As the daughter of well-known preacher, T.D. Jakes, Sarah Jakes was raised in the church with Biblical values but her world was shaken when she discovered she was pregnant at 13 years old. This discovery was the beginning of her struggles to define herself and find her niche in the world. I would put this book in the category of biographical and not instructional. Ms. Jakes describes her journey into adulthood and does not teach about how to be found. I particularly liked Ms. Jakes writing style and her use of analogies. She has themes such as love and God's grace that she carries throughout the book, making it consistent and well connected. I thought she was very real and authentic, willing to share some very embarrassing moments. These moments were ones I could relate to, not necessarily an exact match but the emotion behind the situation, such as the regret, anger or shame. She was very articulate in explaining what it was like living in that state of being lost. I admired her drive and desire to want more from life. Whenever she had a set back, she managed to move forward and continue to live. As I was reading, I was cheering her on and desiring to see her make better choices. She had quite a few bits of wisdom and some good insights. Here are few of my favorites:
"We're all one heartbreak away from bitterness and one bad decision away from calamity."
"He became an incredible distraction from my struggles. The more I worked on him, the less time I had to focus on what was wrong with me"
"One detour doesn't cancel our destination."
"So often we look for Him to calm the storms of our lives. But there are times when the storm can't go away because we need the rain."
"When God chooses to trust us with grace, it's because He believes that we're capable of doing things better than we did before."
I have already recommended this book to a friend and would recommend it to anyone else who knows someone who is lost. However, I would not recommend it to someone looking for an instructional book on how to find one's way.
I received a copy of this book from Bethany House Publishers in exchange for an honest review.
Sarah tells her story in a very down to earth way. If you are looking for something that is filled with gossip of a 13 year old pregnant girl whose father is a very famous pastor, this is not what the book is all about. This is the story of a girl that made choices and had to deal with the consequences. Sarah is very honest and open about what she has gone through during her teen years.
This is a great book about following GOD and the plan he has for your life. It makes you realize that what you see and wish for is always the way it appears. You wish you had someone else's life because you see them as having everything, and in reality that person is going through some very difficult times. This book proves that your happiness comes from the grace that GOD gives you and the choices you make to follow HIM.
I would recommend this book to teen girls and women. It is a great book about mistakes in life and then changing the way you are living for the glory of GOD. It is a great read about growing up and having faith in GOD.
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"Are we not all just flesh, bones, hearts and spirits searching for a purpose greater than ourselves?'
"Can you stop being afraid of the thunder long enough to feel the rain?"
"I wonder how different things would be if we gave people the room to be who God created them to be and not what we want or need?"
"We have to be buried so that we can be rooted before emerging into the world. No one can grow your roots for you. But you get to decide whether your darkest moments become the death of you or the roots in you."
"Why do we so often try to push the car ourselves (uphill!) when God offers to rebuild the engine?"
I am so glad that Sarah Jakes has told her own story. Like most of us, she was afraid that her own road had been so rough that nobody else could relate. Sarah had to learn her own value and revel in freely given grace before she could talk about herself and what she's learning in life.
One thing is certain, God is using this woman in a powerful way.
Sarah tells us about her family- the fierce, protective love, the continual giving when she felt like she wasn't worthy of anything, and the wise counsel they shared without pushing too hard. Mr. and Mrs. Jakes also understood the difference between a hurting child and a rebellious one.
I think that's a major problem in our world: we confuse the two. We punish/shun a child that is only seeking peace and acceptance to begin with, all because their behavior doesn't live up to our expectations. Every teenage girl deserves a family who will support her and embrace her as whole person, no matter what, the way the Jakes did with Sarah.
I also really admire the way Sarah writes. She says a lot of hit-the-nail-on-the-head memorable things about grace, life purpose, and keeping on in the tough times. Those quotes that I began the review with are just a sampling. If she ever thought that she had nothing important to say, or that she couldn't say it so that it would touch somebody, she was wrong. Even if your family/background/past experiences are very little like hers, I don't see how a woman couldn't identify with her story, because it's ultimately the story of being Lost and Found.
