The Caregiving Season: Finding Grace to Honor Your Aging ParentsJane Daly, Jim DalyFocus on the Family / 2016 / Trade Paperback$11.49 Retail:5 Stars Out Of 5 5 Reviews
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Jocelyn Green, author of Faith DeployedCedar Falls, IAAge: 35-44Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5An honest conversationDecember 28, 2016Jocelyn Green, author of Faith DeployedCedar Falls, IAAge: 35-44Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Reading this book was like sitting down for coffee with the author, Jane, who pours her heart into a meaningful conversation about the reality of caregiving for elderly parents. I loved her writing style, and the way she handled difficult topics with honesty, faith, and conviction. I'm not personally in the caregiving season yet, but when I get closer to it, I'll be reading this book all over again. I'm sure it will be a welcome companion as I navigate some unknown waters.
Vigariio5 Stars Out Of 5greatly appreciatedNovember 13, 2016VigariioQuality: 0Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5We bought this book for our sister who is the primary caregiver for our 94 year old mother. Upon reading it she stated, "It is as if this book was written just for me. It is extremely helpful."
David SanfordPortland, OregonAge: 45-54Gender: male5 Stars Out Of 5Generous doses of good humor & practical wisdomOctober 15, 2016David SanfordPortland, OregonAge: 45-54Gender: maleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Experience is the best teacher...especially other people's experiences! I have had the wonderful privilege of getting to know Jane and Mike Daly and then reading this book cover to cover in a single evening. Both provide generous doses of good humor and practical wisdom. I so appreciate learning from their realistic, grounded, and ultimately hope-filled experiences. You will too!
--David Sanford, general editor, Handbook on Thriving as an Adoptive Family
Bonnie5 Stars Out Of 5An excellent reference for those facing the challenge of caregiving!August 28, 2016BonnieQuality: 0Value: 0Meets Expectations: 0The Caregiving Season, Finding Grace to Honor Your Aging Parents by Jane Daly is a well written book that deals with a difficult subject. Ms. Daly's book provides insight and encouragement for those currently dealing with aging parents and also for those about to enter this season of their lives. Ms. Daly lives in California with her husband, Mike and helps to watch over her 92 year old mother on a daily basis.
I loved the way Ms. Daly wrote her book. She used personal experiences to help the reader understand the challenges of caring for an aging parent. As I read Ms. Daly's stories, I was impressed with her openness and honesty. Several of the incidents she described in caring for her aging Father before his death hit home for me as I'd experienced very similar challenges with my Father before went home to glory. As she talked about the trials she's faced with her aging Mother, I could relate to each one as I am also helping care for my invalid Mother.
The Caregiving Season is a wonderful guidebook that points the reader to Christ as each challenge comes along. There are helpful tips and advice as well as heart wrenching stories of personal trial. I wish I'd had this book before going through lung cancer with my Father. It would have given me great peace to know some of the feelings and challenges I faced were also faced by others. I am thankful to have the book now and will use it often in the days ahead as my Mother continues to decline. In the book, Ms. Daly spoke about the importance of setting boundaries while extending grace to our aging parent. I found this bit of information extremely helpful. Ms. Daly said, "When you're in the position of caring for your parent, it's easy to revert to being a child again, especially if your relationship was never healthy to begin with. It can be difficult to create a boundary as an adult if no boundaries previously existed." She also states, "We need to be flexible and be able to shift boundary lines as we adjust to the new reality." Ms. Daly gives 3 steps to setting boundaries. The first step is to pray about how to approach the parent. Enlisting the prayer support of a friend or pastor may be necessary. Step two is to learn to speak humbly and with grace. She encourages the caregiver to learn to speak using "I" statements instead of "You" statements such as "I feel sad when you say those things to me." The third step in creating boundaries is to be prepared for some pushback or resistance. She says you can't expect things to change instantly. Another area I found very helpful was Ms. Daly's advice on choosing our battles. She points the caregiver to Colossians 4:6 which says, "Let your conversation be always full of grace." She says that verse helped her understand that sometimes it's important to bit your tongue instead of "responding to a barb."
At the end of each chapter, Ms. Daly includes Grace Growers thoughts and questions. These helpful points provided a lot of insight regarding how God views the care of aging parents. A sample of some of the Grace Growers from chapter 9, The Line in the Sand:
Consider some of the parental boundaries you set with your children. Do you also need to set some boundaries with your aging loved ones for their good and yours?
Do you have a need to be "right" all the time? Think about how you can lay thath aside and focus on your parents' needs.
Mediate on Proverbs 16:24 and Galatians 5:22-23: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. Against such things there is no law." Focus on exercising self-control. Think about how your words can be sweet to your loved ones' ears. Remember, "A gentle answer turns away wrath." Proverbs 15:1
The Caregiving Season is filled with wisdom and would be a great addition to anyone's personal library. I think this book should be readily available to caregivers and should be provided by hospitals, nursing homes, and other facilities that promote elder care. I am going to personally recommend this book to anyone facing the challenge of caring for an aging parent or other relative.
I would like to thank Tyndale House Publishers for the opportunity to review this book. I was given a complimentary copy in exchange for my honest review and I was not encouraged to provide a positive review.
Jen PenMidwest5 Stars Out Of 5Caregiving with grace...August 24, 2016Jen PenMidwestQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5SUMMARY:
Ready or not, we all eventually grow old. As we age, more help is needed with even the simplest of acts. As a result, sometimes that help is characterized by resentment, bitterness or impatience. With people living longer these days than ever before, as well as the Baby Boomer generation reaching profound active ages, author Jane Daly shares her trials, triumphs, advice and encouragement in her new book, The Caregiving Season. Resolving to honor her parents (until they get on her last nerve), Jane Daly extends grace when perhaps it is needed most.
A PENNY FOR MY THOUGHTS:
Realizing being cared for can be as difficult as caregiving, in rather direct terms and in sometimes uncomfortable situations, this author shares what needs to be shared. Emphasizing grace for all, The Caregiving Season makes it easier to honor our parents through a difficult and changing time. With roles affected, authority questioned, delicate issues discussed and mourning perhaps close, this necessary reference uses personal stories, notable quotes, Bible scriptures and topic boxes to help with the caregiving transition. Guilt, sadness, laughter, challenges and love all combine into a purpose of honoring aging parents with grace. Excellent!
5 (out of 5) pennies
*I received a complimentary copy of The Caregiving Season from Tyndale House Publishers for my honest review*
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