Family relationships are complex. We bring patterns of relating from our families of origin--positive and negative--to our marriages. Sorting out your own expectations from your family's desires can be a major undertaking. But it is a necessary part of leaving your family of origin so you can become a new family unit with your spouse. Here is an opportunity to sort out what patterns you want to bring into your marriage and what you want to leave in the past. Doing so will build a stronger bond between the two of you and enhance your relationships with your extended family as well.
Are your expectations for marriage your own--or your parents'? What do you want to bring into your marriage from your past, and what do you want to leave behind? Dan B. Allender and Tremper Longman III have together written this inductive Bible study guide to help couples build healthy and happy marriages. Through six study sessions for individuals, couples or groups, they lead you to examine how your early experiences of family and your current family relationships can influence your marriage relationship--for better or worse. Intimate Marriage Bible studies bring spouses into deeper communion with God and with each other. In marriage a man and a woman are called to leave their families of origin, to weave their individual lives into a unity and to cleave to each other. How can fallen human beings even begin to contemplate this ideal--God's ideal? These studies will help you take small but real steps toward honoring the image of God in each other and living out God's goal for marriage. As you explore and respond to Scripture together, you will discover strength and beauty in your marriage and become even more intimate companions.
Dan B. Allender (PhD, counseling psychology, Michigan State University) is professor of counseling at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. He taught previously at Grace Theological Seminary and Colorado Christian University. A speaker and writer, his books include and With Tremper Longman, he wrote and the Intimate Marriage Bible studies.
Tremper Longman III (PhD, Yale University) is Robert H. Gundry Professor of Biblical Studies at Westmont College in Santa Barbara, California. He is also visiting professor of Old Testament at Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and adjunct of Old Testament at Fuller Theological Seminary. He lectures regularly at Regent College in Vancouver and the Canadian Theological Seminary in Calgary. Longman is the author or coauthor of over twenty books, including and coeditor of He and Dan Allender have coauthored and the Intimate Marriage Bible studies.
"Allender and Longman assert that marriage transformation requires deep and frequent encounters with the gospel, facing the truth about God, others and about ourselves. That's a far cry from the 3-steps-to-a-better-marriage advice we have been swallowing for years, to no avail. This material is real food for marriages that hunger for honesty, intimacy, spiritual depth and lifelong fulfillment.
"Every marriage needs this series--including mine. But working on your marriage alone is hard. That's why the interactive DVD and small group components put this series in a league of its own. Pursuing marital growth in community with other like-minded journeyers will make this experience powerful and deeply rewarding. Use it together to enhance the most exciting, yet challenging, relationship on the planet."