I enjoyed this little "devotional", although personally I wouldn't exactly call it that. To me it was more of a book of thoughts or collection of stories from a mom who struggled with the art of letting go. There wasn't a lot of Scripture reference or prayers. There were some quotes by famous people at the beginning of a reading and at the end of most a "Thought Poke", often with a verse to get your wheels turning. Each "devotional" was an experience Vicki or a friend had gone through, or an introspection about an area we may struggle with as a parent in letting go.
I already have a older daughter who has been to college and gotten married. But I also still have younger children at home, and there are times when I feel the pull between letting go and holding on and have a difficult time finding the balance. Ultimately our children are in God's hands. Our responsibility as parents is to rear them to grow up to be mature adults, responsible, with good character and able to take care of themselves and their families. Many adults in today's society still seem to be living at home with parents and a lot of post teenagers are not really growing up.
This book was insightful and helpful. I appreciated the readings and thought poke's Vicki provided.
I was blessed with a copy of this book through Lit Fuse Blogger Group and was not required to give a positive review. All opinions are my own.
How well prepared are your kids for the journey of life ahead?
As parents, we have become so adept at creating a safe, nurturing environment for our children, whether it's installing the latest, state-of-the-art car seat or stressing the importance of always riding a bike with a helmet to teaching stranger danger, that it's hard to pry our hands from the controls.
How can we learn to let go, bit by bit, in ways that will nurture and encourage our children's development, their confidence and their ability to increasingly stand on their own two feet without fracturing our relationship with them.
Letting go is a process and 'The Joy of Letting Go' shows us in small, manageable ways how we can navigate this process in ways that will enable both you and your child to thrive. Vicki Caruana is an author of more than 70 articles and 13 books. She is also an experienced teacher, conference speaker, writer's mentor and frequent guest on radio and TV programs discussing education and parenting topics. And.. as a mother, she brings first-hand insights coupled with inspiration that overflows with real stories of families, mothers and kids. Their challenges along the road to mature confidence and independence will resonate with everyone.
More than that, Vicki's practical advice will provide practical skills and direction for allowing your kids to move beyond the comfort zone of home and reach for what lies ahead.
Chapters in this easy-to-read book include topics like Telling the truth in love, First job frustrations, What's for dinner, and Milestones or millstones. The 52 short chapters are perfect for bite-sized daily reading. You might prefer to read one chapter per week and each reading's Thought Poke will provide incentive to do more than just read- but think through its application in your own family's life and take action, as well.
You'll read about allowing kids to make their own choices and live with the consequences, encouraging them to problem solve, developing college and career readiness and managing finances.
You will also be challenged yourself to choose words wisely and time appropriately as you deal with your kids and teens, remembering that your actions speak louder than your words. Is this a book for parents of teens? Yes.. but it's also a book for anyone with kids of any age. The journey towards independence is gradual and begins right now. Are you ready?
I only wish that this book had been written when my own kids were young. I'm sure these insights and advice would have helped me instigate many small but progressive steps that led my own children to confident independence. It would, I'm sure, have saved a lot of heartaches.
As parents of a mentally challenged adult child, letting go has been a problem for my husband and I. Cutting the apron strings and allowing her to continue the journey as the grownup she is has been painful at best. A particular passage resonated for me on "Day 5" where Vicki talks about her son's difficulty with school, that for him it was like "riding a bicycle through mud." She went on to say in the Thought Poke "is your child's path built for the kind of tires they have? You can trust that God will make their path known to them." Our daughter's tires were built for a different style bicycle that we weren't familiar with,designed for a path we weren't expected to travel. But God knows the bike and the path. In "Day 49" Vicki related a story about her son Charles and climbing a portion of Pike's Peak. "He didn't need me to be his cheerleader. He didn't need me to be his chaperone. He didn't even need my permission. He just needed me to let him take this step on his own." This is a common sense book that parents of a teen or adult child should read.