God has given women a gift that is so woven into their nature that they approach everything, from homes to husbands, with the thought, "Wow, I could do great things with that!" To see potential is a great good, but the downside is the propensity to compare reality with the expectation. This is especially harmful in marriage if a woman tries to show her husband his potential in all the wrong ways, such as comparison or suggestions for change.
So, how does a wife encourage her husband to become what God has placed within him to be? It requires an understanding of her own need for repentance and restoration, as well as working with the right team and the right tools. The right team is God as architect, Jesus as supplier, and the Holy Spirit as builder. The right tools include prayer, declaration, and action that bring restoration and that also reveal her own need to change. Each chapter explores a case study of a biblical character's life, an action that gained him authority, an area of vulnerability, and the most memorable moment this person wore the mantle. Each chapter also includes a pattern for prayer: questions from which a woman can build the blueprint for repentance, restoration, and declaration. Personal application includes Putting Your Words to Work, a written vision declaration, and a Seal it with a Gift with practical ways to gently, yet generously, introduce revelation of a husband's skills and abilities through a tangible gift.
Amie Dockery is the director of women's ministry at Covenant Church in north Dallas, a church started by her parents, Mike and Kathy Hayes. She is the coauthor of the book On Daddy's Shoulders. Gaining the understanding that only comes in the midst of personal trials has given Amie a desire to love God with her whole life. She and her husband, Stacey, have four children.