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Understanding why people say what they do is the first step toward compassion, as it allows us to glimpse another's perspective. How Much Did You Pay For Her? challenges adoptive parents to develop a better understanding of the motivations behind what can seem like an endless stream of questions and comments about their family, and at the same time, addresses the truth of how these exchanges really feel. This book will encourage adoptive families with a desire to forgive in their hearts to respond positively to those with whom they engage, transforming pain into gain.
Number of Pages: 240
Vendor: CLC Publications
Publication Date: 2014
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How Much Did You Pay for Her? is a much-needed book! Christine Rhyner brings all the hurtful remarks about adoptees and their families into the light. This will be a great tool for parents in training their kids how to respond to cruel remarks, as well as a tool for clinicians to train families on how to be street smart. By the way, I cost 57 cents. -Sherrie Eldridge, author, Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew, Twenty Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed
The journey of adoption is full of unique challenges, not the least of which are the comments, often well-meaning, of family, friends and even strangers. Christine Rhyner shares her very helpful perspective as an adoptive parent who has experienced these painful comments and invites the reader to apply the biblical principles of grace, forgiveness and peacemaking rather than resentment and bitterness. Any person who has gone through infertility and has walked the path of adoption will find in Ms. Rhyner's work both an author who keenly understands the common anguish and hurts that come with the wounding comments of family and friends, as well as useful insights and applications for navigating these from the perspective of biblical principles. Thank you, Christine, for not only acknowledging the offense and pain caused by others, often unknowingly, but leading the reader to the vital path of grace and forgiveness that is often sorely missing in adoption literature. -Jeffrey L. Nitz, LCSW, Vice President of Adoption and Family Services, Bethany Christian Services
Rhyner's book is a positive paradox of moderation and extremes. Averse to legalism, she is a welcome voice of moderation when it comes to issues of assisted reproductive technology, name-it-and-claim-it theology, and the "just rely on God, not on science" mentality. She brings to her adoption story a balanced view of spiritual warfare, and a modest view of each person's role in the life of adopted children (we cannot save the world). On the other hand, Rhyner is extreme in her dispensation of grace and forgiveness. She is unrelenting in her desire to understand, rather than react, to the potentially hurtful comments that adoptive parents inevitably hear. Although there is nothing selfish about Rhyner's quest to extend grace to those around her, the journey is largely about the self. For example, she says, "It humbles me to consider the possibility that the adoption of my children has far more to do with God's plan for their lives than with my desire to have given birth to them." She sees her adoption as a tool through which God developed character traits within her. We would all do well to examine our own histories to see how God used them as a tool for fashioning us into His image. -Daniel Nehrbass, Ph.D. is the president of Nightlight Christian Adoptions, which is also the home of the Snowflake Embryo Adoption program
For adoptive parents (especially those who have adopted internationally), Christine Rhyner's How Much Did You Pay For Her? will come as a welcome source of wisdom and hope for dealing with all the comments, assumptions, and off-base attitudes that adoptive parents must often face. Filled with personal examples, Biblical wisdom, and insights based on real experience, Rhyner leads readers on a journey through various hurts and how to heal and offer forgiveness through each one. I recommend How Much Did You Pay for Her? as a valuable resource for those facing the unique challenges and joys of adoption. -Marlo Schalesky, author of Empty Womb, Aching Heart, Hope and Help for Those Struggling with Infertility
Christine's book is an excellent and unique resource for anyone that has ever thought about adoption--or ever been a part of a conversation that included the topic of adoption. The questions and topics deal with important and sensitive information in a practical, encouraging and biblical way that can be "conversation starters" by families, individuals and/or study groups. This book will definitely open your eyes to many different aspects of adoption that many people have never considered. I highly recommend this as resource for anyone involved in the ministry of adoption, foster care and orphan care. -Kevin Burdette, "Hope for 100" Adoption Ministry Coordinator and Minister of Adult Impact, Green Acres Baptist Church, Tyler, TX
I love that Christine has wonderfully put into words many of the thoughts and feelings that we as adoptive parents have shared. Every successful adoption is truly a miracle and even the most well-meaning of our family members ask questions with love, but may minimize the effort and faith that adoption takes. Christine's strong faith grounds her answers, her family, and ultimately the path that led her to adoption. Excellent book for all families created by adoption. -Mardie Caldwell is Founder and CEO of Lifetime Adoption Center with offices in California and Florida
Understanding why people say what they do is the first step toward compassion, as it allows us to glimpse another's perspective. This can lead to giving others grace-an undeserved gift of letting people off the hook for what they say-that eventually leads us to forgive them.
How Much Did You Pay For Her? challenges adoptive parents to develop a better understanding of the motivations behind what can seem like an endless stream of questions and comments about their family, and at the same time, addresses the truth of how these exchanges really feel. This book will encourage adoptive families with a desire to forgive in their hearts to respond positively to those with whom they engage, transforming pain into gain.
Mal5 Stars Out Of 5How much did you pay for her?August 29, 2014MalQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5An intelligent, insightful and well-written book, Christine Rhyner takes you on her journey from infertility to the "happy mother of children." And, what a journey it is! I eagerly read through this interesting and thought provoking story of hurt, coping and faith building experiences that sets her and her book apart. Ms. Rhyner is raw, tender and transparent in her reconciliation with God, herself and others. The beautiful outcome is evident. This book is both inspiring and hopeful for all who are working through the hurts and disappointments that accompany their journey of infertility and adoption. With this read, many will come away with a new perspective on suffering and surrender; many will come away freer in their souls and fuller with their children they hold.