And who hasn't been lost, often over and over, and who isn't secretly deep-down inside wanting to be found?
I read this book in one day. I recommend it to all teenage girls, and to any woman who's hidden part of herself because she fears judgement.
This is the story of Sarah Jakes, daughter of well-known pastor, Bishop T. D. Jakes. She is just twenty-five but has certainly lived a life of drama.
Sarah became pregnant at thirteen. Because of the guilt she felt for becoming a teen mother, she worked extra hard in her high school studies, and graduated much earlier than she would have, had she not missed time with her pregnancy.
Next, Sarah enrolled in college, but started flunking out when she became involved in a dysfunctional relationship with a football player. This man cheated on her constantly. As soon as one liaison ended, he was quick to find another to replace her.
Despite his disloyalty, and Sarah's awareness of it, she sacrificed anything to have a relationship with him. This included lying to her family, moving in with him, throwing away her chance for a college education and working as a waitress in a strip club. Despite all this, Sarah wanted to marry him, and his blatant cheating continued after their marriage.
Sarah is blessed to have had her family's support, and the means to provide a good job and material goods for her. Her family has stood by her, no matter what, and provided a safety net.
The title of the book, "Lost and Found," implies there was an "aha" moment with God, when a change took place in Sarah's life. However, there never seemed to be a defining moment when she turned away from one kind of living, and started down a path toward a Godly life. Instead, her story seemed to be one of making a series of bad choices and then, sometimes, adding religion to the mix.
The first fifty pages or so, are filled with her unhappiness about being in a well-known preacher's family with a mega church. Difficulty dealing with her family being famous is used as justification of why she started experimenting with sex at age thirteen. I have sympathy for Sarah. However, I would have liked for Sarah to take responsibility for her actions herself, to hear her say, "I messed up. I shouldn't have done that."
I would also like for Sarah to understand on a very deep level that she has God's forgiveness. She does not need a relationship where she is mistreated and devalued as further penance for her past.
I applaud Sarah for being transparent about her life. Being a teen mother, and a single mother, is not an easy road. The question is, where will she go from here, what will be her destiny? She is still a young girl, with a history of making lots of bad choices. It has only been two years since she got out of her penalizing , dysfunctional relationship and marriage. My hope is that she accepts forgiveness from God and herself, so that future choices will not be ones to punish her further, but to grow in the Lord's love.
The author spends multiple pages writing about issues, that seemed like they could have been covered in a much smaller space. At times, the story rambles a lot, making it a challenge to continue reading. Because of the subpar writing, this cannot be more than a 3-star book.
The publisher has provided me with a complimentary copy of this book through Bethany House Publishing for the purpose of review. All opinions expressed are my own, and I have not been compensated in any other manner. Despite my receiving the book free, it has not influenced my judgment, and I have given an honest opinion.
I love reading personal stories and memoirs so I was excited to read this book by Sarah Jakes called "Lost & Found". I have actually heard of her pastor father, T.D. Jakes, although I have never heard his sermons before and I knew nothing about their family when I read the book. By the end of the book, I had great respect for Sarah and I really feel her pain. There is a struggle in her life with being labeled as a preacher's kid, and I know that is a tough road to walk. She is extremely open about the twists and turns in her life, but always solid are her parents. Her parents never gave up on her, and while some may think they didn't exude enough tough love, Sarah proclaims they gave her exactly what she needed, because they always showed Christ's love to her. I know this is Sarah's story and I don't want to take away from that, but I feel like her parents can teach us all a great lesson too. I, too, strayed when I was younger, and my parents always brought me back in much like the Jakes continued to rescue Sarah. My story is not as dramatic, but now that I am a parent I hope to show that same love to my children that my parents showed to me and the Jakes showed to Sarah.
What a great story. Well written and I love the honesty of Sarah. I highly recommend this book.
Thank you to Bethany House for a copy of the book in exchange for an honest review.