In our over-scheduled, ultra-competitive culture of social media one-upmanship, a lot of moms are starting to burn out. Could a cultural "comparison trap"---and the fear of missing out---be stealing joy and contentment from our offline lives? Find courage to re-evaluate today's skewed perspective of success as measured by "likes" and retweets---and embrace a simpler existence! 240 pages, softcover from Waterbrook.
Is comparison living hijacking your life?
Do you find yourself measuring your value against your friends house, body, marriage, resume, paycheck, organic garden, or Pinterest-worthy holiday décor, and coming up lacking? Do your college roommates Instagram snapshots bear little resemblance to the scene at your house this morning?
Excessive comparison and competition sap our energy and steal our joy. Our friends become our audience and judges, and our kids become part of our brand. Add social medias constant invitation to post and peruse, and its no wonder that were left exhausted, discontent, and lonely. Thankfully, there is another way!
With refreshing candor and humor, Kay Wyma shares her experiences with comparison living and offers readers the simple remedies that helped her and her family reboot their perspective and discover freedom, authenticity, and joy.
Kay Wills Wyma is a blogger, mother of five, and the author of Cleaning House. She has appeared on The TODAY Show, CNN, Glenn Beck, The New York Times, Focus on the Family, and other media outlets. Before becoming a stay-at-home mom, she held positions at the White House, the Staubach Company, and Bank of America. Kay lives in the Dallas area with her husband, Jon, and their family.
Im Happy for You (Sort of…Not Really)
"Kay Wills Wyma once again champions a much-needed culture shiftwith heartfelt insight she challenges us to choose contentment over comparison. Im Happy for You gently exposes the growing obsession with self-promotion and one-upmanship thats wearing us all out and, thankfully, offers wise solutions."
Tracey Eyster, Founder of FamilyLifes MomLifeToday.com; author of Be the Mom and Beautiful Mess
"Kay Wills Wyma captured my attention with her belly-laughing good storytelling steeped in reality as she tackled a question thats long overdue for an honest answer: What should we do about this comparison trap we find ourselves falling into daily? When comparison steals contentment, its a problem that demands a solution. Kay gives it to us in a way that is easy on the heart and good for the soul."
Elisa Pulliam, author and life coach
"Who knew comparison was so prevalent and destructive? Awakening to this alone is worth the time invested in reading this honest and sometimes raw literary gem. Comparisons thievery of joy is arrested by the just let it go practicality Kay offers so transparently and humorously. It might just put you on the path toward contentment and gratitude, a road less traveled."
Robin Pou, executive coach and attorney mediator; coauthor of Performance Intelligence at Work
"Kay Wyma has managed to address what were all dealing with on a daily basisthe ability to instantly compare our life to someone elses with just a mere look at our phone. There we can see all the ways we are failing to be the best mom, the best wife, the best friend…and the list goes on. In the pages of Im Happy for You, Kay offers insight into why we do this and how we can stop the cycle. If youre looking to live a life of contentment and authenticity and to be okay when your kid is the C student and not the valedictorian, youll find comfort and realistic solutions in the pages of this book."
Melanie Shankle, New York Times best-selling author of Sparkly Green Earrings
"Im Happy for You is honest and funny, while tackling a serious problem that is stealing our joy: comparison. Kay creatively uses stories and personal confession to reveal the pitfalls of comparing, while offering a solid ladderbuilt on godly wisdomto help us climb out of that pit. I wish I could pass this book on to every woman who has worn herself out trying to achieve unrealistic standards. Theres freedom on these pages."
Jennifer Dukes Lee, author of Love Idol
"Kay Wyma hit a home run on the Focus on the Family radio program when she talked about ways moms can combat the entitlement mentality in their kids. In her new book, she scores another hit with an insightful discussion of the pitfalls of comparing your life to others, especially through social media. Her advice is timely and relevant."
Jim Daly, president of Focus on the Family
"Victims of comparison drive-bys litter the Internet. There are virtual warehouses of new ways to covet your neighbors home, decorating skills, summer vacation plans, or Pinterest-perfect kids birthday parties. In this paralyzing culture of obsessive comparisons, this book is the detox we all need. With a sense of humor and an unrelenting honesty, Kay walks us through the steps to finding our worth again in the God who never compares us but always only calls us by name."
Lisa-Jo Baker, community manager for (in)courage; author of Surprised by Motherhood
"There is no joy to be found in comparing ourselves to others. Fortunately, with both cultural relevance and biblical foundation, Kay Wills Wyma accurately defines not only the comparison problem, but offers a solution. Im Happy for You is a must-read for anyone caught in the comparison trap."
Joshua Becker, best-selling author of Simplify; founder of Becoming Minimalist
"For years Ive said Comparison is the kiss of death of gratitude. Whether we stroll the shopping malls, thumb through catalogs, shop online, or inadvertently compare ourselves to others, we are imperceptibly overwhelmed with longings to be like someone else, to have something else, believing it somehow enhances our identity. The pursuit of bigger, better, newer, and more never stops. With a compelling lilt, Kay Wills Wymas pen pulls us along only to expose and confront our comparison battle. From one co-struggler to another, Kay brings us perspective and relief."
Dr. Michael Easley, former president of Moody Bible Institute; teaching pastor; host of Michael Easley inContext
"Kay Wills Wyma has opened a powerful window on the reality of comparison and how its impacting all of us, including vulnerable young lives. With social media, instead of just keeping up with the Joneses, were now keeping up with the world. Kay navigates us through the pressures we all face and teaches us how to be genuinely happy for others and deliberate about our current situation and future plans at every stage of life."
Kathy Ireland, chair/CEO/chief designer at kathy ireland Worldwide