Burned out? Professionals in ministry lead lives of great demands, high stress, and impossible expectations, often in trying and conflicting settings. Making themselves available to all, they lapse into codependent practices that further endanger their own lives and health. In this highly accessible book, clergy-counselor Fred Lehr traces the roots of burnout to clergy codependence. In twelve short and insightful chapters, Lehr identifies the typical forms that codependence takes. He shows how it figures in professional and personal burnout and provides helpful tools for self-assessment. Real strategies are offered to enable pastors and other professionals in ministry to regain balance, set boundaries, live with new purpose and self-respect, and root their lives anew in holiness and the gospel.
In this highly accessible book, Fred Lehr clarifies the nature and practice of clergy codependence. In short, insightful, and highly readable chapters, filled with many examples and stories from his own life and those he has counseled, Lehr identifies the typical forms codependence takes in the life and ministry of clergy: the chief-enabler, the one who keeps things functioning; the scapegoat, the one on whom everything's blamed when it goes wrong, the one who's responsible; the hero, the example, the pure and righteous one; the lost child, the one no one really knows or cares about; the rescuer, the one who saves the day, makes the visit, fixes the problem, makes everything all right again; the mascot, the cheerleader, the one who offers comic relief, brings down the tension level after a heated discussion.