Marriage is just for a sex partner, parenting/business/life partner, help meet -- not if you want to become one flesh. Not if you want hurting your spouse to become as hurting yourself. More is available and Arterburn and Stoeker tell you how they failed their way to re-making their marriage to mirror the biblical call.

I have used this book as the basis for my 'Dad's Talk' with my sons before their marriage. I have also asked tmy daughters to read this book, stating that this is what I expect from the man who marries them. I have also used this book with men who have come out of sexual addiction, since most do not know how to effectively relate to their wives. Oneness is the key: loving our wives as we love ourselves and as Christ loved the church.