Jim Burns is dedicated to equipping parents with the tools they need to educate their children about sexuality with a firmly Christian worldview. Well known for his resources such as The Purity Code for teenagers, Burns has now turned his hand to colorful, age appropriate resources for children.
How God Makes Babies is his offering for the 6-9 age group, though some parents may choose to read only parts of this book to their children or delay reading it with their children until they are older - depending upon their life circumstances and individual children.
Opening with a special note to parents Burns states:
"Studies show that when children receive values-centered sex education at home, they are less likely to become sexually promiscuous and more likely to have a healthy view of their bodies and relationships."
This is certainly one key reason why some gentle sex education should take place even in the younger age groups. There are many others as well - glorifying God through our obedience to His plan for sex, educating our children so that they are prepared to resist inappropriate sexual activity that they may otherwise fall prey to due to ignorance, and many others.
God's plan for sex should be treated respectfully and in age appropriate ways - thankfully How God Makes Babies certainly makes this task easier for parents by being able to open a book, read, and discuss it with their children. I had read through parts of this book with my oldest daughter when she was younger (6 or 7), but I didn't read through the entire book with her until she showed signs that she needed to understand a fuller picture of human reproduction.
Our discussions together had slowly been becoming more detailed - particularly as she began reading the Bible independently each day. Her questions from Bible readings naturally led into some gentle explanations. We have always told our children in very simple terms that mommies and daddies cuddle together in a special way that only married people do, and that is where babies come from.
When my eight-year-old told me that bulls jump on top of mommy cows and stretch out their pee-pees inside of them (courtesy of a similarly aged relative of ours - sweet girl - and I didn't mind at all), I knew we had to get a bit more detailed in our talks together. I wanted to be the one to provide the more nitty-gritty details, not someone else. How God Makes Babies provided us with the next step to take in our discussions.
Filled with birth color photographs, How God Makes Babies always places sexuality firmly within the realm of marriage as a normal expression of marital love, for which I am very thankful. Simple anatomical drawings illustrate the differences between boys and girls while using correct anatomical terminology. Protecting your private parts from inappropriate touches is briefly covered. A straightforward, facts focused explanation of the act of marital intimacy and conception is provided along with photos of sperm and egg coming together and the newly dividing embryo. Developmental stages of a baby in-utero are illustrated and described, followed by a description of birth, and explanations of how a new baby changes a family. There are also provisions made for diverse families that may be made up of different configurations than two parents and children (homosexual families are not depicted). Adoption is also covered.
This is absolutely a fabulous book for when you are ready to share more deeply about sexuality with your children. It can be tempting to put off these conversations, but they are vitally necessary to imbue children with a proper, God-honoring view of sexuality. Remember - sex is not bad, it's a natural part of life, don't be afraid of sharing about its proper, God-appointed role in life with your little ones.
How God Makes Babies, Jim BurnsThe second in the series, geared for ages 6 -9 this book has equally stunning photography and is easy to read. Again, However I dont find it age appropriate for my 8 year old daughter. I am still not comfortable discussing with her all aspects of sexuality. I do however love the fact that the author supports through this book the aspect of sexual purity until marriage. This is stated more than once. He does an excellent job of addressing the issue of sexual abuse in a non-threatening way so as to teach children that these part were specifically and specially designed for the marriage relationship only. I will be using parts of this book now with my daughter and other parts a little later.
Great book for the curious early elementary school aged child. I like how it shows the size of a growing baby in comparison to food items (one month = cheerio, six months = coconut). My son and daughter loved the book and we had great conversations surrounding it. I received this book free from Bethany House.