A Teen's Guide to the 5 Love Languages: How to Understand Yourself and Improve Relationships with Those You Care AboutGary Chapman, Paige Haley DrygasNorthfield Publishing / 2016 / Trade Paperback$10.99 Retail:5 Stars Out Of 5 4 Reviews
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Tiana5 Stars Out Of 5A Teen's Guide to the 5 Love LanguagesOctober 1, 2017TianaQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5A Teens Guide To The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman and Paige Haley Drygas is an amazing book. It has truly helped me discover my own love language and it has also helped me to discover the love language of those closest to me. Its taught me how to love my family better by understanding their language. It gives practical tips on how to discover your love language, how to discover others love languages, and how to show love to them when you figure out their language. I knew what my sisters love language was, but I dont speak the same language as her so I wasnt quite sure how to show love to her. But because of this book, I now know how I can love her in the way that she needs to be loved even though I dont speak the same love language as her. The book gives you a list of things you could do to show love to those closest to you based on their love language. There is also a quiz at the back of the book to help you determine your primary love language. I would highly recommend this book to any teen wanting to learn how to better love those closest to them.
Melissa5 Stars Out Of 5This could change so much for our teensJune 29, 2016MelissaQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5What a great book for teens. This could really change they way teens interact with each other.
It's funny because I have been having conversations with my daughter about making sure she is asking her friends about themselves, not always talking about herself. And as she is enter the stage of liking boys and boys liking her I can see how this book can help her navigate some areas.
This book also addresses how to interact with moms and dads, brothers and sisters. I really think every teen should read this book. If they did I can see them developing much healthier relationships then I ever had.
Can you imagine having this knowledge going from a young age, I think I would be a much better wife if I had gained this insight early on in life instead of after I got married.
A copy of this book was given to me through Netgalley.com in exchange for an honest review.
Michele MorinWarren, MaineAge: 45-54Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Filling the Love TankJune 28, 2016Michele MorinWarren, MaineAge: 45-54Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5For Mothers Day 2015, my boys collaborated on a load of bark mulch for my flower gardens and then faithfully spread every last particle. What a gift! They were certainly speaking my love language!
Gary Chapmans five love languages have become woven into the fabric of our culture. Any conversation centered around interpersonal dynamics and relationship building is going to, eventually, come around to a discussion of understanding the other persons love language. But what if the conversation started during the teen years when relational habits are still being formed before life partners are chosen and language barriers are already in place? Although Rosetta Stone hasnt come up with a series on love languages, Paige Hayley Drygas has lent her voice to Garys classic material and the result is A Teens Guide to the 5 Love Languages.
Since there are only five fundamental love languages, all humans express love emotionally in five distinct ways. Each of us has a primary love language, which means that one of the five speaks more deeply to us than the other four. This is crucial to understand in a relationship because no matter how much I love my husband and sons, if I am not communicating that love to them in a way that is meaningful to them, they will not feel loved. We have a tendency to speak the language that fills our own love tank, when that may not be the most effective means of communication to our loved ones. Too, we should not speak only the primary love language of the people we care for. Love can be expressed and received in all five languages. However, keep in mind that if you dont speak a persons primary love language, then that person will not feel loved, even though you may be fluently speaking the other four.
Through the use of engaging illustrations and personal examples, Gary and Paige present all five love languages with related tips on enriching teens relationships and very practical examples of what each love language would look like in real life. The goal is to identify ones own love language and then to key into the preferences of family and friends:
Words of affirmation Truthful words spoken or written from one person to another to uplift, to encourage, and to make the recipient feel loved. Specific and intentional words can communicate how much we value those we love by expressing appreciation, encouragement, praise, and kindness. Warnings against flattery are wise.
Quality time Intentional, deliberate time spent with a person to make the individual feel loved. With each of the five languages, there are dialects that guide exactly how the love is received. For instance, quality conversation may fill the love tank of one person while shared activities may be the preference of another.
