I know that many moms have loved this book, but I really didn't get much out of it. There were some good points made, but I felt it wasn't new information for me. It seemed to take forever to get through this book, and I would have given up had I not agreed to finish it in order to write a review.
The books focuses on grace. Which truly is an amazing Biblical concept, but I feel the way it was presented in this book is unbalanced, and an easy answer for everything.
Also, depression is presented as a natural, inevitable part of motherhood, and I do not believe that to be Biblical.
I do see that Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson's heart was truly to encourage mothers though and there were some practical tips which I also practice, such as searching for and creating beauty in our homes and every day lives. I do think this book could be a valuable tool for some mothers, it just wasn't a good fit for where I am I my life.
I received this book from the publisher through the Booksneeze program in exchange for an honest review.
I have found a fantastic book for moms that I wish I'd had seventeen years ago when my kids were young. Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson have discovered a heartbeat of moms that I haven't seen much on book shelves.
This book is different because it isn't one woman telling other moms how to be a "better" mom. There are no lists of ideas to try, or new recipes that all kids will eat, or discipline that works! This book is DIFFERENT.
My favorite thing about Desperate is Sarah Mae's crystal-clear honesty. She shares her heart openly - even the stuff we don't like to say out loud. Like,
"I just can't be a mother today."
"I just want to be alone ..."
"Lately it's been easier to put on the T.V. than put on being a good mother."
"I am so selfish! Every day I see it in myself more and more."
"When my life feels overwhelming, I escape to the Internet."
The second thing I love about Desperate is Sally Clarkson's wisdom shared within her own failures turned into victories. Each chapter starts with an exchange of letters between the two women - Sarah sharing her heart and asking for help. Then Sally counters with words of godly wisdom, encouragement and all are completely bathed in "been-there-done-that."
There are also times after each chapter to open scripture and speak openly with God with your own personal struggles and ways to re-think them. Could be used as a group study of women together.
In the end of the book are twenty-two pages of Q&A with Sally and Sarah. I loved hearing other moms express their questions from the heart that make me feel so "normal". My fears and questions are actually felt by others out there. And that may be the greatest reason to buy this book and pass it on to every mom you know - so not one mom ever feels she is not normal.
There is also a special note of attention for single moms included.
Thanks to Thomas nelson for allowing me a free copy of the book in exchange for my honest review. I was not required to review the book positively.
"Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe" by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson addresses the often overwhelming nature of motherhood. Mae is a mother of three young children who is in the trenches and barely on the other side of that common desperate feeling of moms with small children. Clarkson is an experienced mom with four grown children. Mae writes out of her current experience; Clarkson writes from the years of experience she has garnered.
There are 14 chapters, each one addressing a different aspect of motherhood. Topics include sin, selfishness, housework, purpose, and needing a mentor. Each chapter is introduced by a brief correspondence between the two authors. Then each of them write a portion of each chapter. There are discussion questions and an activity to do on your own at the end of each chapter to further allow the message of the chapter to sink in. There are also brief videos that correspond to each chapter for further depth.
Overall, this book was absolutely fantastic. As a mom of two young (and very active!) boys, I can really relate to the feeling of desperation. It is a wonderful book to go through on your own, or for a group to go through, or even for a couple of women to read through. There is much to discuss and process and all of it is good, solid material. "Desperate" is a must-read for every mom!
"You are exactly the mom your children need. He created you for these good works from before the foundation of the world, and as you walk this great call of motherhood with Him holding your hand, you will be amazed at how He weaves the beautiful thread of redemption through the pattern of your life. He brings light to the dark places through you, something you could only have accomplished by embracing His wonderful call and embracing these very precious children who were inextricably created as part of the design for your life." ~Sally Clarkson, p. 187
(I've received this complimentary book from Thomas Nelson Publishing House through the Book Sneeze program in exchange for a review. A positive review was not required and the views expressed in my review are strictly my own.)
Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe written by Sarah Mae & Sally Clarkson sets out to provide encouragement, help, and answers to questions.
Did it deliver?
The authors provided a lot of tools. Each chapter begins with a letter from the younger mom and the seasoned mother's response, a written portion from each, Your Turn (Biblical verses and questions), Something to Do (an action plan) and finally a QR code to watch a video.
Whereas all these tools show a desire from the authors to help mothers, it falls short in the actual content. The focus seemed more on 'civilizing' children and creating a home that 'pleases' one's heart. Although Scripture references are contained in the Your Turn section, it seems to be limited to that section instead of the groundwork for providing hope for mothers. The solution for desperate moms seemed to come from within and others as opposed to God.
Great topics were brought up, but not solutions. For example, the authors stated that depression is part of motherhood. The 'it just comes with the territory' mentality is not Biblical. Temporal remedies such as bringing flowers and meals, playing soft music, and lighting candles are just that--temporal fixes. I think the authors had a great opportunity of examining heart issues that can be healed by the Word of God and missed it.
This is not a book I would recommend.
This book was provided by Tyndale Blog Network in exchange for an independent and unbiased review