This book absolutely saved my marriage. Dr. Clarke gave me back my self-respect and a plan for me to get up off the couch and fight for my marriage with the power of a Just God. After a brief separation my husband is home with me and our children and I credit this book in a big way. If you are in the midst of this horrific situation or if you know someone who is, please take the time to read this book.

This book helped me immensely. I understand the one and three stars, but as one reader said, he/she threw it in the trash after 75 pages. I initially thought the book was harsh and mean. But as I read it and understood what he was saying I began to understand why you have to initially be that way. I am so thankful I chose to finish the book. My husband left me 8 months ago and I was being pathetically nice and taking responsibility for his sin. When I finished the book, I finally got mad. Being a Christian all of my life I thought it would be wrong to get mad. What about love unconditionally, bear one another's burden, etc. Dr. Clarke made me realize that I needed to get mad so I could move on and heal. I did get mad and it lasted for about 2 weeks. I was furious and sent my husband several texts saying so (and wasn't even embarrassed about that). Then the healing started, and now I rarely think about him. Prior to this book I thought about him 24/7, trying to figure out what I did and how I could win him back. Now I know it was his decision, his sin and he is going to be responsible to explain it when he meets God one day. I have my life back, thank you Dr. Clarke. Looking forward to what God has in store for me next.

Just finished reading this book and it is 100% on target. I have been married for 30 years and if the adulterous spouse does not face his/her sin head on, the marriage cannot survive! How do I know? I'm living it! Have been praying for healing from my marriage and God is bringing that around, but my spouse will not participate in recovery and our marriage is falling apart. The only way my marriage will survive is if I stay depressed and broken so he can continue to live in denial of what has occurred. I keep praying that his heart will change. To those that find this book to be horrible, hostile and dangerous, you apparently have not been the victim of such a relationship. This book does not mince any words, but it is completely on target and I have been researching the "healing from affairs" subject for many years. It does seem hostile, but had you continued reading the book you would have learned why. Best book that I have ever read on the "realities" of a marriage recovering from infidelity!!

I highly reccomend this author and his book helps you regain your confidence and be able to survive with or without your partner

this book really opened my eyes because my husband of thirty yrs said those very words to me, about 6 months ago, I am still struggling with it, but I am praying everyday thanks