Lessons in Belonging from a Church-Going Commitment Phobe - eBook
Lessons in Belonging from a Church-Going Commitment Phobe - eBook  -     By: Erin S. Lane
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Format: DRM Free ePub
Vendor: InterVarsity Press
Publication Date: 2015
ISBN-13: 9780830897629

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  • RELEVANT's Top 10 Books of 2015, Non-Fiction
  • Englewood Review of Books Best Books of 2015, Praxis
"The thing I am most desperate to keep you from finding out about me is . . . I want to belong, but I do not know how." There was a time when being a part of a church was not a decision you made but a reality you inhabited. But today belonging to the church has become a lost art, especially for millennials whose church experience is often summed up in one word: none. Erin Lane’s church experience might be better described in two words: "It’s complicated." Having grown up in a church, she has an appreciation for liturgy and covenant community. Having graduated from divinity school and taken a job in spiritual formation, she appreciates the structured, shared pursuit of theological and spiritual integrity. Having married a pastor, she sort of had church coming. Yet she wasn’t always sure how to belong. With earnest persistence, Erin practiced the hard (and often surprising) lessons of community. Her story is an invitation to reclaim God's promise of inclusion and live like we belong to one another.

Author Bio

Erin S. Lane works for the Seattle-based non-profit Center for Courage & Renewal as an Assistant Program Director for Clergy & Congregational Leader Programs. She has a Masters of Theological Studies degree from Duke Divinity School and is coeditor of , an anthology of writing from young Christian women on the intersection of faith and gender. Lane is an experienced communication strategist for authors and organizations and writes at Holy Hellions for those "faithful rebels" who question the culture of sexism, stereotypes and Sunday School answers without losing hope in the God who reconciles all things. Parker J. Palmer (PhD, University of California at Berkeley) is a world-renowned writer, speaker and activist who focuses on issues of education, community, leadership, spirituality and social change. He is founder and Senior Partner of the Center for Courage & Renewal, which cultivates leaders in some of society’s most crucial roleseducating children, caring for patients, serving congregations, fostering civic community and leading teams and organizations. He has reached millions worldwide through dozens of poems, hundreds of essays and many books, including and Palmer’s work has been recognized with eleven honorary doctorates, two Distinguished Achievement Awards from the National Educational Press Association, an Award of Excellence from the Associated Church Press and the William Rainey Harper Award. In 1998, the Leadership Project named Palmer one of the thirty "most influential senior leaders" in higher education and one of the ten key "agenda-setters" of the past decade. In 2011, he was named an Visionary, one of "25 people who are changing your world." A member of the Religious Society of Friends (Quaker), Palmer and his wife Sharon live in Madison, Wisconsin.

