The author, David Murrow is not clergy but lay, which makes for an interesting book as it is very pragmatic. However, he still grounds several of his larger ideas in the Bible, which I appreciated.
As I read this book, there were several ideas I initially disagreed with. At first I wanted to ignore them. After all I'm a guy and I'm in church, so they must not be accurate. But the more I read, the more I realized that was a bad impulse. I grew up in the church. Church is comfortable to me. And sometimes I think "But that's how we've always done it" about things that aren't sacred and could change. So I'm grateful to this book for opening my eyes to some of my blind spots.
Having church be accessible to men is a good thing, but I'm wary of making it the "silver bullet" that will turn a church around. Worship should be accessible to everyone, regardless of gender, age, race, or anything else. Worship is about God and God is not picky about who worships. So should we remove barriers to men? Absolutely. And we should remove barriers to women, kids, young people, old people, etc.
Bottom line: Do I think this book overstates its case? Maybe a bit. But Murrow has seen these ideas work. And so if he gets excited about the possibilities of church renewal, then I want to get excited right along with him.
Ã¢â¬ËWhy Men Hate Going to Church' by David Murrow takes an in depth look at this growing problem.
Several valid points are made throughout this book. According to several studies the majority of churches, especially smaller ones there is a definite gender gap in attendance. The women outnumber the men in almost every church.
In this book it states that churches today tend to cater to the women. Women lead most of your Sunday school classes, Children's Church, and Nursery. They tend to be decorated on the flowery feminine side, reaching out to the women.
According to the book the number two excuse is it is for wimps. The number one excuse being there are too many hypocrites. These are only the top two excuses given, we as a church have to decide why men feel the way they do. Is there a reason they are being turned off from the church life?
This book also discusses the history of when men started pulling away from the church, and gives ideas that perhaps will draw them back in.
This was an interesting book, a lot of information and ideas. I agree with a lot of the info but I think we have to be careful or we will end up being an entertaining church, giving people what they want instead of what they need. They need to realize it is a personal thing between them and Jesus.
This book is very informative. I would encourage you to thoughtfully read what David Murrow's books. It makes lot of sense with regards to praying and hoping for loved ones to come to the lord. I would recommend this book to men who are seeking to honor God with their lives and are willing to accompany Him into battle. What a great book. Short and sweet and full of juice, know everyone who reads this book will see a bit of himself somewhere while reading it. I will be taking this with me to my next men group and i will make sure our group studies it.
We live in a time that more rules need to be broken if we are to reach an emerging generation for Christ. I recommend this book to pastors who need to lighten up a little and I recommend it to all men's ministry leaders.
his one has some discussion questions and some updated facts or stories that the original book does not have. I think their approach to the topic is great and I would recommend this book to anyone.
Why Men Hate Going to Church, by David Murrow is a thought-provoking look at why Christian churches have a growing gender gap. Written to call the church back to men, Murrow examines how the church is designed to appeal to it's largest women through it's decor, rituals, language, music, and ministries.
I found the background information fascinating - how the church became so feminized throughout history, and the temporary effects of "Muscular Christianity" and the YMCA's original influence.
Some of his claims about how men think seemed surprising to me, but as I read them to my husband he agreed with every one, and he wanted to continue discussing the rest of the book.
The last section of the book discusses things churches can do to be more appealing to men, with lots of practical advice given to help churches build a place where men want to come and worship. Murrow gives examples of churches that have successfully implemented efforts to attract men, which also led to increasing numbers of women and children attending as well!
I really am thankful for reading the book, for the ideas it's giving us as we search for a church to call home. We're both on the hunt for a "man-friendly" church, and hope we find one soon.