This is a profound book for any number of different reasons.
Where to begin? Yes, there really is a gender gap. Anyone with more than an ounce of integrity and/or a passing interest in the church HAS to read this book and to admit to the theses. I would suggest the book be required reading in Bible Colleges and Seminaries.
Bravo to David Murrow for this work. Startling levels of research support all three segments of the book. Sufficient to support the gifting of the book to any Pastor.
This is a profoundly interesting topic on any number of different levels. The Black church has an even great "gender gap". I was curious to find out if any books had been written on this specific aspect of the topic. There is a book titled "Adam! Where Are You?" "Why Most Black Men Don't Go to Church" written by Jawanza Kunjufu who acknowledges his pastor Jeremiah A. Wright Jr, who reflects the African essence of Christian manhood_. Yes, Ã¢â¬Ëthe' Rev Jeremiah A. Wright of the Trinity United Church of Christ, Chicago, IL. wrote the Foreword to the book.
"Islam is the world's fastest-growing religion.". "It's also wildly popular with men who are publicly and unashamedly religious." For all of the wrong reasons of course. Mr. Murrow has addressed this question in a terrific article which is available at:
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"Why Men Hate Going to Church," by David Murrow, is a shocking scientific and statistically rich examination of the state of the modern church; that is, it's dearth of men. Murrow presents an organized and convincing case for why men avoid church, albeit focusing more on mainstream and larger, liberal churches.
He begins by asking the reader to think of what characteristics are typically emphasized when thinking about Jesus - meek, mild, humble, caring and tender. Far less likely is Christ thought of as daring, powerful, aggressive, and rough. He then provides scathing statistics of church attendance, women nearly always far outweighing men (not so however in the Orthodox churches, interestingly enough). Most churches today cater to women in their emphases, structure, and leadership. One particularly cutting quote: "Why do so many effeminate and gay men attend church? Maybe because the church is one of the few institutions in society where there's no pressure to act like a man" (32).
Most of all, this book is a wake-up call to men and women - a wake-up call with bucket of cold water and a punch in the gut. My thanks to Thomas Nelson for providing me with this complimentary review copy.
The premise of the book is pretty simple: why men hate going to church and some stuff that churches could do to become man-friendly. It all sounds rather un-PC really. But he has a point. You just have to look around almost any church and you'll know he has a point. Christianity has become feminised, it appeals to women far more than it does to men. Yet it shouldn't be that way. Murrow makes a point that truly healthy churches have manly men.
So sure, you probably can't read this book without coming across something you don't really like, but don't let that put you off. This book is a must-read for anybody concerned with church leadership. It's not a call to radically change anything, just a call to be more man friendly.
Recently I have been thinking about Men and the Church. What does it mean to be manly and be a Christian? So when Why Men Hate Going to Church by David Murrow, came up for review I took a shot at it. I was excited to read this and I looked forward to seeing what this book could teach me. However I was not as excited as I finished the book which took me a long time as I really had to force myself to finish reading.
Mr. Murrow states that manly men who see God as the Lion of Judah will find church unappealing because the Lamb of God is the dominant image. He also talks about how many things in the church are feminized and that Men don't want the image of "Jesus is my boyfriend." While I agree most men don't want the Jesus is my boyfriend image I also believe that everyone, men and women, need both the Lion of Judah and the Lamb of God. In large part we need them both because they are a part of God.
The main problem I have with this book is that it is not calling men to the church, but instead calling the church to men. The fact that he uses the terms manly man as the one who are out of the church is not only insinuating that the men in church are not manly but also prescribes to the worldly definition of what makes a man a man.
Overall, it was extremely hard to read through this book and took a lot longer than I would have liked it to take. I can't recommend this book to the normal person, but there might be a few nuggets that a Pastor could pull out.
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