Editorial Reviews

"It's Erin Lane's struggle as much as her counsel that makes this book so important. She does not preach from on high in these pages. Instead, she shares her mind and heart from the trenches of what she calls 'the messy business of belonging to one another.' If you are looking for yet another sanitized treatise on the joys of Jesus and his church, do not open this book. But if you want real talk about real dilemmas in our own broken lives and in the broken life of the church, this book is for you."
"Lane offers a mix of memoir, self-examination, cultural analysis, scriptural reflection, and an outline of church basics for the uninitiated . . . vignettes of her husband, mother, friends, acquaintances, and strangers from various stages of life provide storytelling relief."
"Erin Lane is a writer to watch—to read with focused attention now, certainly, but also to watch. Articulate, candid beyond all caution, and cosmopolitan in experience, she is passionate about the values, stances and experiences of the millennial generation to which she belongs. The result is one of the clearest and certainly one of the most informing pictures I have seen to date of the generation of young adults who presently are shaping the twenty-first-century church."
"Erin Lane skillfully weaves insights about marriage and the church, God and anthropology, physics and spirituality, into a thoroughly engaging personal narrative that is a great pleasure to read. Lessons in Belonging is funny, smart and full of wisdom from a wide array of sources—Einstein, ancient tradition, Lane's acquaintances and friends. It may convince you—in these days of increasing privatization and insulation—that going to church is a beautiful and important countercultural move. Or it may simply charm you with its lively stories and intriguing cast of characters. It's a wonderful book however you approach it."
"Erin Lane has written a compelling, candid narrative—a testimony—with lessons for all of us about belonging and longing. Read it to learn from a millennial about the perennial desire of the human heart to connect and how a life with God can meet those needs. Wonderful. Practical. Theology."
"'I don't think I've ever looked forward to going to church for the people.' You have to love a book that makes this declaration. Erin Lane tells a good story about her curious condition as an incurable introvert who nonetheless loves the church—and is married to a pastor to boot. Part church history, part spiritual memoir, part theological treatise on Christian community, Lessons in Belonging suggests how we might shed 'illusions of how belonging should happen.' . . . "Lane wants to help millennials and those who love them to understand the real countercultural impulse of the church: the permission it gives—indeed, the command it speaks—to 'start from the ground of our true being, a humanity fragile and flawed and dusty from the wrestling.' This message ought to be a refreshing one, especially for the hard-charging generation to which Lane belongs. But it also offers relief and rest and rescue to all churchgoers who long for more, regardless of how we label ourselves."
" Lessons In Belonging was a reminder for me that it is only worth expending energy to wrestle with things that really matter—and the Church, in all her clumsy, broken beauty— matters for all of eternity. It is fashionable, and theologically accurate to say we don't go to church, we are the church. However, we still need a band of brothers and sisters to fully express this reality. If you're struggling with what it means for you to be a part of a specific local expression of the church, this book is a very worthwhile read."
"With earnest persistence, Erin practiced the hard (and often surprising) lessons of community. Her story is an invitation to reclaim God's promise of inclusion and live like we belong to one another."
"Lane has an interesting way of blending essayistic writing into her memoir. . . . Readers of Anne Lamott and other younger Christian writers may enjoy Lane's book; it will appeal strongly to the individual seeker."
"Plenty of folks want Jesus but not the church. . . . In this raw, winsome book, Erin cuts through the fluff. She has seen the funk of Christianity—but she has fallen in love with a beautiful God whose grace overshadows the funk of the church. She reminds us that the church is not a meeting or a building, not something you go to—the church is something we are, a living body, a community where imperfect people can fall in love with a perfect God and hopefully help each other become a little better. Erin reminds us that the real question isn't whether or not Christians are hypocrites, but whether we can be honest enough to make room for another hypocrite among us. It's a lovely book for folks who love the church, and folks who want to but aren't there yet."
"This is the kind of book I'd like to hand to millennials and church leaders, and say, 'Read this!' As Lane shares her 'commitment phobe' story, she is charitable, vulnerable and full of conviction about how we are all to be the church and about how we are all to belong to one another. I admire her charity toward and communion with believers and congregations who hold different convictions than she does. Oh, that we too would model her charity and engagement!"
"Erin S. Lane's new book, Lessons in Belonging from a Church-Going Commitment Phobe, is a revelation. . . . Lane challenges, encourages, exhorts, and entertains; she crafts her stories with care and integrity, with fierce wit, and vulnerability. She is a writer's writer—one who weaves story and scripture together seamlessly, while forging beautiful sentences. Lane loves words, but not as much as she loves the church. And not with a watered-down love, but a whole-hearted, agitating love. A love in motion. A love in tension. . . . This book is a clarion call to everyone who dares to show up on a Sunday morning, or a Tuesday night, or whenever their iteration of the body of Christ chooses to meet: We are agents in our own belonging."
"In further wrestling with the nature and practice of church, Erin Lane challenges us to imagine a faith in which belonging is just as important as believing. This will be another excellent resource for those who are struggling with church."
"Like Erin, I'm a bit of a commitment phobe myself, and moving more than five times in my first decade of full-fledged adulthood (like many of my generation) hasn't helped. Through her theological and personal storytelling in this eloquently crafted book, Lane offers those who are weary and cynical a glimpse at—and an invitation to—discovering the imperfect wonder of life together in Christ."
"Erin Lane holds out here an inescapable enigma: we are both singular and communal beings. In passion, humor, angst and eccentricity, she gives us windows into her particular story. But, but, but, she does so as she takes us with her on a meandering, start and stop, disappointing and yearning journey to find Christian community. Like her, we long for what is genuine and intimate but not coercive, invasive or smarmy—in other words, we long for what is very hard to find. Erin is a candid, pained and hilarious guide who illustrates what makes community so rich but so elusive. She portrays the challenges, admits and tempers the tensions, and reassures us of the grace and beauty of what is possible, even if it is inevitably partial."
"Lane's honest approach to communicating with disenfranchised Christians can revolutionize the body of Christ inside and outside of church. . . . Lane's tone is both rebellious and gentle, inspiring and loving. This excellent read offers multigenerational change and the possibility of several follow-up books that might ultimately start a new genre."
"The church's thinkers have rightly turned toward community, but real community is difficult before it is life-saving. This book disillusions us from community-in-dreams to return us to the ordinary, everyday body of Christ. The church is a headache, and it is worthy of our longing for it. This book is wise, tender, patient and beautiful."

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