This boook takes its message and principles and shows readers specifically how to integrate these ideas into their daily lives. Carlson encourages people to look closely at themselves by exploring such issues as: What is your reaction when you see a long line at the grocery store? How do you act when somebody describes a wonderful vacation they just took? What is your policy on gift-giving? What would you want your funeral to look like? What are your personal goals and ideals? When are the moments at which you need approval the most? When are the times you seek to blame someone else? Through these questions, self-tests, and exploratory exercises, readers discover precisely how to become kinder, wiser, more patient, and less stressed.