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In Put the Disciple into Discipline mother-daughter team Erin MacPherson and Ellen Schuknecht provides parents the tools they need to truly disciple their kids through the most trying discipline situations. It's during the tough pull-out-your-hair moments when you have the opportunity to connect with your kids in a way that will ultimately define them.
Number of Pages: 240
Publication Date: 2017
|Dimensions: 8-1/4 X 5-1/2 (inches)|
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How do you respond when your three-year-old is throwing pennies at other carts as you walk through the aisles at Target? Or when your eight-year-old daughter rolls her eyes in a dramatic fit of preteen angst? Or when your sixteen-year-old son is lying as he attempts to go somewhere that he never should be?
These are the tough moments in parenting.
But they are also the moments that will define your kids.
We want to give parents the tools they need to truly disciple their kids through their most trying discipline situations. With these tools, parents can guide their kids' hearts towards the God who loves them deeply, and survive those pull-out-your-hair parenting moments. We pray that PUT THE DISCIPLE INTO DISCIPLINE will help parents to connect with their kids in a heartfelt way so that their kids, in turn, can connect with the God who created them to be truly and imperfectly His.
bookwomanjoanOak Harbor, WAAge: Over 65Gender: Female3 Stars Out Of 5Some good suggestions yet with reservationsJune 22, 2017bookwomanjoanOak Harbor, WAAge: Over 65Gender: FemaleQuality: 3Value: 3Meets Expectations: 2I'm not a parent so I cannot write a review of a parenting book from experience. Nonetheless, I do have some observations about this book. This is a critical review so is a long one.
Ellen starts out by declaring that she thinks many of the parenting experts have gotten it wrong when it comes to discipline. They fail to communicate about discipleship and fail to help parents know how to teach their kids to desire right and know the love God has for them. That's what this book is about.
She identifies four pillars the authors look at with each topic. Discipleship not discipline: disciple kids' hearts to want to behave, let the Bible be your guide. Desire, not obedience: teach kid's to desire what is right, do not demand thoughtless obedience. Connection, not control: show them you care. Growth, not assistance: let kids solve their own problems. The authors explore a number of topics using those four pillars.
There is a great deal I liked in this book. I like how the authors remind parents that every little behavior is about a whole lot more, revealing inner character. I like how they remind parents the necessity of prayer and being led by God. Parents are to look at each situation as an opportunity to speak to their child's heart. I like that they emphasize parenting by example.
But there were also a few things that bothered me. One was mixed messages. On the chapter Drifting Apart, Ellen writes: "We have to make our relationship with our preteens and teens less about what they do - their clothes, their performance at the soccer game, their decisions to wear all black - and more about who they are." I would think that what kids do and wear on the outside is an indication of who they are on the inside and that parents should pay attention to their children's actions. This is one of the mixed messages from the authors because in the chapter Free to Be Modest, Ellen writes: "...you have to intentionally work to get to know the reasons behind her clothing choices. Make it your aim to find out ... the reasons behind her clothing choices." So which is it, we don't have concern about what our kids wear or we do?
Another mixed message is about the inner character of a child. The authors fail to recognize the effects of the Fall in many places. In a letter to a concerned parent, we read, "I honestly believe that kids like James and Will aren't inherently mean or destructive or even disobedient at heart." I disagree, especially if the child is not saved. We know from Scripture that the heart is deceitful. But then, in the chapter about conflicts, "We have to overcome our natural bent to handle things in an unhealthy way." Here it seems the authors do recognize the natural bent in the unsaved to sin. So which is it? Are children not inherently bent to sin or are they?
Much of the authors' philosophy of parenting relies on the child's ability to make wise choices. They suggest lots of talking with the child, perhaps so they can choose future behavior or rethink bad behavior. This would only work for older children, ones who have the ability to reason way beyond immediate feelings and desires. I have no idea how the authors' techniques could work with young children. Also, I think we need to remember that the Bible tells us the heart is deceitful. I can just see a young teen figuring out that he can avoid punishment by being willing to talk about his behavior, promising better behavior in the future.
Unfortunately, the theology in the book is fuzzy. In the chapter about faith, they write about knowing who Jesus is and what he's done. We are told that knowledge is followed by passions and a desire to be intimate with God. There was never a clear message about salvation and the transformation that occurs in a child's spirit. There is never a reminder to talk with your child about saving faith or leading them to accept Jesus as their Savior.
There are some techniques that bother me as well. They use aversion tactics. When writing about outbursts of anger, we are told, "give your kid something else to do - something helpful - at that moment when the spark flares..." Is that truly helping the child deal with the anger and its cause? Here is another suggestion I find unsatisfactory. "So the key for when your kids are ungrateful is this: simply ignore it. Shrug." Walk away and take treats and special stuff with you. Is that using the occasion as a teaching opportunity? And in the chapter about bullying, Erin says she was taught by her mother to say with a dull voice, "I don't care about that anyway." She was told that no matter how much she cared, she was not to show any emotion to the bully. I think that is setting up a child for hiding emotions and hurt.
I do recommend this book but with reservations. It is a good one for parents who want to be intentional in their parenting. The authors provide many examples of parenting moments and how their techniques work. They even provide some examples of bad parenting moments and the lessons one can learn from them. I would suggest readers seriously think through the suggestions given. There are many good ideas in this book but some I do think need further evaluating before using.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher. My comments are an independent and honest review.
beloved569Sterling, COAge: 25-34Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Motivated My HeartJune 20, 2017beloved569Sterling, COAge: 25-34Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5I loved this book! It really helped me examine my motives as a parent and how I want to teach their hearts and not just get them to obey. This book flowed well, it kept my attention (I was highlighting so much), and offered practical steps I could take.
KB5 Stars Out Of 5Every Parent Needs this BookJune 20, 2017KBQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5This book is full of encouragement, practical application and points back to the heart of the child in every chapter.
I flew through the pages and know I'll keep this book handy for referencing in the years to come