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Bob Fife was raised in a dysfunctional home and, despite an early conversion to Christianity, had an uneasy youth. Nothing prepared Bob for being sexually molested by an older boy he trusted--or for what happened in his heart afterward.
From the confusion of his teen years, to his marriage and fatherhood, to his discovery and embrace of the Toronto gay scene, the path Bob took became increasingly isolating. He chose to leave his young family to follow his new lifestyle around the world. But an unexpected visit from his college-age son over a decade later caused Bob to confront the consequences of his choices--and find his way back to a restored relationship with the God who loves him.
Number of Pages: 224
Vendor: Kregel Publications
Publication Date: 2016
|Dimensions: 8.50 X 5.50 (inches)|
Mark5 Stars Out Of 5encouraging and interesting readNovember 25, 2016MarkQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5There are a lot more books around today about homosexuality from a Christian standpoint, than there were when I first started reading them. Since the issue is different in so many people, no book is alike, and not everyone's experiences are the same.
The author of this book led a very promiscuous sexual lifestyle, which is sadly not the exception to the rule for most gay men, but it is also not indicative of every gay male.
There are various theories on what causes and/or triggers same-sex attractions, and Bob Fife went through some of those things that many people believe help in that regard. He starts his story when he was a young boy, and takes it up to the present. He isn't graphic, but he is totally honest and open about what his life was like living as a gay male in the gay community.
It is an interesting read. As a guy who deals with the same issue, most of what I read wasn't new to me, yet it is always interesting to read another person's story and perspective. For anyone dealing with same-sex attractions on any level, this book offers hope that God can deliver and is sufficient. For people who do not deal with same-sex attractions, it is a fascinating look into the life of a man who lived for his sexual desires for years, yet was saved from it by a loving God.
I personally thought the book was written in a slightly disjointed style, but not so much that it was difficult to read. It was an easy, interesting, and very encouraging read that I highly recommend.
I was given a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
Melissa5 Stars Out Of 5So powerfulNovember 23, 2016MelissaQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Wow...this was a book I couldn't walk away from. Part of it was because of the life Bob was living and I had to see his way out and I wanted to get there quickly.
This book will offer so much hope to those who truly want to find away out of the gay lifestyle.
However, this book can offer hope to anyone who struggles with any type of sin. Things Bob said in this book are the same things I had to deal with in my own life in overcoming abuse and lust. It's interesting how really every sin is linked but can manifest itself in different ways.
Bob talks about the hole in his heart that he was trying to fill, about his thoughts following ruts and how he needed to make new paths. I just wanted to shout how I had to do that too even though I never had to deal with same-sex attraction I had to deal with lust for other men.
He does say up front that there will be parts that are difficult to read and it's true. As someone who was abused reading about his abuse really bothered me and reading about his choices in choosing sin bothered me as well. But I wanted to fully understand his story so I didn't skip a word.
I really believe anyone who deals with a sin that has them in chains can benefit from this book. So powerful is the work of God. He is good.
I think we also all need to cover Bob with prayer as the enemy hates that he wrote this book that speaks truth and is so timely as we are hearing so many lies and many Christians are even swallowing these lies. The enemy will try to attack Bob because of it this book. If you would just take a moment to pray from him I am sure it will have eternal effects.
A copy of this book was given to me by the publisher. All opinions are my own.
bookwomanjoanOak Harbor, WAAge: Over 65Gender: Female4 Stars Out Of 5Leaving the gay communityNovember 20, 2016bookwomanjoanOak Harbor, WAAge: Over 65Gender: FemaleQuality: 4Value: 5Meets Expectations: 4Fife was in the gay community for two decades and then came out. He tells his story here.
Fife had a troubled childhood. His mom had been tricked into marrying a man she did not love. He turned out to be a man who beat his wife and kids and seduced other women, leaving a wake of insecurity as he roared through the lives of his children. (26)
As a twelve year old, Fife was fondled by an older teen. Surprised but liking the feeling, he continued to experiment midst sexual confusion. He met a young woman at a Bible study and they eventually married. He continued to struggle with his feelings, finally seeking out a gay community. He lived a life obsessed with sex, losing his wife, son and job in the process.
Fife spends quite some time taking readers through his gay experiences. He connected with his son after nearly a decade. A decade after that Fife realized he needed to get out of the gay scene. He reconnected with God, got support from groups and individuals, and began changing his behavior. He explains how he reoriented his life from adoring sexual experience to worshiping God. He writes of the combination of being a new creation in Christ and the putting off of the old self.
I appreciate the insights and lessons Fife offers from his experience. I was particularly struck by his insight into parenting. In a conversation he had with his mother he voiced that he had not felt that his mother loved him. She had countered that of course she did and showed it by working hard to support the family. He said with insight that children do not understand that kind of evidence of love. They need hugs and cuddles. Another insight was regarding ministry to gays. The strategy needs to be getting the focus on Jesus and away from the sin.
Fife has looked back over his life and has seen how God can redeem all aspects of a person's life, even the very dark places. He feels his life is a testimony of God's unfailing love and grace. He does not expect this book to be a blueprint for others. He believes his life is merely an example of what can happen when God is invited in and lives are surrendered to Him.
I recommend this book to those who are interested in understanding the thoughts and desires of those drawn to the gay community. It is also good for those interested in helping community members desiring to leave. I did feel Fife spent too much time describing his life in the gay community. Other than that, it is a very useful book.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher. My comments are an independent and honest review.