~15 yrs. ago, I supplemented a teenage class I was teaching w/ material from Josh Harris's "I Kissed Dating Goodbye." When I showed the kids his 3-part video series, I wondered how it would be received. There were several positive responses. 1 girl had me to order Harris's book for her. Another borrowed 2 of the tapes to take home to show to her father. They were old enough to appreciate how much love, purity, & trust matter.
I wish more parents knew how much these things matter & how much they can make a difference in their children's lives. Fathers know how males are. If they will, they can communicate that to their daughters (& their daughters' mothers). Fathers need to learn that they not only can, as the head of their family, they have a responsibility to. God didn't intend for us to bring girls into the world to be abandoned to whatever jerk wants to take advantage of them & plague them w/ a life of misery & perhaps an even worse eternity. Fathers not only need to look out for & counsel their daughters, they need to model for them the kind of man their daughters should look for in a husband.
In so doing, fathers will also be providing a model for their sons of what kind of men they should be. Christian fathers should not assume that their sons are going to sow some wild oats. Their sons should hear from them & see in them how they are to be real men who guard the purity of the young women they associate with.
Right here is where we're losing many of our children. We're so culturally molded by the modern laissez faire way of parenting that we're practically clueless to the fact that we can make the necessary difference. It's almost like when our kids get old enough to date, our society tells the parents to "go to your room." Over the yrs., I have on various occasions preached on "Hands-On Parenting." Yeah, we can do that. We'd better do that. Or we'll answer to God for it!
Very well detailed and wholly biblical. Practical information for a generation that really needs this information! Josh Harris shares stories that help you understand the principal of doing relationships God's way, and illustrates issues that can be avoided when we use these simple concepts.
My daughter read this book a couple of years ago and so did I. We both thought it was insightful and offered great advice. It is not something everyone can do with the peer pressure regarding dating etc but I wish it was something everyone would do.
I was 21-years old when I wrote my story of giving up the dating game in order to focus on serving God. The hope behind it was that other singles would be helped by some of the lessons I was learning. Most people have an opinion about "that book about not dating." Some love it; others despise it. I'd encourage you not to assume you know what it says without having read it. Many readers who start out critics of I Kissed Dating Goodbye are surprised to learn that the core message of the book isn't about "dating," but living your life for God.
I loved this book. I have 2 teenagers (son and a daughter) that are constantly harassing me about why they are not allowed to date. We go back and forth about how you can date when they are ready to get married and settle down, until then the answer is still No. This book was great support in helping avoiding some pitfalls when it comes to dealing with my kids and dating. My kids are allowed to go on "group dates"
and I agree with what the author is trying to convey here about how it is harder to be fake in a group setting for a prolonged period of time and that the real you comes out and you see people for who they are and truly get to know them, something I feel singular one on one dating does not offer.
I personally support courting as apposed to dating. It puts the mindset in both parties immediately that this is not a one night stand type of relationship, this is an all or nothing deal. It sets the tone that the relationship is about finding a marriage mate to honor God and His design for marriage and not just simply a soul mate that you look at as disposable when things go wrong. Courtship allows each partner to explore the others views on religion, society, raisin children, etc all with the understanding that this person sitting across from you is thinking full 100% commitment for life. it makes you think things through more seriously.
I thought this book was wrote very well and offered wonderful examples of the differences between dating, courting, and relying on God. I would highly recommend this book to anyone with kids that are starting to get closer to the age when they want to date.
Here is a small excerpt from the Study Guide Sample that you can purchase [here]: