When Fifty Shades of Grey came out I knew many women that thought the book was great. Many of my friends were outraged and insulted that women would find these books entertaining. I think it just shows the importance of a book like the Fantasy Fallacy! Sex is often times a subject that is difficult to discuss and sexual thoughts are even harder! The Fantasy Fallacy was written to help us understand why we think about sex, what kind of sexual thoughts we have, and how to reconcile that in our lives.
*The Fantasy Fallacy* is like a healing salve on a deep wound. It is the single most refreshing, influential, and grace-filled book dealing with human sexuality I have ever read. Ethridge eschews the misconstruction that psychology and a Biblical worldview do not belong on the same team. Instead, she seamlessly weaves truths from both, showing how our needs for healthy sexuality and spirituality are interwoven into our DNA.
I especially appreciate the chapter examining the "softer side of God", God as perfect Mother as well as Father, and Ethridge's practical tips for allowing God's grace (power to avoid sin in the first place) into our sexual and relational temptations.
Through *The Fantasy Fallacy*, Ethridge not only gives a timely response to the *50 Shades of Grey* phenomenon, she also offers so much more... an invitation for readers to honestly and compassionately (re)examine their sexual fantasies as a tool for discovering the beautiful, God-given gifts of true sexual and spiritual intimacy.
Over the years, I have read almost all of Shannon's books as well as Stephen Auterburn. This topic, is essential for today's Christians and churches! It seems that human sexuality is a taboo subject for Christians as well as their families. We are taught to guard our mind and hearts, and to keep our thoughts subject to the will of Christ, but seldom if ever do we talk about HOW to accomplish such a feat! With the onslaught of today's secular culture, we as Christians can be overwhelmed in a subject that is so limited in discussion. Additionally, this book gave me some insight with how to love, cope with and help friends and family members that are now a part of the gay and lesbian society. Marriage, is a difficult relationship at best. Seldom do we realize the baggage that we are carrying into that relationship. This book has been an experience in self realization and self examination in order to be a better, husband, father, and person. I HIGHLY recommend reading this one more than once as doors will begin to open in closets that have been closed for years. Only then, can the healing begin! Thanks Shannon for a GREAT message, ministry and book!
Refreshing Realism for Sexuality Today-A Must Read
October 11, 2012
Port Arthur, TX
Shannon has done an amazing job again. Healthy sexual relationships and integrity to God's word for how sexuality should play out in our lives is her forte.
Today's age is bombarded with sexual innuendo and explicitness at every turn. It is becoming more and more extreme, like chasing the dragon, and people are trying to follow it in their bedroom. It is something that is an epidemic in the "real world" but something rarely addressed in the church. With this book Shannon opens the door to an equal playing field for both sides of the line to openly talk about and understand the elephant in the room, our fantasies, and how to deal with them properly.
She has provided very thorough research on the psychology behind our thoughts that is worded for everyone to understand and real life, intimate testimonies that makes the reader know that they aren't the odd man out and not the only one having these thoughts. Shannon encourages us to glean the lessons from facing your past that your fantasies are trying to heal itself from.
This is a highly, highly recommended book for anyone out there. It's something that relates to all!
The Fantasy Fallacy Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts
By Shannon Ethridge
Published by Thomas Nelson
Erotica has invaded more than our minds - it has exploded onto our bestseller lists and into our bedrooms.
Many are looking to sexual and emotional fantasies as avenues to fulfillment. Our fantasies, however, are not reliable guides into the futureÃ¢â¬âthey are actually rocky road maps from our past. Best-selling author Shannon Ethridge theorizes, "Fantasies are simply the brain's way of trying to heal itself from unresolved tragedies and traumas. We mentally compartmentalize our pain to make room for pleasure."
Fantasies have deep psychological roots, and if acted on many of them can do deep psychological damage. Rather than let fantasies rule us, let's take out the sting and bring them under God's rule, allowing the Lord to heal us from the brokenness and insecurities that cause inappropriate fantasies to haunt us.
Without being judgmental or condemning, Shannon helps us dissect several common and often-disturbing topics, such as:
a distorted fascination with pornography
the mental pursuit of multiple partners
the lure of gay and lesbian desires
bondage, domination, and sadomasochism (BDSM)
With tips for controlling unwanted fantasies and resources for providing a safe haven for recovery, The Fantasy Fallacy helps us recognize and heal our emotional pain and equips us to help others do the same.
I really got excited to read this book based on the description from booksneeze.com. I really liked this book. It talks about how people have this fantasy they are always thinking about such as in dreams and such. And how those fantasies can be dreams, or porn,etc and how to look into a fantasy you are having and how to figure out why you are having that fantasy and what the real reason you are thinking those things and it can be different things from you life or childhood that mess us up emotionally or in our dreams.
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