of their therapeutic techniques. Understanding our love styles and taking down the walls created by our imprints are skills that can help every marriage. I am thrilled that more couples will learn how to strengthen their relationships through the tools described in this book.”
–DR. ELIZABETH JOHN, MD, psychiatrist
“Milan and Kay have taken their own life experience, their research over the years, and their experience in the counseling office, and distilled it into a work that is rigorous, original, and understandable. If you want to strengthen and enrich your marriage, as well as grow personally, I strongly encourage you to read and digest this material. The effect on all your relationships will be powerful.”
–DR. JIM MASTELLER, executive director of the Center for Individual and Family Therapy
“Through Milan and Kay’s candid stories you will learn your own love style, find how to connect more deeply with your spouse, and ultimately realize who you were meant to be at the core of your being.”
–GREG CAMPBELL, retired business executive
“Forget everything external you think defines you. The quality of your relationships and your contributions to them are what make life great or miserable. This book is a key to a world of insight into intimacy only you can bring to your relationships. With each page, I felt Milan and Kay had seen my movie! My marriage is different today because of the simple, profound help I discovered in these pages.”
–KENNY LUCK, author of Risk and Every Man, God’s Man, men’s pastor at Saddleback Church, and founder of Every Man Ministries
“The Yerkoviches have taken important developmental and psychological concepts and given them to us in a user-friendly fashion. They give us a peek into their personal journey and the countless people they have helped move from young hurts toward more meaningful intimate attachment. How We Love helps us see ourselves more clearly and understand our roles in the impasses of our relationships.…A practical and impactful read for all!”
–JILL HUBBARD, PHD, clinical psychologist, cohost of New Life Live! national radio program, speaker, and full-time mom
“I am excited that Milan and Kay have given us the guiding principles of a successful marriage. With candor and uncommon insight they have demystified the issues in relationships that cause so many couples to get stuck. This book will get the wheels rolling and provide a destination filled with hope, healing, and fulfillment.”
–DR. MICK UKLEJA, president of LeadershipTraq and chair of the Governing Council of the Ukleja Center for Ethical Leadership
Chris5 Stars Out Of 5How We Love : Discover Your Love Style, Enhance your MarriageAugust 18, 2016ChrisQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Excellent book. Interesting, easy to read, and important information. Even for one who is over 70, and never married. (No gifts in that area.) Thank You, Focus on the Family, for having both authors as guests on your radio program. Their explanation of the ways that people end up as Pleasers, Avoiders, Vacillators, Victims, and Controllers (and best of all - Secure Connectors :) ) - this 'insider knowledge' is a big help for anyone who has ever held a job or served on a committee or interfaced with the public. Even the never married will be well served by the personal stories provided by the book How We Love. And - for those of you who ARE gifted enough for the high-demand (but high reward) state of life known as marriage - I welcome you to read / study How we Love together - and to benefit from it. Welcome aboard !
klf5 Stars Out Of 5how we loveAugust 27, 2014klfOutstanding! Helps you identify your own love style by giving you the test as well as examples of each. You can easily relate and see yourself through the clear descriptions of each style. It also gives you a workshop of questions to help you get started. It offers you hope with no condemnation.
kimberMilwaukee, WIAge: 35-44Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5This book is really helping me!October 25, 2013kimberMilwaukee, WIAge: 35-44Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5I'm currently working thru the book and workbook a small group at my church and I love it! It has really opened my eyes.
JennyLeavenworth WAAge: 45-54Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5This book really helped my marriageDecember 14, 2012JennyLeavenworth WAAge: 45-54Gender: femaleI had tried many marriage books, but this book really helped me to see how much anger I was bringing to our marriage. I fit the vacillator profile. Seeing how I was contributing to problems helped me to have more patience and advocate for myself in a more productive way. I can't say everything is perfect yet: I've got a lot to work on, but things are much calmer as I've been able to recognize how much of the turmoil came from within me.
CharEdmonton Alberta CanadaAge: 35-44Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5April 15, 2012CharEdmonton Alberta CanadaAge: 35-44Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5A wonderful, insighful book. Great for someone to see how their childhood affects how they relate to their spouse or friends/co-workers. Great question/quiz section as well as pracitcal workbook to help improve weak or difficult areas in your relationships. Highly recommend to all who seek to improve communication skills in any relationship or just to understand themselves better.