Gifts More than a material item, a gift is a visual symbol of love representing the giver. A gift is a tangible object that says, I was thinking about you, and I wanted you to have this. The value of the item does not correspond to its price tag but to its meaning to the person.
Acts of service Doing something kind, intentional, and unexpected that helps someone else. Once again, were looking for impact: what will mean the most to the recipient? This may not necessarily be judged in the amount of time spent, or even by how hard you work. Attitude and eagerness are important, and service does not imply becoming someones doormat.
Physical touch If someones primary love language is touch, then your touches will speak more loudly than your words. Boys and girls will express affection differently and individual personalities, the parameters of the relationship, and timing all play a huge role in communicating love through touch. Obviously this is a tricky one for teens, for, sadly, no other love language has been more distorted than touch.
Some important considerations:
It is critical to learn to both receive and give love in all five languages.
All the love languages can be learned. Some may feel more awkward than others, but all of us need to be able to speak love in a variety of ways.
Every love language has an opposite. Quality times evil twin is deliberately leaving someone out; the twisted version of gifts would be bribery and manipulation.
The Five Love Languages Profile is a diagnostic test to help readers evaluate their own love language, and a helpful chart is provided for analyzing the go-to language of loved ones.
Just as missionaries labor to communicate in the heart language of the people group they serve the language of their thoughts, feelings, and dreams we communicate love and respect, value and appreciation for others by learning their love language and using it to speak deeply to them.
All of us want to be known and loved. Thats universal. However, how we want to be loved is unique to each of us.
A terrific study for a youth or college-aged group, A Teens Guide to the Five Love Languages is a helpful tool for better communication and the laying of a good foundation for healthy relationships.
This book was provided by Northfield Publishing in exchange for my review. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commissions 16 CFR, Part 255 : Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.
bookwomanjoanOak Harbor, WAAge: Over 65Gender: Female5 Stars Out Of 5Great for teens on communication and relationshipsJune 11, 2016bookwomanjoanOak Harbor, WAAge: Over 65Gender: FemaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5I remember the insight and understanding I gained the first time I read about the five love languages. Teens really need the information and I'm glad to see it presented in a book written especially for them.
If you're not familiar with the love languages, here's a synopsis. It's been found that each person receives messages of love and appreciation in a particular way. Some accept spoken (or written) words. Some recognize love by the amount of quality time you are willing to spend with them. Others recognize love through gifts. Others need to see acts of service. And some accept love best when expressed through touch.
I like how the authors expand on each of the languages. For example, with the love language of time, that can be expressed with quality conversation (with tips on communicating), quality listening (with tips on listening skills), and quality activities. The authors have included some suggested ways of expressing love in each of the languages. They also include how to recognize the love language of another. And, especially suited for teens, there are warnings for each language as to how it can be misused (such as the most misused touch).
The method of presentation and the graphics are great. I really like the emphasis on feeling loved and how the feeling is created when the right love language is used. We tend to use our own love language and that may not work with someone else. Recognizing another person's love language and expressing love in that way may take some effort. But teens will really see the benefit in relationships.
The authors give examples of each love language and how the message is received. They also include cautions, like not being phony. This book will help teens understand communication and relationship problems. Recognizing differences in communication languages, teens be better able to make good relationships. The authors even include tips for family relationships (parents and siblings) and a chapter on anger and forgiveness.
Tips and questions are included at the end of each chapter. This would be a good book for parents to read along with their teens as the questions would provide good discussion. Everyone in the family could work through the love language profile and determine their own. Those results would make for good family discussion too.
I highly recommend this book for teens and parents. Even if you've read about the five love languages before, this is a good book to refresh your memory. If you've never read about the love languages, this is a good place to start. You're in for a treat and a future with better relationships.
Food for thought: Learning to speak love and appreciation in a language the other person can receive is the key to enhancing all human relationships. (16)
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher for the purpose of an independent and honest review.
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