The Kindness Challenge: Thirty Days to Improve Any RelationshipShaunti FeldhahnWaterBrook / 2016 / Hardcover$13.49 Retail:5 Stars Out Of 5 8 Reviews
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smc5 Stars Out Of 5Changed my thought processMarch 8, 2019smcQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5I got more out of this book than I expected. At first i was skeptical that reading this could do everything it claimed. I was dealing with a difficult supervisor at work and considering quiting after 15 years on the job. I had developed a good bit of animosity towards this person so initially it was very difficult to follow the 30 day challenge. For the first week I kept thinking "you want me to do what?!!" I found it easier as the days passed. I realized that other people around me seemed happier and I was too the further into the challenge I got. I completed the 30 day challenge a little over a week ago. It has transformed the way I view others and has greatly improved my personal and professional relationships. My supervisor seems changed as well in the way she treats others.
Debbie from ChristFocusHarrison, ARAge: 35-44Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Maybe not easy, but how to be kindAugust 22, 2018Debbie from ChristFocusHarrison, ARAge: 35-44Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5"The Kindness Challenge" looks at how kindness can transform all types of family and work relationships. The author talked about the benefits we receive from being kind and ways you might be unkind to others and ways to be kind to others (some of which you might not have thought of). She provided details about the three actions you are to do each day for the 30-day challenge. At the end, she included prompts for each day--usually a suggestion of a kind act to do. Overall, I thought she made good points which will help with most people.
CherylProspect,KYAge: 45-54Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5So very timelyFebruary 2, 2017CherylProspect,KYAge: 45-54Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Today, I gave up social media for awhile. Why? I had to search for something good, kind, and lovely. The world seems so full of hate and hopelessness and I have had enough. I may not be able to change the world on social media but I certainly have the power to take measures to keep it from changing me.
Enough of that soapbox but I hope you see the connection. One of my New Year's "resolutions" was to give effort toward two meaningful friendships this year. My children are grown. I am married to my best friend and am with him almost 24/7 since we work in the same building. But I find myself lacking true female companionship so this new book by Shaunti Feldhahn caught my eye immediately. It may not have been the purpose for which she wrote The Kindness Challenge but it has been a number of years since I felt I had the time to cultivate relationships with other women so thought it the perfect place to begin. The one thing that struck me right off was Feldhahn's showing me how kindness didn't just matter and make a difference to those I wanted to improve a relationship with but it also change me.
Feldhahn's down to earth way to saying thing and her writing style make this an easy read in a day but the challenges and ideas will remain with you much, much longer. She is quick to point out how I may be messing up my relationships with others and gives easy to put into practice ideas/strategies for improving your relationship with your spouse and others. Her ideas are more than just being nice, it is about being kind. I recently saw a commercial or quote about nice being just a simple, perhaps one-time thing you do. Kindness is more about who you are as a person. Feldhahn brings that straight home.
It seems as if, with my husband, I have been on track with the first of Feldhahn's three step process but can always use a reminder to "never say anything negative to or about another person....ever". That is a practice I have tried to incorporate into my entire marriage. I never wanted anyone else to think anything other than that my husband was "perfect"--at least not from my mouth. Her second suggestion--find something you can genuinely praise and appreciate in that person and make certain they are aware of it. Third--do an act of kindness for the person. While these all seem like simple steps, Feldhahn suggests we're not quite as good at being kind in this way as we may think we are and provides simple strategies that you can incorporate into your day and relationships. If taken to heart, this book WILL change your relationships...guaranteed.
I did receive this book free from the publisher in exchange for an honest review and was in no way obligated to write a positive one. Two thumbs up to Shaunti Feldhahn for her new release, The Kindness Challenge: Thirty Days to Improve Any Relationship.
bookwomanjoanOak Harbor, WAAge: Over 65Gender: Female5 Stars Out Of 5Encouragement and lots of practical ideasJanuary 13, 2017bookwomanjoanOak Harbor, WAAge: Over 65Gender: FemaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Kindness is a simple concept but what a difference it makes in the lives of others - and our own. In fact, Feldham says the factor above all others that helps us thrive is not how we are treated but how we choose to treat others. Our happiness starts with the choice to be kind, especially when we don't feel like it.
Unlike other books I have recently read, Feldham not only encourages us to be kind but actually gives us lots of strategies to do so. It's not easy as we live in a culture of unkindness. We have to be purposeful and persistent. Feldham gives specific yet simple steps to help us be kind to our spouses and to others in general. She includes thirty suggestions for husbands, another thirty for wives, and then a final thirty for being kind to another person in general. She even helps us find out what we might be doing to sabotage our relationships.
I was surprised that Feldham writes that a decision to be unconditionally kind takes away the power of others to make us crazy. She also informs us that kindness is not the same as being nice or not rocking the boat. Being kind does not mean avoiding challenges.
I am impressed with this book. I expected the encouragement and the stories as illustrations. What I didn't expect was so many practical ideas for showing kindness. Her chapters containing the thirty days of suggestions are great. Her ideas on the eight types of kindness are great too.
I highly recommend this book for all readers. We need to practice more kindness and this book is full of practical ideas to help us on the way. Feldham says it takes thirty days to change our thinking and habits but again, there is plenty of material in the book for that. She even provides a website where one can get an assessment and sign up for thirty days of emails with encouraging ideas.
Food for thought: It is only when you are actively kind to someone who is not kind to you that you see the true power of Christ-like kindness.
I received a complimentary egalley of this book from the publisher. My comments are an independent and honest review.
Deuce SkunksSpringfield, MOAge: 25-34Gender: Female5 Stars Out Of 5Great Asset For Improving Relationships With Others - And YourselfDecember 27, 2016Deuce SkunksSpringfield, MOAge: 25-34Gender: FemaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5The Kindness Challenge: Thirty Days To Improve Any Relationship by Shaunti Feldhahn is more than just a 30-day plan to motivate you to be kind to others. Through extensive research combined with her understanding of human behavior, Shauntiexplains why kindness is the answer to so many of life's problems. While most people would readily admit that they aren't as kind as they could be 100% of the time, this book reveals that there's more to being kind than simply biting your tongue. It takes sincere effort to be kind when faced with everyday challenges in our current society.
The base plan of the 30-day challenge is merely the same three steps repeated every day:
1) Don't say anything negative about the other person
2)Find one thing to praise or affirm, and tell both the other person and someone else
3) Do one small act of kindness or generosity for the person
In case you're thinking that that(in and of itself) is not enough to warrant reading an entire book, you're absolutely right! This book contains so much more than just those steps. Shauntioutlines the "Seven Types Of Negativity You Didn't Know You Had", "Overcoming Ten Tricky Traps" while giving praise, and eight different types of kindness so that you can select options that best suit your personality and specific situation.
The end of the book contains three separate 30-day plans with acts of kindness laid out and ready to go so that you don't have to struggle to come up with ideas. Why three separate plans? One is for wives using this book to be closer to their husbands, the second is for husbands longing to be closer to their wives, and that third plan is for everyone else (colleagues, parents, grown children, dealing with your kid's softball coach, etc.).
I think this book is a great asset for someone looking to soften a cold marital relationship or reignite the flames if it's simply gone lukewarm. As for using it in other situations, as with children or co-workers, I think it would work if the negativity from the other party is not overtly hostile. But even if youfollow the plan and it doesn't improve the intended relationship, it will improve your outlook on life and other relationships around you. 5/5 stars.
*I received a free print copy of this book from Blogging For Books for the purpose of an honest review. All opinions are my own.*