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Vendor: Kregel Publications
Publication Date: 2017
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I control because I care... I just want to be sure of a happy ending... I worry that everything is spinning out of control...
Many women can identify with statements like these. They have a compulsion to make everything turn out just right and are willing to do anything to make it happen. But this unbalanced pursuit of control makes those around them anxious and defensive. And when they realize control is slipping from their grasp, they lose control of themselves and react in anger or fear.
Shannon Popkin knows this struggle inside and out. Keeping her inner Control Girl hidden is a full-time job. Thankfully, she also knows another very important truth: no woman has to be a Control Girl.
In this encouraging book, Shannon invites seven Control Girls from the Bible into the conversation. She examines each story for the moments in which grasping for control circumvented God's plans for good, whether it was Eve's desire to know instead of to trust, Sarah's inability to wait for God to move, or Rebekah's controlling hand on her family's future. Finally, Shannon finds God's perspective on each of the problems and then reveals how readers' can have their own happy endings in similar situations.
The author shares from her own struggles and follows each Bible study with questions for personal reflection. In the end, controlling women will find insight into their own experience, peace in the knowledge that God is in control, and relief that they are free.
Just Commonly4 Stars Out Of 5Great for personal and small group studiesMarch 13, 2017Just CommonlyQuality: 0Value: 0Meets Expectations: 0O, this book! Control Girl: Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control...by Shannon Popkin really hits you! I mean, how many times have I gone through this book and realize (with a thump and a stop in your heart) that the author could be talking about me?! With nine chapters and between three and five lessons each, readers are presented with personal thoughts, biblical depth and insightful discussions, as well as areas of reflection and meditation. Control Girl gave me much to think about, from my words to my actions.
This section. Can you imagine, us hijacking God's story for us? And when you think about it, when you reflect upon it, isn't that what we do from time to time? We try to control how things will be, how we WANT it to be and go about trying to make it as we want. Surrender. That's the word.
There are still so much I want to go back and reflect on with Control Girl, especially the biblical verses in the meditation section at the end of each lesson. The author's writing is easy to read and follow, and the format straightforward. It would be a great personal devotional as well as a small group study. What better way to share and discuss than with your close sisters in Christ? I highly recommend this book, and if you have time to peruse the author's website. There are plenty of resources, including a meditation sample pack with cards to print as those above. Transformation is not easy, but as the author says in Control Girl, the small steps and the small moments. Let's start there, together.
"As a Control Girl, words are the primary way I try to control people. But as a Jesus Girl, words are the primary way I give up control to God. Taming my tongue starts by yielding my heart in the small moments of the day."(195)
Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book from the author/publisher. I was not required to write a positive review, and have not been compensated for this. This is my honest opinion.
MadeoverBedford,TexasAge: 45-54Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Great Resource For WomenFebruary 27, 2017MadeoverBedford,TexasAge: 45-54Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5A great resource for all women. We all seem to have areas that we feel a need to control. Which is not unlike some of the women of the Bible. To 'control' seems to be an ageless
The author begins the by detailing 'the path of a Control Gil'.
Followed by separate chapters featuring 7 women of the Bible
Eve, Sarah, Hagar,Rebekah,Leah,Rachel and Miriam.
Ending with Control Girl To Jesus just the title of the final chapter is/was an encouragement to this reader.
Each chapter is easy to read with short sections breaking the chapters up making them easy to read in short spurts of time.
Each chapter ends with questions to ponder.
This would be an excellent book for a group study.
I received a complimentary copy of Control Girl from Litfuse
This review will appear at MyReadingJourney
Carrie ShindorfCosby, MissouriAge: 45-54Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5A Book For All GirlsFebruary 25, 2017Carrie ShindorfCosby, MissouriAge: 45-54Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 0Meets Expectations: 0This is one book I highly recommend to ladies of all ages. I can't remember when I have read a book that could be more helpful. It seems like little girls are just born as natural controllers......I know I sure was and still struggle with this control issue. It was mother Eve who passed it down and we sure manage to keep it going.
Shannon does a great job comparing how the girls of the Bible had their own struggle with control. Yet each time the control girls of the Bible took matters into their own hands they suffered along with those they loved and those who came after them all the way down to me and you.
I like what she writes here:
A Control Girl detaches from God. A Jesus Girl relies on Him.
A Control Girl breaks God's rules. A Jesus Girl embraces the Bible's instructions.
A Control Girl trusts her own perspective. A Jesus Girl defers to God's viewpoint.
So many times we like to think we are just being a great wife, mom or Christan when we micro- manage, manipulate and control but it is just not so. We need to give up our control and manipulation and let God work.
I plan on using this book for a group Bible study.
JessicaAge: 25-34Gender: female3 Stars Out Of 5A look at control.February 25, 2017JessicaAge: 25-34Gender: femaleQuality: 0Value: 0Meets Expectations: 0Do you strive to stay in control of your life? Do you try to make everything fit into your vision of how things should be, including the people around you? When your vision takes the place of God's vision, you end up without peace, and the thirst for control grows.
In this book, Popkin uses examples from her own life to illustrate the ways we try to take control, even the subtle ways. She shows how they can bedamaging to our relationships, including our relationship with God.
I applaud Popkin for being so open about her control issues. Examples from her own life really drive the lessons, alongside Biblical examples.
However, I have two issues with this book.
The first issue is actually seen not just here, but in Christian women's literature in general. Almost everything in this book is aimed toward married women and mothers. The only section that seemed to encompass single women as well was the chapter regarding Miriam, which was aimed at women in leadership positions. I find that it's a common trend to leave out single women who are not mothers in these types of books, and this one was no different.
The second issue is that Popkin consistently brings up our "happy ending." We try to obtain our happy ending by taking control (which is true) but it is only when we give control to God that he will give us our happy ending. It's that last part that causes some concern for me. I wonder how many women will believe that God will give them the happy ending they want. God's happy ending could look much different. Some women may not get a "happy" ending this side of heaven, just the peace of God to see them through their circumstances. How many women will relinquish control only to take it back again when it doesn't look like God is doing what they want?
Control Girl definitely has some practical examples and advice, but it's these two issues that stop me from rating it higher.
I received a complimentarycopy of this book fromKregel in return for an honest review.
Jocelyn Green, author of Faith DeployedCedar Falls, IAAge: 35-44Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Best in YearsFebruary 24, 2017Jocelyn Green, author of Faith DeployedCedar Falls, IAAge: 35-44Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5This is one of the best nonfiction books for women I've read in years. Shannon writes in a way that is totally engaging. The pages are packed with personality and biblical truth. I appreciate that the author directs readers to the Bible for daily readings, so we have a good foundation for the lesson we're about to receive. I've been a Christ-follower for decades, and I learned some new things in this book! I wish I could buy a copy for every woman I know, even those who don't consider themselves a "Control Girl." There is so much to be gained from this little book. I'll be reading it again, I'm sure!